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how long after being in a relationship. Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5480 posts
1st Jun '13

with a person, would you start to think about marriage/ want to get married/ push for marriage.

Scarlett.Harlot.Starlet. 3 kids; California 5100 posts
1st Jun '13

I'd say at least a year...

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
1st Jun '13

Well pushing for marriage is never good.



But personally, I think it all depends on the individuals. With DH we got engaged like 6 months after meeting each other online/4 months after meeting each other in person. We got married 2 months after he asked me to marry him.



For some people that right there would be a huge mistake to make. But we have been married for almost 5 years and incredibly happy.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
1st Jun '13

I start 'thinking' about marriage early. I don't stay in a relationship if I can't see myself ever getting married to that person. It really depends on each person.

Nimbin Natural ☮ 2 kids; Sydney, Australia 5041 posts
1st Jun '13

I think it was around the 5 year mark when I started to look and talk about rings/marriage. Got engaged after being together 6 years. Married a year later.

Little Bit's Momma Due October 21 (boy); 33 kids; North Richland Hills, Texas 7479 posts
1st Jun '13

Hmm we were together for like two months when my DH said we wanted to marry me haha. We got married after being together for a year. But in all fairness my parents were engaged after 3 months, married before the year mark ;)

draven 5 kids; Florida 724 posts
1st Jun '13

We were engaged at 2 months married at 5 months.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5480 posts
1st Jun '13

I've been with my SO, 5 years.. Actually longer then that (friends with benefits before then) We just celebrated are 5 year anniversary 2 days ago. I told him for the last 3 years I wanted to get married I know I want to marry him and that by 5 years I excepted him to really think about that. He kept talking about how for our 5 year anniversary we would go up to SF and stay in a fancy hotel and room the city like we use to. Well that didnt happen instead he just took me out running freaking earns all day it was awful. That night I asked him why he didnt want to marry me, and he said people who get married have are "head over heels inlove, that have that firey deep lost eachother love" And he has never felt that way about me. It broke my heart to hear him say that because I for one have felt all those things about him. I dont know what to do... I've felt so angry and resentful the last two days I dont know how to let it go.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
1st Jun '13

I think it depends on the couple. If you have to push for it though it means it's not right. For us it was a natural progression. We were together 2 1/2 years before we got engaged. We were both talking about possibly getting married long before that, and I knew he would propose sometime soon.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
1st Jun '13

We met online, talked for almost 2 years before I moved to Texas to be with him. Started talking about marriage around 6 months later. Got pregnant around a year after I moved. Got engaged when our son was 3 months old. Got married right after his first birthday.




Just celebrated our 2 year wedding anniversary and I'm pregnant with our second child :)

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5480 posts
1st Jun '13

Im seriously jealous of how easy some of these relationships sound..

Little Bit's Momma Due October 21 (boy); 33 kids; North Richland Hills, Texas 7479 posts
1st Jun '13
Quoting Smokey_Taboo:" Im seriously jealous of how easy some of these relationships sound.."


if it makes you feel any better....it has NOT always been easy. Lots of ups and down.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
1st Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Smokey_Taboo:</b>" Im seriously jealous of how easy some of these relationships sound.."</blockquote>




Honestly of all the couples that are in our families, we have the easiest and most stable relationship. So I'll tell you what I tell my sister in law. You aren't us, you wont have a relationship "like" anyone else's because you aren't them. If you don't like where your relationship is, change it. Whether that means talking or leaving. If you aren't happy, do something.




I'm not saying you should leave butvi think you should sit down and talk about where your future lies with each other and see if your goals and wants are still the same. Good luck!

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
1st Jun '13

Depends on how old I was tbh. If I was pushing 35 and wanting to have kids, maybe a year. But at the age I am at now, at least three.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5480 posts
1st Jun '13
Quoting Little Bit's Momma:" if it makes you feel any better....it has NOT always been easy. Lots of ups and down."


I know relationships are hard.. I just feel so unloved right now, why on earth doesnt he want to marry me? why would I keep living this life with him (that he says he wants it to be forever, but he doesnt want to marry me) that just make sense :(