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j0des(+2) 18 kids; Virginia 5095 posts
1st Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ღSheilaღ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... about this on here....but i feel i shouldn't be ashamed because my story may save another persons life. if that makes sense."</blockquote>




I think it makes perfect sense! Good for you! Its great for your recovery too..helping others. Congrats on your sobriety!

ღSheila Lynnღ 3 kids; Weed, California 47383 posts
1st Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:</b>" I knew we had one. It's in health and well being. http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about511952.html It's ... [snip!] ... was 3 days ago, so I don't think it's SUPER active, but you could see if anyone's subbed to it and maybe get support there?"</blockquote>




Ty very much for this link.

ღSheila Lynnღ 3 kids; Weed, California 47383 posts
1st Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting j0des(+2):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ღSheilaღ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... I think it makes perfect sense! Good for you! Its great for your recovery too..helping others. Congrats on your sobriety!"</blockquote>




They call it 'being of service'....i think that falls in that category lol. i have learned so much in this program.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15538 posts
1st Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ღSheilaღ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... about this on here....but i feel i shouldn't be ashamed because my story may save another persons life. if that makes sense."</blockquote>



Don't ever be ashamed of doing the right thing. You fucked up, yeah but you are doing what you need to do to fix it. Your right you may be able to help someone by sharing your story.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
2nd Jun '13

batshit crazy! he sounds like a waste of energy.

thisunrest India 10364 posts
3rd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:</b>" That's what I'm afraid of. I mean he really put me through hell. He did. And I just need for him to ... [snip!] ... of getting clean and STAYING clean. For good. And not dragging me down with him everytime he relapses. Like he did last time. "</blockquote>




He can't worry about making anything up to you right now....HE has to come first in his life. His sobriety has to be the first, last and only priority during early recovery.



Most sponcors will tell you to stay the fuck away from romantic relationships at this point because not only are they a great way to distract yourself from doing the work to rebuild your life, they can also trigger relapse in those first shaky months/years when they go bad. A newly recovering addict is in a very,very vulnerable position .



It's hard . Just take it slow and put his recovery and your own before your feelings for him. Get him to a meeting. A lot of people push " ninety meetings in ninety days," be it AA,NA,CA, whatever your poison. For good reason.



You can probably find someone there who's been in your position and can advise you on how best to proceed. Good luck.