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A&C +TWINS 4 kids; Nevada 6961 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Simply Mom ⚓:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pregnantteen16:</b>" This is the first time he makes good money ... [snip!] ... though he was while i was pregnant and we had been together 5 yrs. now its been 3 yrs since he has seen my son and my son is 5"</blockquote>



Same here.



I got pregnant at 17 and my parents pressured me into an abortion. They never liked him. He ended up joining the army to turn his life around, we got married and we planned another when I was 20. At 4 months pregnant it came out he had a drug problem and things went downhill. I had been with him 6 years and "knew" he'd be a good dad. He chose that life though and I was a single mom for almost 2 years. It was hard enough at 21, let alone 16. Just weigh your options like someone else said. You really never know how things will turn out.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11670 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Audra's mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Simply Mom ⚓:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... enough at 21, let alone 16. Just weigh your options like someone else said. You really never know how things will turn out."</blockquote>




How weird his bio dad is in the army now... But it did nothing but make him an even worse dad even after one deployment. He came back to cali from texas and surprised his mom and didnt have evn the decency tk come se our son

Jessica Marie* 1 child; Illinois 194 posts
2nd Jun '13

OP, I went through this 2 years ago when I was 18. I had just had a conversation with my parents literally 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant about them telling me to make sure and have safe sex.



When I found out I was scared, we talked with BD's family first, and they were a lot calmer than my family was, but plain and simple, you need to do it ASAP. Like everyone said, you need to get straight to the point. Tell them you are pregnant, and they probably will be upset, after all you are their daughter. But after you guys talk it out and it sinks in, it will be much better for you to have them there for you.



As for the baby, coming from a person who had a baby at 19, I would consider all of your options. Just because your BF if saying he will be there now, does not mean that he will be there when the baby is born or throughout its life. I dont want to sound discouraging because some people might step up, but it is normally how things happen.



Good luck!

A&C +TWINS 4 kids; Nevada 6961 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Simply Mom ⚓:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Audra's mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Simply ... [snip!] ... after one deployment. He came back to cali from texas and surprised his mom and didnt have evn the decency tk come se our son"</blockquote>




Yea her dad never even made it to his first deployment. He got discharged and landed himself in prison. It's crazy how things work out. But my fianc

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11670 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Audra's mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Simply Mom ⚓:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... But my fianc

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Pregnantteen16:" This is the first time he makes good money he promises to be there for me and the baby I know he'll be a good dad."


Unfortunately, you can't really trust that he will be there. Guys have the lovely ability of making promises and not keeping them, especially when it comes to having kids. Although his support would be nice, I would not make your decisions solely based on him. Break the news to your parents as up front and honestly as you can.

Pregnantteen16 Due January 16; Japan 5 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Audra's mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Simply Mom ⚓:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... enough at 21, let alone 16. Just weigh your options like someone else said. You really never know how things will turn out."</blockquote>




Umm idk how to say this but I've been looking at posts of you guys and no he's not like this he's really serious about having this baby. Also I'm prolife. I'm a libertarian so I believe every living human being has a right to live and die on their own terms. If my baby doesn't like the life I have to offer he or she has choices he can consider. I just feel well like abortion is like murder IMO. I don't think it's fair to let my kid not have a say in whether he/she wants to live or die. I'm very sorry your parents did that to you. That's kind of what I don't want with my parents. For them take that outlook because I'm not going to budge on this.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11670 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Pregnantteen16:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Audra's mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Simply ... [snip!] ... your parents did that to you. That's kind of what I don't want with my parents. For them take that outlook because I'm not"


there still is adoption. By the time your child has a choice they would be way too old to have had better so IMO I would look into that avenue as well as parenting. But if you have no way of finishing school or working I would hate to see another young woman's future be ruined.

~ Island ~ Phoenix ~ 2 kids; Brisbane, Australia 192 posts
2nd Jun '13

Don't beat around the bush or put it off longer than necessary - the added stress isn't worth it. I'm 28 and was terrified of telling my Dad, but broke it to him over Christmas that at that time the only present I could offer was a new grandchild in the coming year. Good luck.

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
2nd Jun '13

Rip it off like a bandaid.



Just do it. The longer you wait the worse it'll be.

Pregnantteen16 Due January 16; Japan 5 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Simply Mom ⚓:</b>" there still is adoption. By the time your child has a choice they would be way too old to have had ... [snip!] ... as parenting. But if you have no way of finishing school or working I would hate to see another young woman's future be ruined."</blockquote>




My bf doesn't want an adoption. We both agree on parenting.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11670 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Pregnantteen16:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Simply Mom ⚓:</b>" there still is adoption. By the time ... [snip!] ... see another young woman's future be ruined."</blockquote> My bf doesn't want an adoption. We both agree on parenting."</blockquote>




And how are you going to support a baby??

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Simply Mom ⚓:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pregnantteen16:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Simply ... [snip!] ... My bf doesn't want an adoption. We both agree on parenting."</blockquote> And how are you going to support a baby??"


i hate when girls get asked this question. They figure it out and do it! Its hard but they do it, getting asked and how do you plan to support this baby and stay in school and blah blah blah is like the most annoying thing EVER, plenty of girls do it! And plenty of them do it with no help from anyone other then there baby's dad.



I mean jesus is she suppose to have a plan all wrote out already?

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brantley + 1:</b>" i hate when girls get asked this question. ... [snip!] ... her parents are probably going to ask the same question, having some kind of plan written out isn't such a bad idea."


yeah but if your not her parent i really dont see how anyone can really expect her to answer. She's already freaking out. And after her parents are done freaking out that is for her and her parents to discuss.

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brantley + 1:</b>" yeah but if your not her parent i really ... [snip!] ... about it. Having a baby is hard work. She needs to think of these things sooner rather than later, while she still has options."


She's already said they want to keep the baby so i think shes made her decision, and i agree she needs to think about things but i mean, it was a little harsh (and maybe its just the way it sounds in my head) to say and how do you plan to support this baby?



I'm probably over reacting to it, idk it just got under my skin a little bit because i dont think its really anyone but her parents place to ask that.