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Kids calling your new partner Mom or Dad richelle@ Edmonton, Alberta 56 posts
2nd Jun '13

Is it right for someone entering a relationship where the other person already has children to be call Mom or Dad either by the kids or new partner?



I understand its nice that they are interested, but should the title be reserved for their blood relatives.

user banned Nassau, BA, Bahamas 5125 posts
2nd Jun '13

I guess it depends...my son calls my SO daddy and my daughter calls him by his name. It depends on the kids, their situation, and how the adults feel.

*4 boys and me* Due November 22; 2 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 4769 posts
2nd Jun '13

I think the child should decide when/if to call a new gf/bf of a parent mom or dad. My stepmom raised me all my life but I call her by her name, as I was young and stupid and now it's just kind of a habit. But she's definitely my mom too. My little brother calls my mom's fiance dad (They've been together for like 10 years, my brother is only 12), he asked him if he could be his dad one day when he was like, 5

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
2nd Jun '13

When i had step kids, the little girl who was 6 called me mommy a few times. I told her that it meant a lot to me and we'd have a special relationship, but she had a mommy already. I let her pick out her own nickname for me and that was that.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
2nd Jun '13

I don't think a child should be calling anyone you're in a NEW relationship with, mom or dad. It's unfair to them & will only leave them confused if the relationship doesn't last.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11712 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Now and Forever:</b>" I don't think a child should be calling anyone you're in a NEW relationship with, mom or dad. It's unfair to them & will only leave them confused if the relationship doesn't last. "</blockquote>




THIS!!



OP
My DH came into my life when my son was one and his bio dad has never been around really and now hasnt seen him for three years.... About a year into the relationship my son started saying daddy... I got engaged to him a month after datig but here we are 2 yrs married 4 all together years and my son only knows him as dad. Depends on the person... And a talk together about future needs to be had as well as a length of time.
Being that my son started calling him that I made sure to sit him down and explain to him that his bio dad was patrick and that this man was my fiance which meant he would be step dad and if he still wanted to call him daddy it was ok as long as he was comfortable.

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
2nd Jun '13

When I first met DH, my kids called him by his name. Gradually they began calling him "Daddy ........". Now they just call him Daddy. I didn't push them to call him anything. I let them decide. It's always been that way. I don't think you should EVER force a kid to call a step parent Mom or Dad, if they don't want to. It just confuses them.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
2nd Jun '13

IF My husband and I ever got a divorce and he remarried, I'd forbid my kids calling their step mother anything other than her first name. Its extremely disrespectful to the parent for the children to call another person by mom or dad.

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Devil Duckie:" IF My husband and I ever got a divorce and he remarried, I'd forbid my kids calling their step mother ... [snip!] ... other than her first name. Its extremely disrespectful to the parent for the children to call another person by mom or dad. "


Forbid it? Really?

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Allissa Specht:" Forbid it? Really?"


yep! my kids, my rules. If I caught them calling her "mom" there would be hell to pay on all levels. Theirs, his and the wench.

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Devil Duckie:" yep! my kids, my rules. If I caught them calling her "mom" there would be hell to pay on all levels. Theirs, his and the wench. "



All I will say is wow. :roll:

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Allissa Specht:</b>" All I will say is wow. :roll:"</blockquote>




Right?

JΔS Georgia 74551 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" yep! my kids, my rules. If I caught them calling her "mom" there would be hell to pay on all levels. Theirs, his and the wench. "</blockquote>



And what if that backfired and your children's relationship with you suffered because you're too busy being jealous and bitter?

Party of 6 4 kids; Nevada 7280 posts
2nd Jun '13

My daughter calls my fianc

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" yep! my kids, my rules. If I caught them ... [snip!] ... And what if that backfired and your children's relationship with you suffered because you're too busy being jealous and bitter?"</blockquote>



Why is the new chick a "wench" Just from being in a relationship with the ex anyways? She's already bitter and it hasn't even happened yet.