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Termination of parental rights? Evie's Momma 1 child; DIANA, Texas 5 posts
2nd Jun '13

I am a single mother, my daughter will be two in July, and her dad has been in and out of her life since she was born. He only chooses to be around when its convenient for him. He is young and thinks more about having a girlfriend and sex than his daughter and I'm pretty much tired of it. I live in Texas, and he lives in Arkansas, I'd like to possibly find a way to have his parental rights terminated? He does not see her anymore, doesn't call, has me and my entire family blocked on facebook, he does not pay child support. The only time he would ever see her before was if I made the effort to bring her to him. So I just want this all to be done. Any advice?

**milfshake** London, United Kingdom 31502 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Evie's Momma:" I am a single mother, my daughter will be two in July, and her dad has been in and out of her life since ... [snip!] ... time he would ever see her before was if I made the effort to bring her to him. So I just want this all to be done. Any advice?"


You should probably get an attorney.



http://law.onecle.com/texas/family/161.001.00.html

orchidlovingmama 2 kids; Santa Rosa, California 1769 posts
2nd Jun '13

Have you tried to get child support from him? If there is a court order to pay child support and he hasn't been paying it then that would be a start. I don't think you can just terminate his parental rights but I'm pretty sure you can apply for sole custody and request he gets no visitation rights but you would need some proof like a year or without paying child support, or any other proof you have.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10877 posts
2nd Jun '13

Most states won't allow parents to terminate their rights unless you're married and your spouse is willing to adopt the child.


Personally, I feel you should get in touch with Child Support Enforcement - they'll go after her father for the child support. She deserves it.

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22058 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting loser mom:" Most states won't allow parents to terminate their rights unless you're married and your spouse is willing ... [snip!] ... you should get in touch with Child Support Enforcement - they'll go after her father for the child support. She deserves it."


This!



Especially if you are or have ever received any financial assistance from the state (I don't know if you have) or unless you can show that you can support the child on your own (ie make a lot of money). Or if he is convicted of a child related criminal offense (child abuse, molestation)



I'd apply for sole legal and physical custody and child support through your court.

[Boats&Hoes] 2 kids; Youngstown, Ohio 62966 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting orchidlovingmama:" Have you tried to get child support from him? If there is a court order to pay child support and he hasn't ... [snip!] ... no visitation rights but you would need some proof like a year or without paying child support, or any other proof you have."


Yeah, I don't think his rights can get terminated. You can move to get full physical custody, and maybe even legal. But from terminating his rights, that would let him off the hook for any child support he may owe now and in the future, and I don't think the state would want to do that. I agree that you should get a lawyer, they'll be able to explain everything to you, and will know the best course of action to take.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
2nd Jun '13

I know here it is possible without the mother being married, but if you are married it makes the case that much stronger.
I had initially planned on seeking an attorney this summer, I mean I may just to have the initial free consult and get in touch with someone. But I am sure they will just tell me to wait until next Summer after we are married.



In some states it is after you are married for a year.



If you are receiving any public assistance I wouldn't even check in to it. But I would guess that you are not since you don't have child support.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27055 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting loser mom:" Most states won't allow parents to terminate their rights unless you're married and your spouse is willing ... [snip!] ... you should get in touch with Child Support Enforcement - they'll go after her father for the child support. She deserves it."


This.



I cant terminate without being married which is BULLSHIT. Most states are like that. However, I dont think child support should always be enforced... I dont get it nor want it. I wouldn't go after it if you dont need it.

ecotime47 1 child; Colorado 16 posts
3rd Jun '13

I understand where you're coming from in wanting to terminate his rights. Just don't forget he is your daughter's father. Its sad that he doesn't want to be more involved but don't focus on punishing him for his irresponsibility and inadvertently punish your daughter. You never know, one day he may come around. In the meantime, get the child support he owes you and your daughter!

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting ecotime47:" I understand where you're coming from in wanting to terminate his rights. Just don't forget he is your ... [snip!] ... daughter. You never know, one day he may come around. In the meantime, get the child support he owes you and your daughter!"

That is more damaging. No one should wait for a man to come around and decide to be a father, he does not deserve to be one at that point.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27055 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting [JadeLee]:" That is more damaging. No one should wait for a man to come around and decide to be a father, he does not deserve to be one at that point."


This. Seriously.



My ex hasnt been around in 8 1/2 years. Should I jump up and down if he came around and say "Oh boy, you finally came around, come into this family now!"




f**k NO. That is so much more damaging. It's better to have no mother/father than a fucked up, half absent one that comes around when they decide its convenient. The "don't forget he's your daughter's father." No. Dudes like that are sperm donors. It will NOT punish a child to make sure that a halfass parent stays away. Heck, that's not even a halfass parent. That's a dude that came around probably to impress a girl or decided its convenient for the time being... that's not a parent in any form. It's a sperm donor. And sperm donors dont deserve any kind of interaction with the lovely kids they created.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" This. Seriously. My ex hasnt been around in 8 1/2 years. Should I jump up and down if he came around ... [snip!] ... in any form. It's a sperm donor. And sperm donors dont deserve any kind of interaction with the lovely kids they created."

Agreed! It has been 18 months since BD decided that drugs and pills were more important than his daughter.
She has a dad, who cares about her more than that POS ever did and he has only known her for two years, and is disappointed that he didn't know her sooner. He does not deserve to be able to know DD, she is and always has been the most important person in my life since the day she was born, I couldn't imagine thinking otherwise.