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Omg he's freaking out Eva Marie's Mama 1 child; Albany, New York 728 posts
2nd Jun '13

Ok so my boyfriend is sick with a cold and he is like freaking out because he doesn't want DD to get sick (obviously) but he's like, I shouldn't have come over to take care of her, I should've stayed home and he's telling me I'm selfish for asking for help and it'll be my fault if she gets sick. And he's saying that his dad is yelling at him for being here and is telling him that DD could die if she gets sick. I'm like you have a cold! DD got a little cold right after he did and is just getting over it, so I'm thinking that its from him and he is still spazing out. I'm like, what would you do if we lived together and had no family around to take her if we were sick.... Because I'm starting to feel like I'm getting a cold now but I can't not take care of her. Ugh

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
2nd Jun '13

The best thing he can do is wash his hands. Parents still have to take care of children when they are sick.

Eva Marie's Mama 1 child; Albany, New York 728 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting [JadeLee]:</b>" The best thing he can do is wash his hands. Parents still have to take care of children when they are sick."</blockquote>




Exactly but his dad is yelling at him for being here to care for her

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting No Buono:" <blockquote><b>Quoting [JadeLee]:</b>" The best thing he can do is wash his hands. ... [snip!] ... of children when they are sick."</blockquote> Exactly but his dad is yelling at him for being here to care for her"

Unless she has a compromised immune system she should be fine.

Baby #2 where are you :( TTC since Jun 2010; 1 child; Charlotte, North Carolina 4616 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting No Buono:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting [JadeLee]:</b>" The best thing he can do is wash his hands. ... [snip!] ... of children when they are sick."</blockquote> Exactly but his dad is yelling at him for being here to care for her"</blockquote>



How old is he?



He has a child that he helped create so he needs to help you. End of f**king story. He needs to suck it up and help you.

Eva Marie's Mama 1 child; Albany, New York 728 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Baby #2 where are you :(:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting No Buono:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting [JadeLee]:</b>" ... [snip!] ... he? He has a child that he helped create so he needs to help you. End of f**king story. He needs to suck it up and help you."</blockquote>




She is 4 months, and I feel like he's using it as an excuse but if I say that then he says I'm selfish and just want him to take care of her so I can sit around and do nothing....I'm like wtf are you talking about!? He's so weird and is dad is all angry and told him she can get pneumonia if she gets it and possibly die. So he listens to him and is freaking out on me trying to make me feel bad for having him here to help me.

Eva Marie's Mama 1 child; Albany, New York 728 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Baby #2 where are you :(:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting No Buono:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting [JadeLee]:</b>" ... [snip!] ... he? He has a child that he helped create so he needs to help you. End of f**king story. He needs to suck it up and help you."</blockquote>



Oh you mean how old he is? My boyfriend is 25

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10372 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting No Buono:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Baby #2 where are you :(:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... it and possibly die. So he listens to him and is freaking out on me trying to make me feel bad for having him here to help me."



His dad needs to stay the hell out of it.

I agree with everyone else.... he needs to suck it up and help take care of his kid, sick or not.

Eva Marie's Mama 1 child; Albany, New York 728 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" His dad needs to stay the hell out of it. I agree with everyone else.... he needs to suck it up and help take care of his kid, sick or not."</blockquote>




I know his dad is always in our business I cannot stand him, he's like psychotic too and I refuse to be around him. But thank you that is what I keep trying to tell him and he just says that I don't care if DD gets sick.... Im so annoyed

Pinky Pie ♥ 2 kids; Kingston, ON, Canada 4058 posts
2nd Jun '13

OMG, he's an adult and can make his own choices. Yes, she could get sick, but that's what happens in a family, usually every one will get it. Big deal. My LO has a slightly compromised immune system but you know what, If I am sick, I suck it up and take care of her and my oldest anyway. I just keep an extra close eye on her to make sure no fever happens cause if one does, off to the hospital I go!



But I don't pawn her off on someone else just cause I'm sick. Wash your hands all the time an they're going to be fine.

Eva Marie's Mama 1 child; Albany, New York 728 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Katie {S+S+Z= ♥}:</b>" OMG, he's an adult and can make his own choices. Yes, she could get sick, but that's what happens in ... [snip!] ... I go! But I don't pawn her off on someone else just cause I'm sick. Wash your hands all the time an they're going to be fine."</blockquote>




Yup, but I'm the bad guy bc I don't care apparently. Ad he doesn't even have a fever, he says he was coughing up phlegm that's why she's going to get pneumonia if she gets it.... But she has a dr appt tomorrow and I'm going to tell the doctor how he's freaking out and he better not tell me he shouldn't go with me to her appt bc he's sick

Phf- ee bee;) Due January 26 (girl); 18 kids; Pennsylvania 5310 posts
2nd Jun '13

Really thought you were gonna say your BF was like 18..... Not 25!!! He sure isn't acting like an adult. He needs to get off the nip (that's what I would say if it was his mom being over controlling) Why don't y'all live together? He needs to GROW UP!

Baby #2 where are you :( TTC since Jun 2010; 1 child; Charlotte, North Carolina 4616 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Phf- ee bee;):</b>" Really thought you were gonna say your BF was like 18..... Not 25!!! He sure isn't acting like an adult. ... [snip!] ... nip (that's what I would say if it was his mom being over controlling) Why don't y'all live together? He needs to GROW UP!"</blockquote>



I thought he was like 15 or 16. Not to sound bitchy but he needs to grow a pair and tell his father that he has a family now that he needs to man up and be there for sick or not. mommys dont get sick days....EVER.



Kudos to you for taking it so well. I'm 25 as well and most certainly don't act like that.

Eva Marie's Mama 1 child; Albany, New York 728 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Phf- ee bee;):</b>" Really thought you were gonna say your BF was like 18..... Not 25!!! He sure isn't acting like an adult. ... [snip!] ... nip (that's what I would say if it was his mom being over controlling) Why don't y'all live together? He needs to GROW UP!"</blockquote>




We did live together were renting a house from my parents but my dad decided a month before I had my baby that he was going to sell it and gave us a weeks notice, so now I'm home and instead of us going to rent again were using this time to save up for a house.
And you're right he isn't acting like an adult, he rarely does but he's the one always telling me to grow up when I'm the one taking on most responsibility when it comes to caring for our daughter

Eva Marie's Mama 1 child; Albany, New York 728 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Baby #2 where are you :(:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Phf- ee bee;):</b>" Really thought you were gonna say your BF ... [snip!] ... mommys dont get sick days....EVER. Kudos to you for taking it so well. I'm 25 as well and most certainly don't act like that."</blockquote>




I tell him this all the time, and I don't know that I'm taking it well lol I'm arguing with him about this and trying to tell him that he's being stupid, but once his dad puts something in his head, there's no arguing bc he thinks his dad knows everything because he's a physicians assistant. But this man is crazy like, really. He orders his son around like his own slave and gets mad at him for always being here to help me with our daughter instead of spending time with him. SO was gone all day yesterday bc his annoying father made him go do errands for pool stuff and then had him cleaning and getting it ready. Whenever he spends time with his family, his dad complains. That is why I refuse to see this man, because I'm afraid of what I'll end up saying to him and just looking at him annoys the shit out of me. And he told SO we should live there with him, I'm like no bc his house is disgusting he never cleans its so dusty and dirty AND he smokes in the house! Like wtf!