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"Daddy" how soon is too soon?? Oya. 81 kids; Hollywood, Florida 25195 posts
2nd Jun '13

Ok i admit me and my SO have moved pretty quickly. But it never concerned me until today. V and i have been together since February. He's the sweetest, most stubborn, cutest and most loving man ive ever been with. From the start my son took to him, and they got close pretty quick. My soon is almost 5, &i make it a point to let him choose things for himself. Soooo....



He always calls my boyfriend uncle Vardo. Which he decided himself, n that's what i used to call my step Dad.



Today he called my boyfriend Daddy. I like to died!!!!! He doesn't knowhis Dad at all, idk if i should correct him or not??

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
2nd Jun '13

Correct him. 5 months is too soon for him to be getting that attached to someone.

Oya. 81 kids; Hollywood, Florida 25195 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" Correct him. 5 months is too soon for him to be getting that attached to someone. "</blockquote>




That's what i think as well. Me and SO are planning on moving in together in August but this makes me wonder. I have faith in us, but I'm scared for my kid lol he would take a break up harder than i would

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" Correct him. 5 months is too soon for him ... [snip!] ... August but this makes me wonder. I have faith in us, but I'm scared for my kid lol he would take a break up harder than i would"


I wouldn't be hasty about it when you correct him. Just keep referring to your SO as Uncle Vardo if that is what he knows him as. LO is probably just testing the word.

Mom of 4 Little Boys! 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Hillsboro, Oregon 4726 posts
2nd Jun '13

If I was in that situation I would not let my kids call my SO daddy until AFTER we were married but thats just me. I mean, how do you know if you are going to break up or not? Especially after only dating for a few months.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4230 posts
status 2nd Jun '13
Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" Correct him. 5 months is too soon for him ... [snip!] ... August but this makes me wonder. I have faith in us, but I'm scared for my kid lol he would take a break up harder than i would"


Yeah I would totally correct him if I were you. He is old enough to remember things and it can affect him greatly if things go bad. My DS was calling my ex daddy within a few days of meeting him but he was only 2 then and doesn't even remember him anymore but back then I still corrected him since he does know who his dad is and BD would've been very upset about it.

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
2nd Jun '13

When DD started calling DH daddy I didn't correct her but I kept calling him Anthony for a couple of weeks. She kept at it, and I call him daddy to her now, but she's 2 and while we moved fast, we were married.

Oya. 81 kids; Hollywood, Florida 25195 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I wouldn't be hasty about it when you correct him. Just keep referring to your SO as Uncle Vardo if that is what he knows him as. LO is probably just testing the word. "</blockquote>




Thats probably tru ... He calls his grampa Dad sometimes bcuz my bro and sis do. This is the first time he ever called a man that

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22052 posts
2nd Jun '13

I would correct him and keep correcting him until it stuck. I personally would never allow my child to call someone "dad" unless they had legally adopted them.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
2nd Jun '13

Yes you need to correct him. It's way too soon. I started dating my youngest's dad when my first was almost 5 and they got close too and i thought it was fine....i was pregnant and we were talking marriage and then he got cold feet and bailed. It crushed my d daughter and she didn't even call him dad. Slow down and protect your son.



I won't let a guy meet my daughters again until we've been dating for at least 6 months and won't let him assume any kind of daddy role until a year after that.

meggg+J,B&L♥ 3 kids; Nasinu, Fiji 16901 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" Correct him. 5 months is too soon for him to be getting that attached to someone. "</blockquote>



This. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and my son doesn't know his bio dad and still hasn't called him daddy all the time. It slips occasionally which we both don't mind but 5 months IMO isn't long enough.

Sugar Plum♡ 1 child; San Jose, California 1725 posts
2nd Jun '13

have you talked to V about this situation?
have you asked him how he felt about your DS about calling him dad?
if V is fine with it, then go ahead and let it be.
if he is uncomfortable with it then let DS know he is UNCLE V instead.



not too much of a big deal, just my opinion.

Oya. 81 kids; Hollywood, Florida 25195 posts
2nd Jun '13

I was cooking so i didn't see the replies




I mentioned it to my SO i asked him if he heard what DS said n he didn't think it was a huge deal. He said, he's still young and he doesn't understand how big of a word that is yet. But he doesn't mind and told he not to bother my son about it unless he keeps doing it and it made me uncomfortable.




I'm not sure if I'm uncomfortable with it just yet, but i want my son to know he doesn't have to call anyone daddy if he doesn't want to

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36500 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" I was cooking so i didn't see the replies I mentioned it to my SO i asked him if he heard what DS said ... [snip!] ... if I'm uncomfortable with it just yet, but i want my son to know he doesn't have to call anyone daddy if he doesn't want to"


IMO at 5 they know who mom and / or dad is... I would correct him. I wouldnt want him to be attached and then something happen.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45938 posts
status 2nd Jun '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" IMO at 5 they know who mom and / or dad is... I would correct him. I wouldnt want him to be attached and then something happen. "


I agree with this.