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Oya. 81 kids; Hollywood, Florida 25195 posts
2nd Jun '13

Fml. This isn't a phase, he kept doing it through out the day even in front of my mom. My mom won't let me day anything to him or tell hon to stop!

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46500 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" Fml. This isn't a phase, he kept doing it through out the day even in front of my mom. My mom won't let me day anything to him or tell hon to stop!"


Your mom isn't in charge of this situation, you are.



Put your foot down.



A child can have father figures in their lives without calling them "Daddy".

Oya. 81 kids; Hollywood, Florida 25195 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Your mom isn't in charge of this situation, you are. Put your foot down. A child can have father figures in their lives without calling them "Daddy"."</blockquote>




Well i know that she isnt, but she's been in the same situation when i was his age. I don't mind him calling my boyfriend daddy in the long run because i don't plan on leaving him or anything. I just feel like i was blond sided.... Him n my son relationship is getting more serious now n i have no control over it.on top of that.. How do u know for sure that this guy is the one n went b leaving??... I don't but i don't want to ruin my sons bonding with him

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22168 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" IMO at 5 they know who mom and / or dad is... I would correct him. I wouldnt want him to be attached and then something happen. "


This exactly and is the reason that I wouldn't allow it unless the man had gone through the adoptive process, even if you are married to someone they can just up and leave and that would impact a child greatly. If they are adopted by the man it would be more difficult (at least by a legal standpoint) for the man to walk away from the child and in my eyes the fact that he has adopted the child shows that he is serious about being a father to the child.

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22168 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Beanie's Breeder:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Your mom isn't in charge of this situation, ... [snip!] ... How do u know for sure that this guy is the one n went b leaving??... I don't but i don't want to ruin my sons bonding with him"



he can bond w/o calling him "daddy"

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46500 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:" he can bond w/o calling him "daddy""


Absolutely! I grew up without a father and a ton of amazing father figures....none of whom I called "daddy".

Two Princesses 2 kids; Long Beach, CA, United States 7203 posts
2nd Jun '13

My fiance and I also moved quickly. We've been together for over a year and my 2 1/2 year old doesn't call him daddy. She did try at first, but was corrected every time.
She knows who her dad is and he would be very upset if he felt he was being replaced in her life. and back when she started doing it I really wasn't sure if SO and I would remain together in the long run.
My fiance and I have a great relationship and a 4 week old daughter together, but I don't see myself not correcting my older daughter until she is really old enough to make that decision. When she's old enough and if she wants to call both her bio dad and my SO dad, that will be fine with us.

roflcopterrr Arkansas 478 posts
3rd Jun '13

DS called my ex "daddy" very, very early on, he had just turned one and had never called anyone that before. We all corrected him but it went on for almost a year. Granted, my ex still is a huge part of DS' life, he now calls him by his name.
BD has been in and out of his life at his convenience until right before my ex and I started dating - guess he thought it was someone to take his responsibility. :roll:
I've been married for almost five months now, and DS doesn't call DH "daddy"... and I doubt that'll change once baby gets here.

Tarra♥ Due December 18 (boy); 4 angel babies; Roseburg, Oregon 23951 posts
3rd Jun '13

Do what feels right to you for your son. Every situation is different. Sometimes just correcting him could make it worse, and more confusing. He is 5, sit down and talk to him. Ask him why he is calling him daddy now, and not the other name. Children are pretty dang smart at 5.



We run into this with my boyfriend's son. (but the situation is a little different) He calls his mom's boyfriend dad. But he hears his brother do it, so he mimics what his brother does. We talk to him about it, and explain how special the word "mom" and "dad" are. Now when he says "Dad" referring to the boyfriend, I just say "you mean *boyfriends name*", and then move on. So if you do correct him, don't dwell on it, and don't get frustrated.




I don't agree someone needs to legally adopt a child for them to call them "dad" or "mom". My dad was in my life since I was 7, my real father doesn't have anything to do with me. Adopting a child does not make it any harder for them to walk away. If a biological parent, walks away, and adoptive parent could also.




In the end, whatever you choose to do will be what is right for you and your son. Good luck. :)

Oya. 81 kids; Hollywood, Florida 25195 posts
3rd Jun '13

I understand where every one is coming from. I might have forgotten to mention his bio dad ain't seen him aside he was 2 and he never called his bio dad daddy nor did we encourage it. For right now, i spoke to Dominic n told him that was not his dad to which he replied "but he acts like it!!"i couldn't argue much lol. I'll correct him every once in a while but at the end of it all, I've got a good feeling. I don't think it will scar him, i plan on marrying this man...yes in 5 months lol. I think it works for our family right now, but if i think it's getting to serious then I'll correct him more. At the end of the day, i can't stop what comes out his mouth