Friends who cheat Dean Winchester 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Alaska 16780 posts
Jun 2nd '13

If you had a friend who cheated which caused a seperation in theirarriage would you still be friends with them? Say they arent life long friends but friends.

Would you be friends with them and their new SO? Even while they are still married?

And for the religious ones, would you occumpany them to church? Knowing they never went to church prior? And they are both still marries, and freshly separated.. Like within the last 4/6 weeks.

Debate and discuss please :)

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
Jun 2nd '13

Yes I'd be their friend and support them and be around their new spouse. As for church... A sins a sin right?

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
Jun 2nd '13

Yes I still would be their friend. I'm not the moral police. As long as I am not required to lie/ be involved in any way then their marriage is none of my business. Now as for the religious thing, I wouldn't go with anyone to church. Just not my scene in general...

http://www.accountkiller. Minnesota 34665 posts
Jun 2nd '13

we have a really good friend who's cheating ended his marriage. We're still friends with him, just

Adriana's Mami♥ +1 Due December 14 (boy); 33 kids; Ontario 3858 posts
Jun 2nd '13

Yes I'd still be friends with them. They didn't cheat on me lol.

Dr. Angelface 2 kids; California 8236 posts
Jun 2nd '13

i'm not sure i understand your distinction between life long friend and friends.
it sounds like you are saying they are not really a good friend.

either way, i don't see how their business in their marriage would affect our friendship. unless, of course, their spouse was more a friend than they were. then it might be awkward.

orlons momma 18 kids; Sewell, 1774 posts
Jun 2nd '13

Umm no no and no. I have had a friend who cheated and I told them if they didn't tell I would tell and I seriously meant it. I was cheated on and its horrible when it happens but a million times worst when everyone knows but you. I felt like a joke like everyone thought I was stupid. How could I not have known when everyone knew. It was horrible. I would completely cut ties with a cheater I just think it's very selfish and I don't need to be around people like that. They say you are the company you keep and so I would not keep that company.

JΔ$ 2 kids; Georgia 85477 posts
status Jun 2nd '13


1. People make mistakes. We are humans.
2. It's not my business and I would never judge a friend. Ever.

IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M) 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 4754 posts
Jun 2nd '13

Why would it matter? People make mistakes. The best question to ask yourself is if I was in the same situation how would I want my friends to treat me.

JΔ$ 2 kids; Georgia 85477 posts
status Jun 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M):</b>" Why would it matter? People make mistakes. The best question to ask yourself is if I was in the same situation how would I want my friends to treat me."</blockquote>

Excellent point.

cn&i♥ 2 kids; Indiana 1019 posts
Jun 2nd '13

One of my good friends is always cheating on her boyfriend. Do I give her my thoughts and opinions? Yes. Does she listen and agree? Yes. Does she stop? No. But she's a great friend to me.. I'm not going to stop talking to her because of her other life decisions. I think a true friend is always there for support.

Dean Winchester 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Alaska 16780 posts
Jun 2nd '13

good points.

here is a mini back story on why im lost on to be upset or not.

my husband and i are military. we met another couple when we got stationed there. he worked with him and i became almost best friends with the wife. they had been together for 10 years. and he had cheated on her in the past. well for some reason he kept claming his wife was cheating.. when she wasnt. so my husband would tell me how trashy my friend was because she was supposively cheating. but come to find out it was really his friend who was cheating. which it had never been this severe (or this much of a relationship vs just sex... or maybe my friend was just finally fed up) well fast forward a lil while... i end up driving with her and their son from ak to tx (where we both are from) because they are seperating.
well i know my husband is still going to be friends with the husband and i dont blame him. im still his friend also, he never did anything to me. however i dont trust him or as close as we used to be. but im still great friends with the wife. well my husband tells me he went to church today. which is awesome. i had been asking to go when i was still in ak (im in tx for a mini vacation now because i wasnt driving 8 days for nothing lol) and he wouldnt go. so i was curious as to who he went with, and he went with the husband and his new gf.. which kind of upset me. because he wouldnt go with me, he had been cheated on before so you would think he would think diff about being around the girl, and just knowing im friends with his wife.
and i know the husband isnt a great unfluence either... he apparently posted a picture of another girls ass from the bar on my husbands fb (or so he says) but he acts way diff around the husband and i just feel as respect for me e wouldnt hang out with the gf..

but then again thats just me :/

Cat.Woman. 1 child; Gotham City, PA, United States 3841 posts
Jun 2nd '13

I was friends for years with a cheater. I just kept myself out of that business. We stopped being friends when she made a move on my fianc

ღ Diana ღ Michigan 15726 posts
Jun 2nd '13

Yes why not? They didn't do anything to hurt me.. I don't fully involve myself in my friends relationships because it's not my business. I offer advice when my friends seek advice from me but I do it without judgement. If I was the cheating spouse I wouldn't want my friends to ditch me because of my choices. So whether I agree with my friends choice or not I am still their friend and I will offer support.

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3475 posts
Jun 2nd '13

No, cheaters are scum bags and I don't deal with people like that.