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please make it stop! skwey 4 kids; Spokane, Washington 2207 posts
2nd Jun '13

My son that is 4 (5 in August) has been having major behavior problems the passed couple Weeks. Everything I ask him to do he throws a huge tantrum; I don't just mean screaming and crying, but threats of killing himself, banging his head off of things, hurting the cat, and hurting me. He is a big kid for 4 and I can't restrain him when he gets really violent and out of control. I took him to.the Dr but we can't get him into a therapist for an evaluation until the 10th. There is history of bi polar and skizophrenia on his dads side. I'm so tired and feeling like I'm failing as a mom. I don't know what else I can do to.help him

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
2nd Jun '13

I'm sorry. A 4 year old threatening to kill himself and being that violent shouldn't be put off until the 10th.



I hope you are able to get him the help and the peace in the family you need.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36713 posts
2nd Jun '13

You arent failing as a mom. :( Im sorry. But you are doing everything that you could be doing.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
2nd Jun '13

I'm sorry that would be really rough. Your not failing. Good luck with everything it's good he is being seen.

skwey 4 kids; Spokane, Washington 2207 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:</b>" I'm sorry. A 4 year old threatening to kill himself and being that violent shouldn't be put off until the 10th. I hope you are able to get him the help and the peace in the family you need."</blockquote>




I agree. I really hope things change around here soon. I feel so overwhelmed. It's even harder being a single parent and living 4 hours from my family.

user banned 3 kids; Lincoln, Alabama 10353 posts
2nd Jun '13

Can you bring him to the ER to be evaluated?

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
2nd Jun '13

I would push harder for an emergency evaluation.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting skwey:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:</b>" I'm sorry. A 4 year old threatening ... [snip!] ... change around here soon. I feel so overwhelmed. It's even harder being a single parent and living 4 hours from my family."

I am sorry mama. You are doing the right thing. You are getting him the help he needs. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there!

Mama2(three)Boys ♥ 3 kids; New Jersey 10460 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Soon2be3!!!!!:</b>" Can you bring him to the ER to be evaluated?"</blockquote>




This. I'm sorry you're going through that. You aren't failing as a mom, you're doing the best you can. I hope everything works out okay.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16675 posts
2nd Jun '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" I would push harder for an emergency evaluation. "


I agree with this. That sounds more serious than a typical 4 year old tantrum. I wish you the best OP.

user banned 3 kids; Lincoln, Alabama 10353 posts
2nd Jun '13

If you bring him to the ER they can get him on medication

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 6008 posts
2nd Jun '13

That's awful. You're not failing as a mom! Some things are beyond your control. As for restraining him, google "basket hold" and it should teach you a nonviolent way to hold him until he calms down. I know he's big, but I've done it with 5th graders who are huge.



Best of luck,

skwey 4 kids; Spokane, Washington 2207 posts
2nd Jun '13

Thanks for all the support ladies. It makes me feel more sane having people agree that something isnt quote right. Ive been told numerous times tgat "hes a boy" or "its typical for a 4 year old"

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27915 posts
status 3rd Jun '13
Quoting Soon2be3!!!!!:" If you bring him to the ER they can get him on medication"


This. Poor little dude.... its so sad that he has to wait and they dont see a need to do this NOW!

skwey 4 kids; Spokane, Washington 2207 posts
9th Jun '13

Just an update, I called to see if they can get him in sooner and they said no. His last tantrum consisted of him banging his head on the door and putting a hole in it. I had to wrap him up in a sheet and hold him until he calmed down. I really wanted to bring him to the ER but we live in a 3rd floor apartment and with him being 60 pounds, there was no way to carry him down safely and it seemed a bit extreme to call the ambulance or anything like that. His appointment is Monday and I am so ready for it!