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advice his*mama TTC since Aug 2013; 1 child; Portland, Oregon 3291 posts
3rd Jun '13

so I've come on here for advice a million times. I've been with my bf for almost a year and our relationship has been Hell. he's been unfaithful, untrustworthy, a liar, unsupportive, many nights made me feel like I was not important to him. well as of lately he's changed a lot (since I found out how untrustworthy he's been) and has been trying ti make things better. but it just hasn't made a difference. I'm just beyond hurt so much that I don't want to try anymore. I don't want to be with him anymore. and every time I've tried ti break up with him he cries and begs and makes me feel so bad that I take it back. but I just want to be done. this break up has been dragged out so much that I feel like a terrible person. I'm just hurting him. how do I do it without hurting him more? he swears he wants to try harder but I just can't anymore.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
3rd Jun '13

Clean cut! Dont worry about hurting him. If he cared [I think I have told you this before lol] he wouldnt have done any of the stuff that he did to you. He would have stayed faithful. Worry about yourself.

sugarpie_hunnibunch Due December 7; Japan 83 posts
3rd Jun '13

just walk away and don't look back. tell him as much as you have tried there is nothing there anymore to fix. that you don't want to hurt him more by trying things any longer because you no longer want to be with him.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
3rd Jun '13

Do you guys have kids together? If not, you break it off completely, change your number, and don't look back. If you do, you break it off and tell him you will only talk to him if it's about the child. If he calls and begins talking about anything other than your kid, you hang up.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting *Mayhem*:" Do you guys have kids together? If not, you break it off completely, change your number, and don't look ... [snip!] ... will only talk to him if it's about the child. If he calls and begins talking about anything other than your kid, you hang up."


I think she is pregnant by him.

Amanda[expecting #2!] 2 kids; Texas 286 posts
3rd Jun '13

Pack your stuff and go. Or pack his up and get it out.
If your done with it then be done with it. pull up your pants and just do it.



I know its hard, me and SO had some issues with his drinking problem a year and a half ago. I packed up his stuff and had his mom help him get it. I didn't want the relationship to end but something had to give. We stayed split for 9 months and he quit drinking and got his crap together after he understood that I wasn't kidding when I said I had enough. We worked it out because we didn't want to give everything up.



Your dealing with unfaithfulness, a liar and someone who is constantly making you feel like you don't matter. Your heart probably isn't in it any more. And that's why even though he is "trying" you still want to be done.



You really just have to do it. Don't worry about hurting him. You need to do what is best for you. Be strong a move on.



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user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
3rd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" I think she is pregnant by him. "</blockquote>




That is so weird. I swear to God when I first looked it only said she lived in Japan. Now I look and it says she's pregnant and has one child. I may be losing it.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting *Mayhem*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" I think she is pregnant by him. "</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... I first looked it only said she lived in Japan. Now I look and it says she's pregnant and has one child. I may be losing it."


There is a poster on here thats location is japan. So maybe you arent loosing it! lol.

Seneca Thurman 2 kids; Nashville, Tennessee 592 posts
3rd Jun '13

Just make it a clean cut! I had the same issue before I got with my husband where I would try and break up with my bf and he would beg me and say he would change. I was only 18 when this was all going on and still in high school so I didn't know what to do. I ended up cheating on him and dumping him for my hubby now so that he would finally let me go. He still wouldn't stop talking to me until he saw me and my husband together in the flesh. So some guys just don't get it until you show them you really are over them. Don't do it the way I did, Break up with him and move on. Block his number and make a clean cut. Only bad things result in hanging on to someone you don't want.

his*mama TTC since Aug 2013; 1 child; Portland, Oregon 3291 posts
3rd Jun '13

thanks for all the responses ladies.I'm not pregnant. I got pregnant by him in December and he pushed me into having an abortion. so we don't have kids or anything. we don't live together. idk why this is so hard. I am going to just take your ladies' advice and give it a nice clean cut. and start thinking about myself for once.




ps I don't live in Japan. I live in Oregon. I have been on this website for a long time lol

his*mama TTC since Aug 2013; 1 child; Portland, Oregon 3291 posts
3rd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting sugarpie_hunnibunch:</b>" just walk away and don't look back. tell him as much as you have tried there is nothing there anymore ... [snip!] ... anymore to fix. that you don't want to hurt him more by trying things any longer because you no longer want to be with him."</blockquote>




I think I'm going to say this. he just cries sooo much