<blockquote><b>Quoting Adriana's Mami♥ +1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting RissaBbyGurl:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting misanthrope:</b>" ... [snip!] ... bad porn addiction that was really hard to quit"</blockquote> Maybe that's why he got hard? He used to be addicted!"</blockquote>
This is what I think,too.
OP, has he had counseling for this? And his addiction/ avoiding porn/ crappy sex probably have a lot to do with each other. Maybe at tis point,real sex with a real woman with emotional attachments and vulnerabilities just doesn't do it for him the way porn did.
This sounds like something only a couples' counselor/ sex therapist with knowledge about addiction and treatment can help you with.