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Being separated and wedding anniversary BigG{30+} 2 kids; Gainesville, Virginia 12014 posts
3rd Jun '13

My husband and I have been separated a little over a month. We both have the intention of reconciling (he's moving home Aug.1 and we are going to start counseling soon), but it's going to take a lot of work. Anyway, our 11th anniversary is on the 22nd. I know it's a couple of weeks away and things can change quickly, but I am unsure of what to do. I know I will get him a card, but I don't know how lovey to be or not to be, or if I should get him a gift or what. I don't want to come off as cold, but I also don't want him to think I'm being too desperate or clingy. I just don't know. I will ask my therapist, but I need some advice from those that have been there.

loser mom Due June 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10968 posts
3rd Jun '13

I wouldn't do anything personally.

If you both intend on reconciling, why isn't he moving back home until August?

Millsh TTC since Jul 2013; 1 child; Illinois 1080 posts
3rd Jun '13

Maybe it would be nice to just go out for a nice, comfortable, not super romantic dinner. You can talk about your wedding day or just make a rule of not talking about anything too important or relationship topics and just have a date. I wouldn't get too holiday-ish with cards or gifts or anything, though. It might feel weird for both of you. You could always decide to celebrate it later. If you think that later on, when you do, a gift would be nice, you could go ahead and buy him one and then say "So, I bought you this on our anniversary." etc. Good luck with everything.

BigG{30+} 2 kids; Gainesville, Virginia 12014 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting loser mom:" I wouldn't do anything personally. If you both intend on reconciling, why isn't he moving back home until August?"

Because we are taking time for ourselves to get our shit together and figure out what we really want. We tried with him living here and it just wasn't working.

BigG{30+} 2 kids; Gainesville, Virginia 12014 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting Millsh:" Maybe it would be nice to just go out for a nice, comfortable, not super romantic dinner. You can talk ... [snip!] ... you could go ahead and buy him one and then say "So, I bought you this on our anniversary." etc. Good luck with everything."

I know he's not ready for a date yet, and he has to work that day all day. I may just do the celebrate later thing, that sounds nice. Thank you.

loser mom Due June 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10968 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting BigG{30+}:" Because we are taking time for ourselves to get our shit together and figure out what we really want. We tried with him living here and it just wasn't working. "



I see. Best of luck to you, I hope it works out.

BigG{30+} 2 kids; Gainesville, Virginia 12014 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting loser mom:" I see. Best of luck to you, I hope it works out."


Thanks.