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Weapon in the House dad man Minnesota 315 posts
3rd Jun '13

So this is a topic that has been lingering since the boston bombings. I would like to purchase a firearm for our house to protect the family in case something crazy happens. My darling wife however feels VERY uncomfortable with the subject and basically refuses to even engage in a discussion about it. It would of course be stored safely (double entendre :D) and i would be completely onboard with either familiarizing her with it or paying for training.



Any advice on how we can talk about this? She is a member here (you probably know here, and she will probably be here shortly) so help a guy out!



Thanks in advance!

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
3rd Jun '13

We have guns in our home. We're properly trained on them, they're stored properly, and I'm 100% comfortable. Perhaps, before getting one, you both go to a range. See how she feels after she'd held it in her hand, and perhaps even taken a safety class.

Sara❥ TTC since May 2014; 1 child; Sumter, South Carolina 8720 posts
3rd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting dad man:</b>" So this is a topic that has been lingering since the boston bombings. I would like to purchase a firearm ... [snip!] ... She is a member here (you probably know here, and she will probably be here shortly) so help a guy out! Thanks in advance!"</blockquote>



I hate guns! I hate that we have one in the house but I allowed it because people are crazy!



I would just make sure she knows that you'll have it in a safe place and she doesn't have to mess with it if she doesn't want to. :)

Allys_mommy 33 kids; Waterloo, New York 1194 posts
3rd Jun '13

I grew up with weapons in my house but I will not have one in my own house. There are plently of things around this house I can use as a weapon. I have no desire to have type of guns in my home and no I haven't had any bad experiences with them just don't like them

dad man Minnesota 315 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting homes cool:" We have guns in our home. We're properly trained on them, they're stored properly, and I'm 100% comfortable. ... [snip!] ... getting one, you both go to a range. See how she feels after she'd held it in her hand, and perhaps even taken a safety class. "



I like that idea, the trouble is she doesnt even want to talk about going to a range... i think i need a "range" for going to the range lol.

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
3rd Jun '13

Find out why she is so opposed. My hubby grew up in a place where only shady people and criminals had/used guns so he has negative connotations associated with them.



I, on the other hand, have grown up around guns and was taught gun safety and we only use ours for sporting and hunting...



So when I wanted a gun, to shoot clays/skeet, hubby said NO WAY. And he felt so strongly against them that I just went along. It meant more to him NOT to have them than for me TO have them.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting dad man:" I like that idea, the trouble is she doesnt even want to talk about going to a range... i think i need a "range" for going to the range lol."


I have no idea who your wife is, but I find it unreasonable that she won't even set foot in a range. That's a very reasonable compromise, to at the very least learn about what she's turning down. Hopefully she comes around.

http://www.accountkiller. Minnesota 34665 posts
3rd Jun '13

The idea scares the shit out of me. Reading in the news about children accidentally shoot and kill each other

dad man Minnesota 315 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting The Pretender:" And he felt so strongly against them that I just went along. It meant more to him NOT to have them than for me TO have them."


I get this, and i would never force the issue, its just that people really ARE crazy, and if something happened and i wasn't prepared i would feel terrible.

http://www.accountkiller. Minnesota 34665 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting homes cool:" I have no idea who your wife is, but I find it unreasonable that she won't even set foot in a range. ... [snip!] ... That's a very reasonable compromise, to at the very least learn about what she's turning down. Hopefully she comes around. "


I have bad anxiety. I'm absolutely terrified of guns. In all capacity. I can't stand the idea of holding one

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting The Pretender:" Find out why she is so opposed. My hubby grew up in a place where only shady people and criminals had/used ... [snip!] ... And he felt so strongly against them that I just went along. It meant more to him NOT to have them than for me TO have them."


This is a very good point. My husband and I have a 1-10 scale. If something is a big deal we'll ask "What's your number?" If we're both an 8-9 we'll really sit down and discuss, but if I'm a 7 & he's a 2? We go my way. Vice versa if he's the one who feels strongly.

http://www.accountkiller. Minnesota 34665 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting homes cool:" This is a very good point. My husband and I have a 1-10 scale. If something is a big deal we'll ask ... [snip!] ... we'll really sit down and discuss, but if I'm a 7 & he's a 2? We go my way. Vice versa if he's the one who feels strongly."


I think we're both at an 8-9 on our OWN side of this, unfortunately :oops:

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting Icat:" I have bad anxiety. I'm absolutely terrified of guns. In all capacity. I can't stand the idea of holding one
http://www.accountkiller. Minnesota 34665 posts
3rd Jun '13

I know it is unreasonable to some degree to be avoiding the subject completely.



I'm just really scared.

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
3rd Jun '13

Maybe you could pick out a gun safe and bring it home to show her how secure it is.