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Does this sound like a "trap"? Pinkman 1 child; Melbourne, VC, Australia 5522 posts
4th Jun '13

Here's the situation.



A couple has been together for about seven/eight months and neither has dropped the "L" word. It seems pretty obvious that they love each other. It's more of an "actions speak louder than words" situation.



Would it put the other person in a trap to just straight up ask the other person "do you love me?" Do you think they would feel obligated to say yes since they were put on the spot/didn't want to hurt the other person? I hope this makes sense.

user banned 2 kids; Moses Lake, Washington 13508 posts
4th Jun '13

If you have to "trap" a person into saying it... :?

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20598 posts
4th Jun '13

I wouldn't want to put someone on the spot like that. I'd be more apt to say "Can we talk? I just want to tell you how I feel personally. I love you, and if you feel the same way that's great but if you're not quite there yet then that's okay too. I just felt like I needed to tell you how I feel" and maybe that can open that dialogue

BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 67089 posts
4th Jun '13

I wouldn't ask, that might put the other person in an awkward position. If she loves him, tell him!

Bangarang 10 kids; Muthafuckin, GA, United States 26649 posts
status 4th Jun '13

I mean, what will the other person get out of hearing the words? If they act like they love each other then why can't that be enough?

Red Bottom TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15307 posts
4th Jun '13

It sounds like that person is just too chicken to say it first in fear of not reciprocating. But that's really awkward. However, the best way to find out how someone feels is to ask.

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
4th Jun '13

Yes, it puts them on the spot and more than likely they will answer with what you want to hear because 1) they are put on the spot and don't have time to think and 2) more than likely want to avoid a fight.



I think 7/8 months you still have time before you need to worry.

Pinkman 1 child; Melbourne, VC, Australia 5522 posts
4th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" It sounds like that person is just too chicken to say it first in fear of not reciprocating. But that's really awkward. However, the best way to find out how someone feels is to ask."</blockquote>



This is the dilemma to a T haha

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
4th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BαtMαɳ:</b>" I wouldn't ask, that might put the other person in an awkward position. If she loves him, tell him!"</blockquote>




:!:

Pinkman 1 child; Melbourne, VC, Australia 5522 posts
4th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting \m/:</b>" I mean, what will the other person get out of hearing the words? If they act like they love each other then why can't that be enough? "</blockquote>



Eh, I don't really know. Reassurance, I guess.

Ꭶwan♥Nemo 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 7416 posts
4th Jun '13

My boyfriend and I have been together a year...and still havent really said to each other besides in text. But we really arent affectionate people. If he did that to me I would feel awkward, not trapped, because Im not good with verbally expressing my feelings.

Pinkman 1 child; Melbourne, VC, Australia 5522 posts
4th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jillynne:</b>" If you have to "trap" a person into saying it... :?"</blockquote>




That's what is trying to be avoided, hence the reason I asked...

Pinkman 1 child; Melbourne, VC, Australia 5522 posts
4th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ꭶwan♥Nem

Bangarang 10 kids; Muthafuckin, GA, United States 26649 posts
status 4th Jun '13
Quoting ♥ pinkman:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ꭶwan♥Nem