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    • A mother shouldnt be held responsible -- Votes: 12
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Pregnancy well being discuss and debate Baby #2 where are you :( TTC since Jun 2010; 1 child; Charlotte, North Carolina 4616 posts
4th Jun '13

Does a woman have an obligation to avoid alcohol and other drugs during pregnancy? What about smoking cigarettes and eating junk food? If she doesn

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
4th Jun '13

She should definitely be held accountable. While you are pregnant you are in charge of making sure that your child gets everything they need, it's not difficult to not put nasty crap into your body for a few measly months. After the baby comes out with defects I am sure that mother will try and get some kind of help for the baby, why should everyone else have to pay for her stupidity?

Baby #2 where are you :( TTC since Jun 2010; 1 child; Charlotte, North Carolina 4616 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting InkDMomma:" She should definitely be held accountable. While you are pregnant you are in charge of making sure that ... [snip!] ... I am sure that mother will try and get some kind of help for the baby, why should everyone else have to pay for her stupidity?"


I have to agree, when I was pregnant with my son I came off of all medication. I wouldn't even take tylenol. We tried so hard to get pregnant I took my responsibility very seriously. I wanted to bring a healthy and happy baby into this world.



Obviously some things are okay to take but I wasn't willing to risk it.

Zepplin's Mommy :) 1 child; Magnolia, Delaware 911 posts
4th Jun '13

Honestly i think it really just depends.. I ate junk food alot when i was pregnant, i drank wine, and tasted other alcholic drinks, also smoking cigarettes i think you could cut back if possible this is what a friend did but didnt completely quit, this i dont see as a big deal... But if a woman is on serious drugs and does them threwout the whole pregnancy and doesnt even try to cut back or anything then yeah maybe there some be legal action being taken just to make sure the child is in a safe enviroment when born.

MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
4th Jun '13

Saying that she should be held criminally responsible for what she chooses to do during pregnancy would obviously have to vary when you're going from something as drastic as drugs to something as simple as eating junk food. I think that mothers should be drug tested while pregnant however I think they should have the opportunity to clean themselves up and get the help that they need and deserve to be able to care for a child. As far as bringing the argument to not following doctors orders i.e. drinking soda or eating snacks is completely ridiculous and should never be held accountable against the mother that is her choice what she eats and drinks. Also criminal action against smoking I know plenty of people who smoke and had very healthy babies but they cut down to one or two a day to not go through withdrawal. I even I've heard of some doctor say not quit initially considering Stress levels that come along with that withdraw the could not be so good for baby. So that again would be too far for the government to regulate or doctors to have a say in, that would be overstepping boundaries to someone's human rights and freedom in this country. Direct harm such as alcohol use or substance-abuse while pregnant of course is looked at, I know we are tested for it so that is something that is taken into consideration, going as far as i snacks and someone who cuts down smoking and probably won't even smoke a lot is completely overstepping the boundaries of anyone.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting Baby #2 where are you :(:" I have to agree, when I was pregnant with my son I came off of all medication. I wouldn't even take ... [snip!] ... to bring a healthy and happy baby into this world. Obviously some things are okay to take but I wasn't willing to risk it."


I was freaked out to take anything too, with my losses. I didn't even take a tylenol until well into my 2nd trimester and my doctor had to convince me. I was terrified.
I'm scared to put anything into my body for the risk of hurting or losing my baby.

user banned 19 kids; Japan 4077 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting InkDMomma:" She should definitely be held accountable. While you are pregnant you are in charge of making sure that ... [snip!] ... I am sure that mother will try and get some kind of help for the baby, why should everyone else have to pay for her stupidity?"


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agreed. making sure your baby is taken care of is just as much your responsibility during pregnancy as it is after pregnancy.

Zepplin's Mommy :) 1 child; Magnolia, Delaware 911 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting BoogsMaMa:" Saying that she should be held criminally responsible for what she chooses to do during pregnancy would ... [snip!] ... and someone who cuts down smoking and probably won't even smoke a lot is completely overstepping the boundaries of anyone."


i agree with this!

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting Baby #2 where are you :(:" Does a woman have an obligation to avoid alcohol and other drugs during pregnancy? What about smoking ... [snip!] ... for the week, I know my answer but I am curious on other viewpoints) poll above for those who want to remain anonymous"


Not legally. I don't approve of drinking or smoking when pregnant, but I support the idea that it is the woman's body. If we will say that abortion is okay because it is HER body, then I think we shoot ourselves in the foot by saying "well, now it's not your body and your choice."



So, do I think they're personally responsible? Obviously yes, because it's their choice to do those things and the effects ARE on their shoulders. Should they be legally responsible? No, I don't think so.

MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
4th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Not legally. I don't approve of drinking or smoking when pregnant, but I support the idea that it is ... [snip!] ... choice to do those things and the effects ARE on their shoulders. Should they be legally responsible? No, I don't think so."</blockquote>




Are they responsible for their actions yes, I am responsible for my actions period pregnant or not. The question is legally, that is too broad of a term to agree with.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting she nan igans:" Not legally. I don't approve of drinking or smoking when pregnant, but I support the idea that it is ... [snip!] ... choice to do those things and the effects ARE on their shoulders. Should they be legally responsible? No, I don't think so."

This.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting BoogsMaMa:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Not legally. I don't approve of drinking ... [snip!] ... I am responsible for my actions period pregnant or not. The question is legally, that is too broad of a term to agree with."


I'm not sure what point you were making there. I'm not being rude, I'm serious. I am not sure if you were agreeing with me or making a point against me. Could you rephrase? Maybe I haven't had enough coffee, lol

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59981 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting she nan igans:" Not legally. I don't approve of drinking or smoking when pregnant, but I support the idea that it is ... [snip!] ... choice to do those things and the effects ARE on their shoulders. Should they be legally responsible? No, I don't think so."


All of this.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
4th Jun '13

My son was born with cancer, and no doctor, no book, no nobody can tell me why.



So was it something I did? Something I didnt do?



Can anyone prove it?




I would hope a mother would want to take care of her well being, but its her body, her child, and her choice.

Cecily's Mama 1 child; 3781 posts
4th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Not legally. I don't approve of drinking or smoking when pregnant, but I support the idea that it is ... [snip!] ... choice to do those things and the effects ARE on their shoulders. Should they be legally responsible? No, I don't think so."</blockquote>



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