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    • A mother shouldnt be held responsible -- Votes: 12
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    • I think it varies from case to case and is a gray area -- Votes: 40
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user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
5th Jun '13
Quoting ℳizz ℊiz. :" i guess i just don't see NOT blaming a cancer victim's mother as "letting it slide". whereas blaming ... [snip!] ... problems.... she is responsible for bringing that onto her baby. wow that sounded confusing lol but hopefully you understood."


I see your point on drugs ,no need to explain,



What Im saying though is when do we know to draw the line.



What if my son got cancer cause of my years tanning? Or using the wrong bath soap? Or not eating organic?



If we only punish the 'obvious' then a lot of women would go unpunished when they clearly know the reason their child has a cleft palate is because of the depression meds they took during pregnancy after being told the risk (as an example)

user banned 19 kids; Japan 4077 posts
5th Jun '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" I see your point on drugs ,no need to explain, What Im saying though is when do we know to draw the ... [snip!] ... child has a cleft palate is because of the depression meds they took during pregnancy after being told the risk (as an example)"


i REALLY do hope you don't blame yourself for your son getting cancer.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
5th Jun '13
Quoting ℳizz ℊiz. :" i REALLY do hope you don't blame yourself for your son getting cancer."


lol,thanks mama, no I dont. Well,most of the time I dont.
He had Rhabdomyosarcoma, and no one yet knows how it happens or what the causes are,so most of us Rhabdo parents do on occasion question eachother to see if we can find a link, especially since most people diagnosed are babies.

user banned 19 kids; Japan 4077 posts
5th Jun '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" lol,thanks mama, no I dont. Well,most of the time I dont. He had Rhabdomyosarcoma, and no one yet knows ... [snip!] ... parents do on occasion question eachother to see if we can find a link, especially since most people diagnosed are babies. "


i am so sorry your little guy had to go through with that. but i read on your page he is now cancer free. that makes me really happy. :) but ya don't blame yourself. i think sometimes these things just happen. when i see little children go through it, i must admit it infuriates me. just doesn't seem fair and i don't think i will ever understand WHY it had to happen to little kids and babies. just typing about it breaks my heart and tears me up. you are a very strong person and i admire that.

Emmiboo 1 child; United Kingdom 3270 posts
9th Jun '13

Pregnant women need to be aware of what they do to their bodies while pregnant and where possible make changes....... however it's not the end of the world if you have a couple of glasses of wine during pregnancy or have a couple of cigarettes. No pregnant woman should be made to feel like a criminal for that. Especially if she's trying to quit. Then there is the other extreme though. If a woman knowingly takes harmful drugs and does reckless things while pregnant then she should be held accountable. For example, a woman I know purposefully took a lot of drugs during pregnancy and I mean a lot of drugs, class A, hardcore drug use. Her reason? She wanted to ensure she got a small baby. Well at 39 weeks she gave birth to her 3lb small baby, her daughter battled for 5 months with a whole list of health problems all caused by her drug use. She died last month. She was born with drug addictions not to mention low birth weight and birth defects. In cases that serious then maybe there should be an element of criminal responsibility?

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
9th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Not legally. I don't approve of drinking or smoking when pregnant, but I support the idea that it is ... [snip!] ... choice to do those things and the effects ARE on their shoulders. Should they be legally responsible? No, I don't think so."</blockquote>




This exactly.

~ Island ~ Phoenix ~ 2 kids; Brisbane, Australia 192 posts
11th Jun '13

If a mother-to-be can be punished for eating junk food while pregnant, can she also be punished for not taking her folic acid tablets daily?

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
11th Jun '13
Quoting ~ Island ~ Phoenix ~:" If a mother-to-be can be punished for eating junk food while pregnant, can she also be punished for not taking her folic acid tablets daily?"


or for not walking hours a day?