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Tell me what to say to Scott. Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
4th Jun '13

ETA this was supposed to be pto but I failed. Scott is my BD and B is my 2 year old.
He's driving me absolutely crazy and will not leave me alone. I've told him MULTIPLE times that I'll talk to him about B related things ONLY, and he never, ever asks about her. Ever. He wants to "be my friend" soooooooooooooooooo badly, and I really see not point in rushing into a friendship with him. He wants to hang out with me without B, which creeps me the f**k out. He's seen her 2 or 3 times in the last 5ish months. He's all around a sketchy dude who I don't want to be around. I stupidly picked up his call today (I ignore him. I never reply to messages or talk to him until today) and he just begged me to be his friend and I just repeated myself over and over and finally just said I'd see him in court later this week.



Like what the f**k? How do I get him to leave me alone? I don't want to be his friend and I've told him nicely and rudely, yet he persists.



khvwefqvwe.kj bf.q UGH

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59191 posts
4th Jun '13

i'd say nothing.
if you've already asked him nicely and told him rudely, there's nothing else really to say.
full on ignore is what i'd do.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18092 posts
4th Jun '13

maybe it would benefit your child ultimately if you had a friendly relationship with his father. even if you don't like him, if he is going to be around, it will be easier on everyone if you get along, you know?




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on second thought, keeping it small talk to your child only is wise, I was just thinking, it's best to do that nicely. You don't have to be buddies. sterile co-parenting is fine. I'd ignore any non-child related static

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting castaway:" maybe it would benefit your child ultimately if you had a friendly relationship with his father. even ... [snip!] ... his father. even if you don't like him, if he is going to be around, it will be easier on everyone if you get along, you know?"


I mentally can't be friends with him. I've tried being his friend and every single time I end up wanting to kill myself, the first time I came very close to killing myself. He's no good for my mental health and I honestly think he just wants to be "friends" so I'll sleep with him.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59191 posts
4th Jun '13

From what i've heard about Scott from you,
i would not attempt to have a friendship with him as it wouldn't benefit anyone but him.
Civil, sure. friends..no.

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting KNZ.:" i'd say nothing. if you've already asked him nicely and told him rudely, there's nothing else really to say. full on ignore is what i'd do. "


I am ignoring him, and he's calling/texting me every ten minutes. Not even joking it's almost on the dot every ten minutes. And the judge didn't think this was harassment :roll:

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59191 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" I am ignoring him, and he's calling/texting me every ten minutes. Not even joking it's almost on the dot every ten minutes. And the judge didn't think this was harassment :roll:"


call the phone company and block his number, then inform him he can reach you via email about your guys' daughter.

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting KNZ.:" From what i've heard about Scott from you, i would not attempt to have a friendship with him as it wouldn't benefit anyone but him. Civil, sure. friends..no."


Oh yeah, I've been pretty civil with him. He just wants to be buddies or something, and I can't do that. Maybe in a few years but he's like rushing into it.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18092 posts
4th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:</b>" I mentally can't be friends with him. I've tried being his friend and every single time I end up wanting ... [snip!] ... killing myself. He's no good for my mental health and I honestly think he just wants to be "friends" so I'll sleep with him. "</blockquote>




I edited my posted after writing that, but I would really just stick to my guns. when he says 'lets hang out', just respond with something quick, 'like, no, I don't think so, but did you get the custody paperwork? I'll need that by friday/'.... shift it all to your child.



he'll get it eventually.

[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 12771 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting castaway:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:</b>" I mentally can't be friends with ... [snip!] ... but did you get the custody paperwork? I'll need that by friday/'.... shift it all to your child. he'll get it eventually."


You'd think wouldn't you? Lol
But no. :x