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Should I or Shouldnt I?? bama mommy 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Alabama 654 posts
4th Jun '13

My baby is 6 months old and I do want another baby. I have 2 boys and want a little girl!! Here is the thing DH does not help out with the baby I do everything. I can ask him 5 times just to change a diaper for him to do it cause I will be busy doing something. Here is my question even though I want another baby in another year or so should I just stop or have another and just realize that I will have to do everything myself all over again?? Kinda a stupid question but just want to know that I am not the only one who does everything for their kids while the dad hardly does anything.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
4th Jun '13

I wouldn't be thinking about another baby. I would be thinking about another SO.

user banned (girl); TTC since May 2008; Pounding Mill, VA, United States 3612 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting bama mommy:" My baby is 6 months old and I do want another baby. I have 2 boys and want a little girl!! Here is the ... [snip!] ... but just want to know that I am not the only one who does everything for their kids while the dad hardly does anything. "


Find a better SO. One that will help you with the kid.

bama mommy 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Alabama 654 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" I wouldn't be thinking about another baby. I would be thinking about another SO."

He is a good dad always there for his kids but when I was dealing with feedings and diaper changes during the night all he did was sleep most of the time. He had PTSD and can not stand crying most of the time. I didnt mind doing everything but during the day he can volunteer am I right??

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting bama mommy:" He is a good dad always there for his kids but when I was dealing with feedings and diaper changes during ... [snip!] ... PTSD and can not stand crying most of the time. I didnt mind doing everything but during the day he can volunteer am I right??"


Yeah. I mean, what if you had PPD? Then who is going to get off their ass and change the baby? Sorry, PTSD isn't an excuse to not do your job as a parent!

mrs jones ♥ 2 kids; Universal City, Texas 2682 posts
4th Jun '13

I would be holding off on another baby if I took care of them practically by yourself.
I take care of DS mostly by myself and even though DH isn't his father, he'll change his diaper or whatever else if I ask him to. Once DS2 gets here, I do expect DH to be helping out as much as I do.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
4th Jun '13

I would not be thinking about having another baby if my husband was like that...

Jenny&Boopy 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7294 posts
4th Jun '13

I do most of the work with our 8 month old. SO is just not good at it. He does play with him and stuff, but most of the time I'm changing the diapers or feeding him. There are times when I go somewhere with my neighbor and he stays home with the baby and does everything. It doesnt really bother me because he does what he can and he's out working all day every day so I can stay home. Have you tried talking to him about it?

That Mik Girl 2 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 11497 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" I wouldn't be thinking about another baby. I would be thinking about another SO."


amen lol

bama mommy 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Alabama 654 posts
4th Jun '13

Going to go have a talk to him when he gets home. Guys are right. I am not focusing on having another baby but I do want a girl some time in the future. I am focusing on my 6 month old and my 5 year old

That Mik Girl 2 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 11497 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting bama mommy:" Going to go have a talk to him when he gets home. Guys are right. I am not focusing on having another ... [snip!] ... focusing on having another baby but I do want a girl some time in the future. I am focusing on my 6 month old and my 5 year old"


good for you.

ChavieChavo 1 child; 3 angel babies; Pittsburgh, PA, United States 1887 posts
4th Jun '13

I personally wouldn't be thinking about another baby. If he doesn't help now what makes you think he'll help with 2 babies + an older kid? You'll be stuck changing twice the diapers and all that. I wouldn't.

mrs jones ♥ 2 kids; Universal City, Texas 2682 posts
4th Jun '13

It reminds me of an episode I've seen on Nanny 911. Maybe you should go pamper yourself and let him watch the kids all day.

bama mommy 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Alabama 654 posts
4th Jun '13
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lovemylittleladies 2 kids; Michigan 1271 posts
4th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting bama mommy:</b>" He is a good dad always there for his kids but when I was dealing with feedings and diaper changes during ... [snip!] ... PTSD and can not stand crying most of the time. I didnt mind doing everything but during the day he can volunteer am I right??"</blockquote>



Sounds a lot like my hubby.