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What do you think? Nevaeh's mommy :) 1 child; Brandon, Florida 981 posts
4th Jun '13

Gone now. Thank you for not thinking im crazy

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19421 posts
4th Jun '13

Doesn't sound like he's very interested in being in her life. I'd just let him contact you from now on.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75060 posts
4th Jun '13

I think he should have to come get her if he wants to see her. He should obviously be paying child support and buying things for her to keep at his house. Doesn't sound like he wants to though and I wouldn't force it.

Nevaeh's mommy :) 1 child; Brandon, Florida 981 posts
5th Jun '13

Thats what im starting to understand. Its so hard. I just can understand why/how its so easy to just walk away from her. Its like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to see her only when he doesnt have anything else to do. he put alot before her. then gets mad at me when i say im not taking her over there. he says we you did it before. i just cant seem to get through to him. and shes at the age now where she asks about him, shes going to start thinking he lives at work. I will NEVER put him down to her or in front of her, she needs to form her own view on him

Andrej's Mummy :) 17 kids; Melbourne, Australia 127 posts
5th Jun '13

Oh wow that sounds like my situation my sons dad wants everyone to think he's a great dad and everyone feels bad for him not seen his son more but I give him everything food clothes car seat when he takes him he gets everyone to do everything for him if he has to make effort he will give up I have stopped taking my son been two weeks now due to neglect and am taking him to court hope all goes well for you stay strong mama xxo

Nevaeh's mommy :) 1 child; Brandon, Florida 981 posts
5th Jun '13

yeah its a sucky situation. It shouldb't be this way. Im done helping him beinging a daddy. Im done letting him hurt my daughter its not fair to her. He wants to be able to party,have his girls, make his music and SLEEP! I just dont get it. When i call him at night if her answers say shes sick or is having a bad night and i just want him to talk to her on the phone thats it. sometimes he'll do it then other times hes like what do you want me todo im on the phone. I tell him sometimes it would be nice if she could just hear your voice. and when she sees his picture she gets a big smile on her face and asks for him non-stop. im done letting him use me its time that he steps up. If he wants to see her (when he says he does) then he man up and we all just hang out. When he shows me that i can trust him then maybe ill start dropping her off again, and until he goes out and buys her a car seat he can start picking her up. He trys to use this OLD car seat that i dont know if irs ever been ina accident and how old it really is. if its still good. Im sorry that your going through the same thing. i hope things work out in the end for you and your Son. you stay strong too

Andrej's Mummy :) 17 kids; Melbourne, Australia 127 posts
6th Jun '13

Hey mama hope you had better day I no what you mean all we want is our kids to have a happy life I have always allowed him to be in his life but he's just so damn stubborn in following routines and he just treats his son likes he's mate like he wants to go cruising with mates and thinks he's one year old son is fine to come tells me to stop "babying him" he's not baby no more wdf he's one! Doesnt see anything wrong with his parenting WE will do what WE have to do to give our kids happy lives but for them until they get it together they will have to be watched XXXo goodluck xx

Nevaeh's mommy :) 1 child; Brandon, Florida 981 posts
6th Jun '13

Thank you i am. i totally agree with you. we do what we do for out kids cause we love them and want nothing but the best for them