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    • No! He deserves nothing! -- Votes: 22
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Do you send a Father's Day gift to the deadbeat in your life Sunshine0302 1 child; North Carolina 4836 posts
Jun 5th '13

Do you send a card/gift to your LO's deadbeat dad on Father's Day? For the last few years, I've sent my LO's deadbeat dad a card and a handmade gift from my daughter. This year, my daughter made her father's day gift with her grandma (my mom watches her during the day) and then told her, "I want mommy to have this." I've gotten used to being the bigger person, but I'm curious to see how many others get a card/gift for their LO's deadbeat dad.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 16283 posts
Jun 5th '13

We never do.

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49166 posts
Jun 5th '13

I put no just because i dont know where he is because he does not want to be found i have made attempts to let him look at pictures but he wants nothing to do with his son and has even told me he will willing sign him over to my husband.

♥ Mrs. S ♥ Due September 20; 2 kids; Venezuela 13673 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting Jas ♥:" Father's Day is a day to recognize great fathers. I can't wrap my head around anyone sending their dead beat baby daddy a fathers day gift."


:!::!::!:

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
Jun 5th '13

Um no. Hahaha he has seen his almost 5 year old like 3-4 times in his entire life. And I have never gotten a single penny from him. He sure as hell has never sent me anything for raising his son by myself.

Besides, putting his sperm in my egg did not give him rights to the term "Father". If there is a Sperm Donor day, I will send him something, perhaps a nice box of dog shit.

Sunshine0302 1 child; North Carolina 4836 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting Jas ♥:" Father's Day is a day to recognize great fathers. I can't wrap my head around anyone sending their dead beat baby daddy a fathers day gift."


This is exactly how I feel. It makes me sick to do this, but I feel like my kid is missing out. All of her other friends make stuff for their dads.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting Sunshine0302:" This is exactly how I feel. It makes me sick to do this, but I feel like my kid is missing out. All of her other friends make stuff for their dads. "


Her other friends probably have dads.
My son used to give my dad stuff for Fathers day.

Sunshine0302 1 child; North Carolina 4836 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" Um no. Hahaha he has seen his almost 5 year old like 3-4 times in his entire life. And I have never gotten ... [snip!] ... give him rights to the term "Father". If there is a Sperm Donor day, I will send him something, perhaps a nice box of dog shit."


I'm sorry, but I laughed harder at this than I probably should have. Please don't give me any ideas for this year's gift!

.Jezebel. TTC since Dec 2015; 1 child; Sumter, South Carolina 10050 posts
Jun 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sunshine0302:</b>" Do you send a card/gift to your LO's deadbeat dad on Father's Day? For the last few years, I've sent ... [snip!] ... gotten used to being the bigger person, but I'm curious to see how many others get a card/gift for their LO's deadbeat dad."</blockquote>



I think if the child asks to send their dad something you should. Otherwise, no.

Jenny&Boopy 3 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 9712 posts
Jun 5th '13

DS's dad is a p***e o* s**t. So no, I don't send him anything for Father's Day. His mommy buys him presents from DS :roll:.

Sunshine0302 1 child; North Carolina 4836 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:" Depends on why you call him a deadbeat... If he's really a deadbeat and wants nothing to do with his ... [snip!] ... or something like that, then yes. I see so many women on here call their baby's father a deadbeat for the wrong reasons... "


Couldn't agree more. He's a deadbeat because he pays child support 1-2 times per year (in 2010 I got nothing for the whole year), makes an attempt to see my LO once every 6 months or so, and I have to beg him to call/text to check up on my daughter. We haven't been romantically involved in approximately 5 years and there are no romantic feelings present on my part.

Sunshine0302 1 child; North Carolina 4836 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" Her other friends probably have dads. My son used to give my dad stuff for Fathers day."


My daughter does that too.

Sunshine0302 1 child; North Carolina 4836 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting Jas ♥:" I can understand that aspect of it. If she's feeling left out because all of her friends are making ... [snip!] ... friends are making gifts for their fathers, let her continue to make the gifts. Just don't send them to his undeserving ass."


I think I will do that. She said she wanted to give me the present that she made for Father's Day and I think I will happily accept it.

Sunshine0302 1 child; North Carolina 4836 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:" Yeah then no, I wouldn't give him shit. :( Sorry you have to deal with that mama. "


Thank you, but I made my bed and now I'm laying in it. I was with him for 6 years and he showed me what a loser at life he was for those entire 6 years. I chose to be careless and get pregnant, so I'm dealing with it. I could see if he tricked me into thinking he was this wonderful guy. No, from day one I knew what a selfish, self centered, cold hearted, jerk he was. I can't be mad because he hasn't changed.

Sunshine0302 1 child; North Carolina 4836 posts
Jun 5th '13

Thanks for the votes and your input. I'm not going to feel guilty for not sending something this year!