Honestly if I found out my husband had cheated on me in the beginning of our relationship, I would be really hurt. But he has never cheated on me before so it would be new territory for me. You said your husband has cheated on you other times and our relationship was rocky before, so in that situation, I wouldn't think twice about it. That time was no different than the other times that you have forgiven him for.
I would be a little hurt, BUT I am a very emotional person. If I were you I would just let it go, you guys were so young and brand new, you know what I mean?
Quoting she nan igans:" lol Damn whippersnappers! Really though, I think a lot of times that's the difference between "hanging out" and "dating." Like, when they become "official." Maybe I'm just old too though."
Haha! That's not how it was back in mah day. *pulls out the cane and the old lady glasses*.
I dated an 18 year old when I was 15. For almost a year, and we never had sex.
When we first started dating, Jose had a handful of girls and hookups I had no idea about until years later. Nearly ten years later, I don't give a damn. I "won" him, he picked me over any of them before I had any idea there was competition to worry about. He's faithful now, mature and shit, why would I let something that far back in the past bother me? Obviously it wasn't as if it mattered.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" Let it go. It was 4 years ago and its not worth fighting or breaking up over."</blockquote>
oh not at all. I would never take it to that.
Quoting The Doctor:" Haha! That's not how it was back in mah day. *pulls out the cane and the old lady glasses*. I dated an 18 year old when I was 15. For almost a year, and we never had sex."
*puts rocking chairs on the porch so we can yell at kids on our lawns*
Well, I was only with my husband a month before we had sex, lol, however he was my first and I was his first. So, I guess I was both conservative and not conservative. I was 17 at the time.
Well if you stayed with him after all the other times he cheated, Idk why this would be any different.
Let it go.
Quoting she nan igans:" *puts rocking chairs on the porch so we can yell at kids on our lawns* Well, I was only with my husband ... [snip!] ... however he was my first and I was his first. So, I guess I was both conservative and not conservative. I was 17 at the time. "
Oh, yes. We are gonna be such good old ladies. :twisted:
Yeah, I mean... trust me when I say that I did NOT wait much time with some of my exes. But for my first I definitely waited a while. Probably partially out of fear.
Quoting she nan igans:" If things are good now, I wouldn't be upset about something he did RIGHT at the start of the relationship ... [snip!] ... (especially since it seems you guys were on shaky ground at first so much). I also wouldn't have kept bringing it up though."
I agree with this. As long as he doesn't do thing like that now. I don't see it as being something to throw a marriage and family away over. Yes I would be upset for a bit, but I wouldn't bring it up again.
Quoting The Doctor:" Eh. I mean, that's sketchy. But, it was one night the day after you started dating... and he cheated ... [snip!] ... find it weird that you lost your virginity the day you started dating. But that's just me and thinking of me at that age. haha"
I thought this too. It made me wonder if the guy might have thought it was like FWB instead of exclusive.
it is nothing I would divorce my husband over. . I understand it is minute & it happened in the past. i'm not even mad that he did it. just more irked that he kept it a secret for so long. i'm not going to break my family up over it.
Quoting The Doctor:" Oh, yes. We are gonna be such good old ladies. :twisted: Yeah, I mean... trust me when I say that ... [snip!] ... I did NOT wait much time with some of my exes. But for my first I definitely waited a while. Probably partially out of fear."
I can't wait to be an old lady. I want grandbabies to play with, and to be able to do crazy stuff and people just shrug their shoulders. And I want to wear those CRAZY outfits that they get to wear. And I don't have to talk to people I don't like, or understand all this hip crap that I ALREADY don't understand. I used to work in a retirement home, and there were these two old ladies who would steal the silverware. They were best friends and ALWAYS getting into trouble. That's who I want to be.
Will you be my old lady best friend?
<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm me:</b>" I thought this too. It made me wonder if the guy might have thought it was like FWB instead of exclusive."</blockquote>
we were texting, we hung out 2 or 3 times. he asked me to stay with him. we had sex. & then he asked if we could be categorized as a couple & I said yes.
that's just how it happened. lol
why did it give it up to a guy I wasn't even dating at the time? I was young & dumb. lol