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_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting The Doctor:" OMG, yes. We will be the best of friends and cause all of the old lady mayhem. I want to have a crazy ... [snip!] ... my food at people. And maybe throw a cat at someone. Just for good measure. I already have one bad hip. :wink: I'm on my way!"


Heck yeah! And I want to use lipstick to draw on my eyebrows. Oh I can't wait. hahah

tinana+2 2 kids; Jesus, FC, Aruba 35452 posts
status Jun 5th '13
Quoting Lady GooGoo
The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60753 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting she nan igans:" Heck yeah! And I want to use lipstick to draw on my eyebrows. Oh I can't wait. hahah"


YES. Oh. My. Goodness. I can't wait to be old with you.



Lets go shopping for obnoxiously brightly colored lipsticks. Gotta leave kissey marks on everything.

that.CALIFORNIA.smile 2 kids; California 2562 posts
Jun 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting tinana+2:</b>" :!: I would be disgusted. :cry:"</blockquote>



that is how I felt when I first found out. but it is wearing off now

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
Jun 5th '13

I think the fact that he clearly planned it, connived about it, and lied about it back then would bother me more than the fact they had sex. He gave you bs reasons for not wanting you at the party. His ex "just showed up". More bs. Then he tried to make himself sound all noble by saying she came onto him and he turned her down. More bs. It's unfortunate you didn't find out about the first time sooner, so you could have left his sorry ass before there was a child and marriage involved.

MonkeyMel 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 26202 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" I think the fact that he clearly planned it, connived about it, and lied about it back then would bother ... [snip!] ... find out about the first time sooner, so you could have left his sorry ass before there was a child and marriage involved."


Well, he was a teenager and most teenagers are dumb and make mistakes. She has said that they are very happy now and he's a great father and husband, so I really see no need to put so much though into a teenagers motives.

At the same time, I see your point though since he did cheat on her multiple times (from what I understand).

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" Well, he was a teenager and most teenagers are dumb and make mistakes. She has said that they are ... [snip!] ... motives. At the same time, I see your point though since he did cheat on her multiple times (from what I understand)."


That's my point though... it wasn't just a dumb "teenage mistake". It was clearly thought out and planned. It just shows a very shady side to his character that I wouldn't like or trust, especially considering he cheated on her multiple times since.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" That's my point though... it wasn't just a dumb "teenage mistake". It was clearly thought out and planned. ... [snip!] ... very shady side to his character that I wouldn't like or trust, especially considering he cheated on her multiple times since."


No, it can still be a dumb teenager. Teens ARE dumb, at least a little. They haven't matured. Just because a teenager things that dating someone is no big deal and cheats on her doesn't mean that, as a husband and man later, he won't have realized he was an idiot.



I did things as a teenager I am not proud of. It was who I was THEN and I've grown up and changed a lot since then. I think you're going WAY overboard.

Sweeney Todd Due July 8 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Redlands, CA, United States 13277 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting she nan igans:" No, it can still be a dumb teenager. Teens ARE dumb, at least a little. They haven't matured. Just because ... [snip!] ... I am not proud of. It was who I was THEN and I've grown up and changed a lot since then. I think you're going WAY overboard. "


just a little lol.



I hope to GOD my teenage years are not repeated by my children lol.



and I am so thankful everyday I am not her anymore lol

Mommyof3<3<3<3 Due May 10 (boy); 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Red Deer, Alberta 716 posts
Jun 5th '13

I would be super pissed if my husband one day decided to tell me that he slept with some other chick the day after we started a relationship. I get where you girls are coming from and I dont think its worth breaking up over. However keeping up a lie for 4 years is just wrong. Cheating is cheating doesnt matter if it was a a month a go or 5 years from now. It is what it is. For me Id be questioning what else he's hidden from me.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Jun 5th '13
Quoting Nae&Zoe's Mommy:" I would be super pissed if my husband one day decided to tell me that he slept with some other chick ... [snip!] ... matter if it was a a month a go or 5 years from now. It is what it is. For me Id be questioning what else he's hidden from me."


See, I disagree. If my husband cheated 10 years ago when we first got together, that means there were issues THEN. If he cheated on my a week ago, that means there are issues NOW. There is a difference because cheating shows a serious problem with the relationship. There was barely a relationship at all at that point, and it sounds like he cheated a number of times after that, so I would put it ALL in the category of "in the past" and dealt with and accepted.

LnghrnFan 2 kids; Colorado 26 posts
Jun 5th '13

It can hurt to find out that you were lied to...even if it has been 4 years! As long as he's being faithful now, and you haven't caught him in other lies, maybe you can forgive this one? However, if you find he's still having problems telling you the truth or being faithful, I would seriously consider marriage counseling. A trained therapist might be able to help you work through any problems that remain in your marriage. Hopefully that's not the case. Blessings to you!

K18 El Paso, Texas 18 posts
Jun 6th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting that.CALIFORNIA.smile

user banned 2 kids; Moses Lake, Washington 13508 posts
Jun 6th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 18 weeks with #3!:</b>" Didnt she say *Don't quote*??"</blockquote>




:roll: As if that actually matters. You can tell exactly what she's talking about by reading any of the other comments.

Mommyof3<3<3<3 Due May 10 (boy); 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Red Deer, Alberta 716 posts
Jun 6th '13
Quoting she nan igans:" See, I disagree. If my husband cheated 10 years ago when we first got together, that means there were ... [snip!] ... he cheated a number of times after that, so I would put it ALL in the category of "in the past" and dealt with and accepted. "


I can totally see your point, but does it make it right if your husband cheats on you now and you dont find out about it till 5 years from now... Just because he was good at hiding it doesnt make it okay. That was the point I was trying to make. I get for them it was at the begining of the relationship but it still does not make it okay and it doesnt make it okay to lie about it for so long.