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If you knew a child with behavioral problems... Nymphadora 98 kids; Arizona 3120 posts
5th Jun '13

If you knew a child that had serious behavioral problems that go beyond just being __ age and the parents were oblivious, would you tell them? How would you approach the subject?

He Who Must Not Be Named 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59290 posts
5th Jun '13

Depends. Are these children (and their parents) my immediate family members?



If the answer is no, I wouldn't. It's not my place. Unless they were injuring my child or something of that nature, in that case I would address that.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15526 posts
5th Jun '13

Nothing. I don't feel that it's my place to say anything about their parenting. If they want to have wild monkeys for kids thats fine by me they are not MY kids.

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 103319 posts
5th Jun '13
Quoting The Doctor:" Depends. Are these children (and their parents) my immediate family members? If the answer is no, I ... [snip!] ... wouldn't. It's not my place. Unless they were injuring my child or something of that nature, in that case I would address that."


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☮Hippie Jesus☮ 2 kids; West Virginia 10560 posts
5th Jun '13

Not unless they were family or I knew them really, really well.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13909 posts
5th Jun '13

If the kid is school age I would assume their teacher has noticed and said something.



If it was someone I'm close with I'd just sit them down and express my concern.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
5th Jun '13

As a teacher I have had to tell a few parents and it's kinda hard. They're get offended super easy and blow you off like you know nothing, or be seriously thankful. I would just approach it like "hey I noticed Susie has been really having a hard time lately, do you think she may need spefic help?" Or maybe just tell then you have noticed some behavior that you think could have really negative effects on other kids.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
5th Jun '13

It sucks, but i'd stay out of it,



My son is a hot mess, no1 had to tell me I knew, but I chose to get treatment,if they are in denial that's their issue , they will have to deal with it on their own...

Jenny&Boopy 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7294 posts
5th Jun '13

We had this come up with a friend of SO's and his wife. Their son was so much worse than DS ever was even with his behavioral issues. I told the wife one day that maybe she should consider getting him looked at for ADHD or something similar. Se told me she didn't believe in ADD or ADHD which I found absurd because her husband told us he has ADHD. *shrugs* not much you can do about ther people's kids. I told her I wasn't trying to be intrusive, I just know from experience what hell we went through with DS. And that I wish someone with experience would've suggested I get him seen sooner than I did. I think if you say anything just try to be respectful and back off if they are mad about it.

Nymphadora 98 kids; Arizona 3120 posts
5th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" Nothing. I don't feel that it's my place to say anything about their parenting. If they want to have wild monkeys for kids thats fine by me they are not MY kids."</blockquote>




What if it wasn't really a parenting issue?



What if it's a child that takes pleasure in beating on small dogs then running to their parents saying the dog bit them and then laughs that the dog gets put down. And it has happened multiple times.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22488 posts
status 5th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Depends. Are these children (and their parents) my immediate family members? If the answer is no, I ... [snip!] ... wouldn't. It's not my place. Unless they were injuring my child or something of that nature, in that case I would address that."</blockquote>
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Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31318 posts
5th Jun '13
Quoting Nymphadora:" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" Nothing. I don't feel that it's ... [snip!] ... to their parents saying the dog bit them and then laughs that the dog gets put down. And it has happened multiple times."


Wow, that's a sociopath in the making right there.
To answer the OP, I would say something if it was a family friend, who I am close with or family.



Jenny&Boopy 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7294 posts
5th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nymphadora:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" Nothing. I don't feel that it's ... [snip!] ... to their parents saying the dog bit them and then laughs that the dog gets put down. And it has happened multiple times."</blockquote>




Then I'd say something to them, no question. That's beyond just normal behavioral problems.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11704 posts
5th Jun '13

I did to one of my friends.



her child had extreme autistic behavior and her family was trying to tell her and she swore because her friend had told her he wasn't and she had an autistic child that her son didn't. So I told her that I really felt like he might be and she needed to take him.



she didn't listen to me or get upset



but she did test him finally months later and he did in fact have autism.
He was harming himself though and I found it necessary to say something since she was doing nothing about it but screaming at him from across a room.

mama2manyyy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
5th Jun '13

My cousins son is a psychopath. He obviously has severe issues and his parents appear to be oblivious. I asked my aunt if they have ever considered him seeing a specialist and asked if she thinks he has something wrong with him and she told me yes she thinks he has something going on but to never make that comment to my cousin or his wife. I think they know he has something going on and would rather ignore it then deal with it, its going to really come back to haunt them when he gets older. We just avoid going to visit when we know he might be there and keep our mouths shut otherwise.