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Partner cheated Misslidabet Due November 4; Japan 7 posts
6th Jun '13

Im 18 weeks pregnant and my partner cheatd on me, we also have 2 other children together. He did it while he went away with the Army reserves, 3 nights in a row!!! With some hussy who was in an open relationship. I don't know what to do, im so angry with him but because im pregnant im so emotional and i just want to be with him. Im at a loss, i know he needs to be punished at least for what hes done. Im so confused, please help!!!

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21595 posts
6th Jun '13

I would leave and be a single mother.



I don't put up with cheaters. They're scum.

orchidlovingmama 2 kids; Santa Rosa, California 1769 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I would leave and be a single mother. I don't put up with cheaters. They're scum."</blockquote>




This!!! If you don't leave him he will think its okay to do whatever the hell he wants and there will be no consequences

Amanda[expecting #2!] 2 kids; Texas 286 posts
6th Jun '13

He cheated not once but three times?
Eff that stuff!!!!
I would end it.
Right away.



Sure the emotions will make you feel sad about it but the emotions will fade and you will see that you don't deserve that. You really don't want to be with someone you can't trust.

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7222 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I would leave and be a single mother. I don't put up with cheaters. They're scum."</blockquote>




This.



He cheated on the pregnant mother of his children 3 times?!?



Ps
That girl isn't any more of a skank than your disgusting partner.

Misslidabet Due November 4; Japan 7 posts
6th Jun '13

feel so bad for my kids and the one im carrying inside, I've told him he has to move out so i can figure out what to do. If i wasn't pregnant i wouldn't hesitate leaving but i feel im being selfish only thinking of myself and not the kids.

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7222 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Misslidabet:</b>" feel so bad for my kids and the one im carrying inside, I've told him he has to move out so i can figure ... [snip!] ... to do. If i wasn't pregnant i wouldn't hesitate leaving but i feel im being selfish only thinking of myself and not the kids."</blockquote>




Do you want them to grow up thinking that's how you treat someone you love?

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21595 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting laurenmik:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Misslidabet:</b>" feel so bad for my kids and the one im carrying ... [snip!] ... of myself and not the kids."</blockquote> Do you want them to grow up thinking that's how you treat someone you love?"</blockquote>
This!



Lead by example!



If your child came crying to you that their partner was cheating, what advice would you give them? Leave, right?

Misslidabet Due November 4; Japan 7 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting laurenmik:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I would leave and be a single mother. I don't ... [snip!] ... cheated on the pregnant mother of his children 3 times?!? Ps That girl isn't any more of a skank than your disgusting partner."


I know he is even more disgusting than she is for doing this to me im just pissed off that she is going to get away with it because she knew i was pregnant. i feel she deserves punishment as well as him.

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7222 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Misslidabet:</b>" I know he is even more disgusting than she is for doing this to me im just pissed off that she is going ... [snip!] ... off that she is going to get away with it because she knew i was pregnant. i feel she deserves punishment as well as him."</blockquote>




You're not in a relationship with her.



And "punishment" sounds like a weird word for this situation.



Focus on your SO.. He fucked up, it's ALL his fault.

Sarah Curtsinger 1 child; Spring, Texas 752 posts
6th Jun '13

people are so quick to say oh end your marriage....my husband cheated...yep he was a cheater....and we are still together and since getting out of the army he hasnt cheated since...it took a lot of counseling and a lot of fighting and arguing and resentment...but after a year things are almost back to normal...if you love him you fight for your marriage...and find out what caused him to cheat...with us it was b.c i was never home...i was always working...he was always working and he found himself someone he could confide in and he had an actual affair....my parents are still married after 27 years and my mother cheated on my dad...had an affair for 4 years! this was when he was starting his practice and getting our lives in order...so things like this can be worked through...it does happen...

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21595 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" :!: Kids learn what love is from their parents. "</blockquote>



Very true. SO's parents never touched each other or spoke well to each other. It was like they were roommates, he said. They didn't really hug him either.



It took him almost 3 1/2 years into our relationship for him to really start showing much affection.
He didn't like to be touched for a long time.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21595 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah Curtsinger:</b>" people are so quick to say oh end your marriage....my husband cheated...yep he was a cheater....and we ... [snip!] ... he was starting his practice and getting our lives in order...so things like this can be worked through...it does happen..."</blockquote>




Nope. I don't care if you were never at home or not. He had no reason to cheat.



Any NORMAL human being wouldn't cheat. Ever.

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7222 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah Curtsinger:</b>" people are so quick to say oh end your marriage....my husband cheated...yep he was a cheater....and we ... [snip!] ... he was starting his practice and getting our lives in order...so things like this can be worked through...it does happen..."</blockquote>




I've been married 11 years and my husband and I have both agreed if there was infidelity, we would never recover. I personally could never and probably would never want to move past something like that.

Sarah Curtsinger 1 child; Spring, Texas 752 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting laurenmik:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah Curtsinger:</b>" people are so quick to say oh end your ... [snip!] ... infidelity, we would never recover. I personally could never and probably would never want to move past something like that."

i do believe in some cases it cant be worked out....but for us we did...i mean i guess you never really know what your going to do until it actually physically happens to you...b/c i always said i would leave him....