Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" You went to therapy? & he said the root of the problem was you are never home? Im sorry but the ... [snip!] ... on the one who was faithful is unhealthy... And I would not stay with him after me blamed ME for the reason why he cheated. "
Agreed. You don't fix your marriage by going outside of it. Cheating essentially cancels out any complaints you have against your partner imo. If you have a problem, fix it. Don't go sleep with someone else.
Quoting Minion:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Misslidabet:</b>" I am not throwing everything away, he did ... [snip!] ... it was all him, etc. we got back together and we're actually better now than in the 3 years prior to the breakup. Good luck!"
My first reaction would be kicking him out on his arse. But I think after the initial shock and hurt was gone, I'd try to find out why he did it and figure out if I could trust him again and see if we could work it out.