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user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Proud Mama of 1 :):" Your daughter is obv. not my son. And you obv. don't understand what it is like. Your daughter probly ... [snip!] ... can harm her like my son tries to. And yes i know exactly how toddler are supposed to act, okay?! That's not even the topic! "


Um...of course she does. She's still a toddler. They don't know any better. It's really not hard to sweep/mop/do laundry and watch a child...seriously. I've done it before with other people's kids, I've worked at a 18mo-3yr daycare room, all children around this age get into things they're not supposed to. It has nothing to do with my daughter being easier to take care of, I'll still stand by the fact that you're letting this whole thing overwhelm you and making a bigger deal out of it than it really is.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Vivian [♥]:" I have a 3 year old and a 2 month old and I exercise everyday. My 3 year old is glued to my hip so she ... [snip!] ... If you have time to surf the net, you have time to exercise. Even if it's only 5 minutes at a time spread out throughout the day."


:!: :?

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Proud Mama of 1 :):" He does play in his room but most of the time he wants to be out in the living room and the bathroom ... [snip!] ... for that simple fact. I do walk around the town with him but i want to get more out of my workout with more than just walking. "

Find a gym that offers daycare. If you have an xbox or wii get a workout game for them. Include him in the cleaning give him a rag or something. Make cleaning up a game see who can pick up the most toys the fastest. Everyone has a different thing that works for them you just have to figure out what works for you and your family. Somedays I dont get much of anything done and somedays I get a lot done just depends on the kids moods. Everynight after mine go to bed DH and I do 30 min to an hour of housework. We do family walks after dinner (my oldest runs and its the perfect way to wear her out before bed) There are books ive seen about how to use your kids in a workout where its fun for them but you're getting a good workout.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting The Andromeda Strain:" I really don't understand how people say they don't have time to do things with just one baby. DD is ... [snip!] ... of down time to enjoy her. She's really active too, and always into something, but I just work that into what I'm doing. "


I have to agree with you.
Cleaning up after TWO kids (and DH :P ) is way more work. And DS isn't even mobile yet! And it's MUCH harder to fit in any "me" time. I don't even remember the last time I pissed by myself.



It's all about finding a balance. Or letting some things go. My house isn't as clean as I would like it, but it's still cleaner than most. I can't stress myself out over it because it's pointless. DD is like a hurricane, so messy.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
6th Jun '13

I have a 5 year old, 2 year old and 2 month old. I'm a SAHM mom and I'm alone for at least 10 hours of the day. You just find the time. I wake up at 6, work out, shower, get ready, cook breakfast (usually end up stopping at least once in between to breastfeed the newb). When the kids wake up , they eat. It's fairly simple. I clean as much as humanly possible - I am a bit OCD so I feel a little anxious when my house feels messy to me.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" Find a gym that offers daycare. If you have an xbox or wii get a workout game for them. Include him in ... [snip!] ... There are books ive seen about how to use your kids in a workout where its fun for them but you're getting a good workout. "


I'm kinda sidelining here but my gym has a daycare and the first time I went to drop DD off, it was literally like two 16 year old girls with like 15-20 infants, toddlers and children :shock: More power to 'em, but I just didn't trust that haha

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Vivian [♥]:" I have to agree with you. Cleaning up after TWO kids (and DH :P ) is way more work. And DS isn't even ... [snip!] ... but it's still cleaner than most. I can't stress myself out over it because it's pointless. DD is like a hurricane, so messy."


I guess it just kind of blows my mind because DD is WAY easier at the age she is now than she was when she was a baby, ya know? Like, okay, she can get into more stuff, but either put it away or hide it or whatever. If she wants a drink, she grabs her sippy. She climbs on and off couches, I don't have to worry about her falling off of anything. This is a dream come true compared to the first year pre-walking! Lol. I feel for you have a toddler AND a baby though..that's some hardcore shit. Haha.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Vivian [♥]:" I'm kinda sidelining here but my gym has a daycare and the first time I went to drop DD off, it was ... [snip!] ... 16 year old girls with like 15-20 infants, toddlers and children :shock: More power to 'em, but I just didn't trust that haha"


Yeah. The one gym we looked at had a super nice daycare, but it definitely wasn't for infants.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Andromeda Strain:</b>" I guess it just kind of blows my mind because DD is WAY easier at the age she is now than she was when ... [snip!] ... compared to the first year pre-walking! Lol. I feel for you have a toddler AND a baby though..that's some hardcore shit. Haha. "</blockquote>




Um yeah, a toddler and a baby can definitely be overwhelming if you let it. Like when the baby's screaming for boob and the toddler just pooped and needs a diaper. Or when you're breastfeeding your newb and the toddler won't quit climbing up on the stove -- which he just learned how to do and thinks it's sooo much fun. :?
But nevertheless, I still get shit done -- I mean, you just have to. If you let it overwhelm you, you're gonna be miserable.



I know you weren't talking to me, but I added my 2 cents anyways. :)

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting The Andromeda Strain:" I guess it just kind of blows my mind because DD is WAY easier at the age she is now than she was when ... [snip!] ... compared to the first year pre-walking! Lol. I feel for you have a toddler AND a baby though..that's some hardcore shit. Haha. "


Some people are just more anxious and irritable than others. My best friend was such a helicopter parent with her son. She never left the room, not even to pee, without taking him with her. She never let him touch anything to experience it for himself. Always telling him no when he wasn't doing anything wrong. I always had to tell her to relax. She was obviously very overwhelmed with him, partly because she was 18 and no one prepared or taught her how to take care of a baby.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting tay. ☮:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Andromeda Strain:</b>" I guess it just kind of blows my ... [snip!] ... If you let it overwhelm you, you're gonna be miserable. I know you weren't talking to me, but I added my 2 cents anyways. :)"


I wasn't saying otherwise, that wasn't sarcasm or anything. I really don't think I'd have what it takes to raise a child under three with a new baby. I don't see how people do it. But a 20mo, all by herself? This is the most fun I've had since I became a mom lol.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting tay. ☮:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Andromeda Strain:</b>" I guess it just kind of blows my ... [snip!] ... If you let it overwhelm you, you're gonna be miserable. I know you weren't talking to me, but I added my 2 cents anyways. :)"


Having a baby when you have a toddler sure does help the toddler to become more independent. DD is still mainly up my butt, but she is so much better about playing in her room alone for a little while when I try to get DS to take a nap.
It's definitely harder though. When DS goes to sleep I try to give DD attention, play with her, read to her. Then DS wakes up, feed, change, nap. The cycle continues. Nowhere in this do I get to shower half the time, read my own books, call a friend. I typically have to do things my 3 year can do. When I clean she helps, when I workout she plays next to me.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Andromeda Strain:</b>" I wasn't saying otherwise, that wasn't sarcasm or anything. I really don't think I'd have what it takes ... [snip!] ... a new baby. I don't see how people do it. But a 20mo, all by herself? This is the most fun I've had since I became a mom lol. "</blockquote>




Oh I know, I was just agreeing. :)



I remember when my oldest was that age and I really don't remember having 'no time' to do anything. Maybe I just don't remember. I dunno. I do remember just having fun and playing. Hard to believe she's 5 now with two siblings. :shock:

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vivian [♥]:</b>" Having a baby when you have a toddler sure does help the toddler to become more independent. DD is still ... [snip!] ... call a friend. I typically have to do things my 3 year can do. When I clean she helps, when I workout she plays next to me."</blockquote>




Yeah. How old is she?
My son JUST turned 2 and he's very... Demanding. He plays by himself somewhat, but thankfully he likes to be stuck up my 5 year old's butt, so they play for a little while if I'm preoccupied with the newb. It's crazy when they start to fight and the baby's crying. Sometimes I wish that there was 2 of me, haha. I have learned to just go with the flow and that makes it a looott easier.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting tay. ☮:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vivian [♥]:</b>" Having a baby when you have a toddler ... [snip!] ... Sometimes I wish that there was 2 of me, haha. I have learned to just go with the flow and that makes it a looott easier."


She's 3.5.