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Bedtimes user banned
6th Jun '13

How do you enforce a bedtime with a 4 year old who when he doesnt nap, is the mouthiest little boy ever?



He's napping now, but at bedtime we fight it. He comes up with every excuse in the book not to stay in bed and its wearing me thin. I dont know HOW to get him to go to bed without a fight!



Any tips or tricks?



Thanks!

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
6th Jun '13

Tell him its going to be an early night the next night. And pretty soon he will get to the point of "I have to stay in bed". I would let him have a book and a stuffed animal. My son has no toys in his room at all.

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
6th Jun '13

when my daughter is giving me a really hard time, I sit on the floor in her room with my laptop so I am well entertained, and just repeatedly put her back into bed with no conversation.



I usually tell her it's bedtime and snuggle with her first, but if she starts fighting me I go straight to the floor.



I also have a rule on some nights that I tell her before hand. the first time you fight me, I go on the floor, the second time, I go in the hallway, the third time, I go in the next room.

user banned 3 kids; Texas 26201 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Tell him its going to be an early night the next night. And pretty soon he will get to the point of "I ... [snip!] ... the point of "I have to stay in bed". I would let him have a book and a stuffed animal. My son has no toys in his room at all. "


And what if they keep getting out of bed and whining and crying? He used to be REALLY good at it and now its just unbearable. I dont know what to do to get him to stay!

user banned 3 kids; Texas 26201 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Chim Richalds:" when my daughter is giving me a really hard time, I sit on the floor in her room with my laptop so I ... [snip!] ... the first time you fight me, I go on the floor, the second time, I go in the hallway, the third time, I go in the next room."


Thats a really good idea. Im gonna try that tonight.



I think putting all his toys in his closet, out of sight, out of mind type of thing will help too.

GetItGirl 2 kids; Virginia 2079 posts
6th Jun '13

my son usually comes downstairs because everyone else is still awake, so I'll say "Eli, go try and go to bed, if you're still awake in 15 minutes you can come back down" then of course he's out w/in 2 seconds of his head hitting the pillow. But bedtime is rough around our house too.

user banned 3 kids; Texas 26201 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting GetItGirl:" my son usually comes downstairs because everyone else is still awake, so I'll say "Eli, go try and go ... [snip!] ... back down" then of course he's out w/in 2 seconds of his head hitting the pillow. But bedtime is rough around our house too."


Thats how my son is :( My husband and daughter are in bed by 9 because he gets up early for work and shes worn out by then, but Jake.. nooo.. he tries to stay up with me, which after everyone is in bed, thats MY time to relax while its quiet. That hasnt happened in like 2 weeks and its driving me insane!

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22368 posts
6th Jun '13

don't even fight with him. Don't say anything at all besides it's bedtime. Ignore everything else. Keep putting him back in without saying anything

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Living-Dead Girl:" And what if they keep getting out of bed and whining and crying? He used to be REALLY good at it and now its just unbearable. I dont know what to do to get him to stay!"


:( I dont know what to tell you. Have you tried playing soothing music to help him get to sleep?

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
6th Jun '13

Nyquil.



Eva does the same thing, actually. We just ignore her.

Lasya 2 kids; Atlantic Beach, Florida 351 posts
6th Jun '13

My son doesn't nap anymore, unless we have to wake up REALLLLLY early for something. I'm okay with this because around nap times anyways he's really quiet and settles down for a little bit before dinner. When we wanted him on a better sleeping schedule with him always sleeping in his own room we started with getting him a new "big boy" bed. He has his big boy bed, his big boy blankets and his big boy night lights lmao. :lol: I put one right next to his bed and he hasn't complained since. We have cats too though, and one of my cats always lays in bed with him while he's falling asleep. That probably helps a ton too lol.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22072 posts
status 6th Jun '13

I allow my son (3.5) to stay up in his room and "read" or play quietly. He just has to be in his room by 9 (except sometimes on weekends). If he doesn't nap during the day, I put him down a bit earlier. Sometimes he's ready to go to sleep at 9 and sometimes he's not, but he still stays in his room (except of course to tell us he has to potty usually twice and to get a little cup of water, but that all generally lasts less than 20 minutes and no crying).

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Blythe.:" don't even fight with him. Don't say anything at all besides it's bedtime. Ignore everything else. Keep putting him back in without saying anything"

This. Consistency is key dont fight or argue back just pick up and put back in bed. Make sure you have a solid bedtime routine as well.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16316 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" This. Consistency is key dont fight or argue back just pick up and put back in bed. Make sure you have a solid bedtime routine as well."

This.



We do dinner, then bath, then just some relaxation time with a story and we will talk about our day or our plans for the next day and I tuck him in.

user banned 3 kids; Texas 26201 posts
6th Jun '13

He cries because he wants to watch tv.. or he is hungry.. or he needs a drink.



Its seriously all the shit ive pulled before son, I know how the game is played.




He just keeps coming up with excuses and I can tell him over and over its BEDTIME not PLAYTIME..



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