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Baby in the same room and sex. hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
6th Jun '13

My baby is almost 10 months and still sleeps in our room, our sex life sucks because if it. It doesn't help that I have severe attachment issues with this baby and I'm still not ready to move her into her own room. The whole thing just weirds me out with a baby in the same room. We've only had sex once since she was born.
I'm not really into doing it in the lounge or somewhere else lol I like my bed.
Im sure DH is getting pissed off with me :(
Do you still have sex with your baby in the same room??

jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" For the sake of your marriage, I think you need to meet in the middle and maybe have sex somewhere else besides the bedroom."</blockquote>




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_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting hobbit*:" My baby is almost 10 months and still sleeps in our room, our sex life sucks because if it. It doesn't ... [snip!] ... else lol I like my bed. Im sure DH is getting pissed off with me :( Do you still have sex with your baby in the same room??"


Not when they're that old. What do they sleep in? In the bed or a bassinet. If it's a bassinet can you move the bassinet out of the room while you guys have sex? If not, then I think you need to come up with some middle ground and get out of your comfort zone and have sex elsewhere.

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
6th Jun '13

wow your husband needs to talk to my husband! Once in ten months!! And my husband gets pissed if it's been more than a week, UGH!
Once when our son was like 3-4months old, we did leave him on the bed and have sex on the floor. I was too scared of him rolling off the bed to leave him alone and he was dead asleep, and too young to understand anyway. But it was just that once, other times I would leave him sleeping in his swing or bouncy chair, or on the floor in a boppy while we went to do our thing in another room.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Just Ames:" For the sake of your marriage, I think you need to meet in the middle and maybe have sex somewhere else besides the bedroom."

This. Maybe try the baby in another room just for an hour so you can have some adult time. Something has to give otherwise it can cause serious issues in your marriage.

Kelsey1987 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Utah 745 posts
6th Jun '13

Once in 10 months?? I get mad after like 5 days lol but i hope it gets better

ℐustice ℛenee Due November 17 (boy); 1 child; Georgia 1060 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Just Ames:" For the sake of your marriage, I think you need to meet in the middle and maybe have sex somewhere else besides the bedroom."


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7 lucky charms Due February 28; 7 kids; Ireland 1935 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting hobbit*:</b>" My baby is almost 10 months and still sleeps in our room, our sex life sucks because if it. It doesn't ... [snip!] ... else lol I like my bed. Im sure DH is getting pissed off with me :( Do you still have sex with your baby in the same room??"</blockquote>




yes. i wouldnt have any otherwise. lol. we cant anywhere else but the bed either. our house is too busy.he doesnt wake. none of them ever have. just try be quite;-)

lise ♡ TTC since Jan 2013; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cold, Ol, Canada 64763 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Just Ames:" For the sake of your marriage, I think you need to meet in the middle and maybe have sex somewhere else besides the bedroom."


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Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7324 posts
6th Jun '13

We have *shrugs* . IMO it's not a big deal. I mean LO was asleep and we were under the sheets. We usually opt for other places though while he naps in our room. Lol it's fun to try new places.

hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Not when they're that old. What do they sleep in? In the bed or a bassinet. If it's a bassinet can ... [snip!] ... sex? If not, then I think you need to come up with some middle ground and get out of your comfort zone and have sex elsewhere."</blockquote>




She's in a cot so it's not moveable.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
6th Jun '13

Do you live alone? If yes, why don't you like having sex in other rooms. I can't imagine having sex in the bed all the time. :? To answer your question though, no. It would feel weird. What if the baby wakes up in the middle of it, you don't realize it & she keeps staring at you guys. I know, she's ten months old probably doesn't know what's happening but still, it's weird.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22779 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" For the sake of your marriage, I think you need to meet in the middle and maybe have sex somewhere else besides the bedroom."</blockquote>



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hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
6th Jun '13

I know I do :( I just hate the way I look after having 2 kids in less than 2 years it really took a tole on my body. I feel lighter in a bed lol. I know he doesn't care about that its just my issue I have to get over. :cry:



ETA
I also feel like I'm tainting the house if we have sex so where else lol. Like people come over and have to sit on my couch, our children sit on our couch. I know it's not much different than the kids lying in our bed lol I just feel weird about it.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting hobbit*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Not when they're that old. What do they ... [snip!] ... ground and get out of your comfort zone and have sex elsewhere."</blockquote> She's in a cot so it's not moveable."


Then I think you need to consider other places. Sex is an important part of a relationship, and he's going to feel resentful. It's already an issue with men often that they feel pushed aside for kids. Add to it that you're deciding not to have sex with him (and it is a decision, it isn't that you don't want to), he'll feel that you're ignoring him now. That sort of things can end a marriage to be honest.