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"damage" already done? *plus advice needed!* THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20788 posts
6th Jun '13

First thing
i've been thinking a lot on this. Since birth pretty much i've "that's momma's baby" to DD and her grandmothers say "that's grandma's baby". i've been trying to break the habit esp if we plan to start ttc within the year. So i've been saying "mommy's big girl". do you think this could cause issues with bringing a new baby in?
hope that makes sense...



2ndly
I'd say within the last month or so, if we go out somewhere, i go to change DD in the restroom. As soon as i go to lay her on the changing thing, she starts crying. she gets to the point she's clenching her fists and her hands/arms are shaking. she acts like she's terrified. but everyone who's watched her says she's never fallen. honestly i'm getting a little pissed because i think someone is lying to me. could she just be going through a phase or does it sound like something happened?

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22136 posts
status 6th Jun '13

I know my kid never fell but he started crying on the changing station too when he got a bit older. He grew back out of it, and now he's potty trained so no worries!

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
6th Jun '13

Why would you stop calling her your baby? Is there a reason, or...?



My DS is terrified when I lay him on one of those and I know for a fact he's never fallen.

BRiATCH ♥ 1 child; California 3499 posts
6th Jun '13

Idk about the first part.. but DD used to FLIP HER LID on those diaper changing stations. She finally got over it around.. 20 months-ish? I know she never fell or anything. Idk hope that helps

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20788 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting tay. ☮:" Why would you stop calling her your baby? Is there a reason, or...? My DS is terrified when I lay him on one of those and I know for a fact he's never fallen."

obviously she'll always be my baby but if we're planning to have another, i don't want her to think she's the only one allowed to be momma's baby. like "I'M the baby!" kind of thing.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20788 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting BRiATCH ♥:" Idk about the first part.. but DD used to FLIP HER LID on those diaper changing stations. She finally got over it around.. 20 months-ish? I know she never fell or anything. Idk hope that helps"

is it normal to be that bad though? it just seems a little extreme for nothing to have happened, but i'm paranoid i guess...

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Draco'sStalker:</b>" obviously she'll always be my baby but if we're planning to have another, i don't want her to think she's the only one allowed to be momma's baby. like "I'M the baby!" kind of thing."</blockquote>



I call all 3 of mine my baby and I don't have an issue, but I don't think calling her your big girl would be detrimental to her or anything.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20788 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting tay. ☮:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Draco'sStalker:</b>" obviously she'll always be my baby but ... [snip!] ... of mine my baby and I don't have an issue, but I don't think calling her your big girl would be detrimental to her or anything."

maybe i'm over thinking it then...:?

Roo & Sophie's mama 2 kids; Denton, Texas 9318 posts
6th Jun '13

Part 1:
I praise DS for being a big boy but I still call him my baby ... just because I had another baby doesn't mean he stopped being my baby
Part 2:
Both my kids HATED changing tables and I know that neither of them ever fell while being changed.

Amanda[expecting #2!] 2 kids; Texas 286 posts
6th Jun '13

My DD would freak on the table to once she was around 14 months. I know for a fact she never fell. I think those changing tables just start to feel insecure to them at some point and it scares the little ones. I know I couldn't lay down on something that is just attached to the wall and lay on my back without flipping out.

Adriana's Mami♥ +1 Due December 14 (boy); 33 kids; Ontario 3858 posts
6th Jun '13

I would still call her your baby, she'll always be your baby but maybe it might be exciting for her if you call her your big girl? For the second thing, DD is 22 months and still gets nervous as hell on those changing stations, she'll freak out when toilets flush loud or the dryer goes off.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20788 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Roo & Sophie's mama:" Part 1: I praise DS for being a big boy but I still call him my baby ... just because I had another ... [snip!] ... being my baby Part 2: Both my kids HATED changing tables and I know that neither of them ever fell while being changed."

well as i said, she'll always be my baby and i'll tell her as much, but i worry this young she won't understand when mommy calls another baby her baby too...

BRiATCH ♥ 1 child; California 3499 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" is it normal to be that bad though? it just seems a little extreme for nothing to have happened, but i'm paranoid i guess..."


Eh, I kinda thought my kid was just a spaz lol I had never seen another one act like that.. but reading all these responses, it's actually pretty normal :)

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20788 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Amanda[expecting #2!]:" My DD would freak on the table to once she was around 14 months. I know for a fact she never fell. I ... [snip!] ... little ones. I know I couldn't lay down on something that is just attached to the wall and lay on my back without flipping out."

i just found it weird that at 1st she didn't mind it then suddenly it was this bad. like not a gradual thing... maybe something just clicked in her head then. like with her being shy. she knew no strangers, then suddenly would cry at everyone... :?

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20788 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Adriana's Mami♥ +1:" I would still call her your baby, she'll always be your baby but maybe it might be exciting for her if ... [snip!] ... and still gets nervous as hell on those changing stations, she'll freak out when toilets flush loud or the dryer goes off."

she does that too! she used to cry anytime a toilet would flush. now it's just when she's on those things.



i've switched to calling her big girl. she seems proud when i say it :D