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Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Draco'sStalker:</b>" well as i said, she'll always be my baby and i'll tell her as much, but i worry this young she won't understand when mommy calls another baby her baby too..."</blockquote>




So you teach her to understand? Lol
I call my nephews my baby and ds understands. He's not even two yet but it hasn't caused any jealousy or issues. How will she learn if you avoid it instead of teaching and explaining?

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20019 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting BRiATCH ♥:" Eh, I kinda thought my kid was just a spaz lol I had never seen another one act like that.. but reading all these responses, it's actually pretty normal :)"

see i was thinking this too. i'd never seen a kid act like that, which just fueled my suspicions of someone dropping her. So now i feel a little better...if only there was a way to make her feel better...

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20019 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Draco'sStalker:</b>" well as i said, she'll always be my baby ... [snip!] ... two yet but it hasn't caused any jealousy or issues. How will she learn if you avoid it instead of teaching and explaining?"

i never thought of it that way...i guess i don't give her enough credit for understanding things...we've been bringing her around my nephew so she gets used to seeing me interact with another baby and knowing that she still gets treated the same with him around.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Draco'sStalker:</b>" i never thought of it that way...i guess i don't give her enough credit for understanding things...we've ... [snip!] ... so she gets used to seeing me interact with another baby and knowing that she still gets treated the same with him around."</blockquote>




Yeah kids are really smart and that's a great start to get your DD used to new babies. You can just explain to her that one day mommy will have another baby, she will be a big sister and that they will both always be your babies :).

Amanda[expecting #2!] 2 kids; Texas 286 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Draco'sStalker:</b>" i just found it weird that at 1st she didn't mind it then suddenly it was this bad. like not a gradual ... [snip!] ... just clicked in her head then. like with her being shy. she knew no strangers, then suddenly would cry at everyone... :?"</blockquote>



It was a flip of the switch the with my DD too. At first a thought I hurt her or the table pinched her or something but she just didn't like it all of the sudden. She'll be 4 in August and the other day at babies r us she saw the changing table in the bathroom at babies r us and said "momma no way are you changing my baby sister on that its not safe"
Lol her sister isn't even here yet! But she remembers she didn't like it.



About the first part you haven't done any damage. With my DD I let her know as soon as we did and take her to all dr appointments that don't involve internal checks. My Dr would always have DD stand up and push the chair to the table and help her find my baby's heartbeat. Just talk to her about it and don't forget to involve her.

Bree-L 2 kids; California 263 posts
6th Jun '13

I really think it's normal about the diaper changing thing. My son never fell either and he was TERRIFIED of those changing stations! Screamed throughout the entire diaper change! They get over it though. Mine is potty trained now and it's a thing of the past.



I understand you're thinking about the "my baby" thing. I worry about stuff like that too now that I have baby #2 on the way. I think it's over thinking the situation though. You can always call her your baby, she'll learn that you have TWO babies and that you love them both the same. As long as you give her lots of love and affection, she won't have a problem learning that you have enough love to go around to the both of them! :)

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20019 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Bree-L:" I really think it's normal about the diaper changing thing. My son never fell either and he was TERRIFIED ... [snip!] ... lots of love and affection, she won't have a problem learning that you have enough love to go around to the both of them! :)"

i figured it was just paranoid mommy thoughts. lol




And thank you everyone for putting my mind at ease and all the advice! :D

Bree-L 2 kids; California 263 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" i figured it was just paranoid mommy thoughts. lol And thank you everyone for putting my mind at ease and all the advice! :D"

Definitely paranoid mommy thoughts! :) You'll be ok and she will too! :) And no problem! :)

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20019 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting Bree-L:" Definitely paranoid mommy thoughts! :) You'll be ok and she will too! :) And no problem! :)"

well, the older she gets, i think the better she gets. she's not jealous so much anymore, now she wants to pick the baby up. :lol:

Moon*Siren 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Williamstown, Kentucky 2136 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" First thing i've been thinking a lot on this. Since birth pretty much i've "that's momma's baby" to DD ... [snip!] ... because i think someone is lying to me. could she just be going through a phase or does it sound like something happened?"


Both of mine cried on the changing table, and they have never fallen. Its probably because its so high off the floor, I myself and my hubby is terrified of heights it seems only natural that a child would be afraid of being suspended up high laying down. I know I would be screaming too lol. Now that my son is 4 and out of diapers he still is a lil cautious of high spaces, its odd because my mother is also deathly afraid of heights. It seems like a psychological thing that most kids grow out of except for my son and now my daughter is showing weariness of heights too.