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quite specific, pls read Boob Juice Factory. [EBFB 3 kids; Melbourne, Australia 3264 posts
6th Jun '13

My daughter is due soon and I'm worried she wont know who her dad is for quite a while.



We were together for 5 years, and have two children together as well. He cheated, then told me to leave so I moved back to my home state, on the other side of Australia.



He will be here for her birth, and for a couple of weeks before/after. After that he can only come to see us once a month for a few days (on a weekend).



My question is how long did it take your child to remember someone they only saw that occasionally?

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
6th Jun '13

I don't think that you will have to worry honestly. My kids are now 4 and 5 and see their Dad maybe twice a year, and know exactly who he is. Just try doing phone calls, and keep pictures around for your LO to see

tee.air.rah 1 child; California 1184 posts
6th Jun '13

When my nephew was born, he only saw me a few times a month. When he was 5 months old, I came to visit and he was crying over something, but when I walked up he just stopped crying and started giggling and smiling really hard. That's when I could tell he recognized me

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
6th Jun '13

Well, imo. I don't think she'll really know nor care about anyone other than you and those who live with her. Is there a possibility that you two might get back together? DH and I separated when DD was six months old. Got back together after being split for like five months. It didn't take long to remember him. Then again, I'd always show her pictures of him and tell her that was daddy.

4andcounting Due February 1; Fresno, California 7 posts
6th Jun '13

Dont worry about it too much. When I had my first child my husband and I lived apart I kept alot of picturesof him around the house and showed him daddy randomly. my son never forgot he knew who his father was as soon as he saw him

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting b**b Juice Factory. [EBFB:</b>" My daughter is due soon and I'm worried she wont know who her dad is for quite a while. We were together ... [snip!] ... a few days (on a weekend). My question is how long did it take your child to remember someone they only saw that occasionally?"</blockquote>




18 months

Boob Juice Factory. [EBFB 3 kids; Melbourne, Australia 3264 posts
6th Jun '13

Maybe I shouldn't be too worried, our boys only saw their great grandma once a month and definitely recognized her by about 6 months.



I will always have photos around, he is my kids' world really.



I guess I'm worried he will feel rejected by her if she gets upset in the first months because she has no idea who he is.



And having 3 under 5, looking after a newborn alone in another state, with not much surrounding support or help. Just thinking about it all is bringing back my anxiety.

Elena Gilbert 4 kids; La Center, KY, United States 2730 posts
6th Jun '13

the last time my son saw his dad he was 2. and he didnt see him again until he was 5. and he knew and remeber him. we didnt talk about him either.

♥Manda♥ Swan Valley, WA, Australia 29398 posts
6th Jun '13

Bella used to only see her dad 1 day a month until she was about 15 months old then it was 1 day a fortnight an she always recognised him... Or maybe she just didn't care who was holding her lol