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Update about my last post That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
6th Jun '13

I finally left. It's been two weeks, I am staying with my family and he is staying at our home. I haven't filed for divorce yet because I lack funds. He has popped in to see the kids about twice a week for about 30-1 hr. but won't actually take care of them. He gave me 100 for child care and literally 40 bucks for two kids for two weeks. He says that because I left him he shouldn't have to help us. I am still driving his truck for now, but I don't want either of the vehicles. I don't want our home, I don't want any of it. Our whole marriage he has held things over my head I'm ready to have something that is mine! I'm more angry then sad. And know that the next years ahead will be major struggles. Now I'm trying to figure out how to file how much it costs and to get a lawyer.

Princess Celestia +1 1 child; Tallahassee, Florida 3635 posts
6th Jun '13

Good for you for doing what you need to do to be happy.



And yes, even if you left him, he should be responsible for financially caring for his children. :roll:



Good luck, mama!

4andcounting Due February 1; Fresno, California 7 posts
6th Jun '13

please be careful your kids and yourself need your home and a vehicle. I know this because I was in your same shoes last year..I left my husband with my three kids with nothing just our suit cases I guess it was me trying to prove a point to him. This past year has been unbearably hard on my kids and I. We have an apartment which is way smaller then our family home that they are used to. Still no vehicle riding the bus with three kids and gtocerys is a hard task I barely have money now to feed them yet alone provide the extras their used to gymnastics,cheer,football. The point is that leaving with nothing is harmful to your children go back to your home kick his ass out keep the car and try to survive your kids shouldnt have to suffer because of your pride..trust me they would rather be in their own beds at night.. Trust me I know I hate that I have allowed my kids even one day of uncomfortableness over my pride

That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 4andcounting:</b>" please be careful your kids and yourself need your home and a vehicle. I know this because I was in your ... [snip!] ... their own beds at night.. Trust me I know I hate that I have allowed my kids even one day of uncomfortableness over my pride"</blockquote>




Well the home we don't own so I can't afford 750 in rent. I'm lucky to have my parents to help for now and they are going to co sign for a car and I'm going to pay it off while I'm staying with them. But I am taking everything inside because it was my family's and I still have all my belongings there. Even all the kids furniture I paid for

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50677 posts
6th Jun '13

Good for you for leaving. I recently kicked my husband out since it was so toxic around here. File for child support ASAP. My kids' dad pulled the same bs. Also there's legal aid for low income and filing papers are free/minimal amount.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50677 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 4andcounting:</b>" please be careful your kids and yourself need your home and a vehicle. I know this because I was in your ... [snip!] ... their own beds at night.. Trust me I know I hate that I have allowed my kids even one day of uncomfortableness over my pride"</blockquote>




:?

4andcounting Due February 1; Fresno, California 7 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 4andcounting:</b>" please be careful your kids and yourself ... [snip!] ... everything inside because it was my family's and I still have all my belongings there. Even all the kids furniture I paid for"</blockquote>



good for you honey it sounds like you have an awesome support system...Things will get better..

4andcounting Due February 1; Fresno, California 7 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 4andcounting:</b>" please be careful your kids and yourself ... [snip!] ... everything inside because it was my family's and I still have all my belongings there. Even all the kids furniture I paid for"</blockquote>



good for you honey it sounds like you have an awesome support system...Things will get better..

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 19727 posts
status 6th Jun '13

I agree put his ass on child support. Although here, for my divorce, I was able to go through legal aid and it was only the 169$ filing fee I had to pay. They also have a waiver if you're low income the judge can decide to waive it.

That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
6th Jun '13

And the kids are only suffering because their dad isn't even trying to spend time with them. I mean he calls our 3 year old son and asks if he wants to stay with daddy knowing hell say no I want to stay at Grandmas. My 5 month old.. Well you get that

That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
6th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:</b>" I agree put his ass on child support. Although here, for my divorce, I was able to go through legal aid ... [snip!] ... it was only the 169$ filing fee I had to pay. They also have a waiver if you're low income the judge can decide to waive it. "</blockquote>




I found a website for low or free lawyers but it said you had to make less than 19,000 a year. Well before taxes and dental health and life insurance I make 24,900.

A mother & wife 2 kids; Pennsylvania 4817 posts
7th Jun '13

Happy for you. Now you can start living the life you deserve.



Im no help with Divorce. But if you are a single mother now their might be programs out there to help.