To handle my 4 year old right now. Im 33 weeks pregnant. She isnt listening. She is very mouthy. Tempter tantrums when she doesnt get her way. She wont sleep without daddy at night. Im at my wits end with her. Im so frustrated and so is my husband. I dont no what to do. Help please
We're going through the temper tantrum stage with my 3.5 year old, and I'm 32 weeks pregnant. I think they know that things are changing and they're not going to be the center of attention anymore. I wish I had some advice. Just hang in there, mama.
Mine went through the same thing. The mouthy part she is still going through it actually got her in trouble earlier this evening. It is jealousy from what I was told when I asked.
Temper tantrums are normal. She should eventually learn to work through her emotions without a full on meltdown though. If she has a tantrum I would just show her empathy, but that doesn't mean you have to give in. It's a developmentally appropriate reaction so it's not something that needs to be punished. I would stand with her and empathize with her, "I know you're upset. You're mad because I won't let you _____" etc. Show her that you understand her feelings, and how to work through them. This will help her brain form the connection in the future of how to calm down herself or how to be upset and communicate her feelings without a full on meltdown. Also, I would make sure you're doing things with her and not to her, if that makes sense. 4 year olds have a strong desire to be independent. Allow her to make choices that you're okay with. If she's melting down over getting dressed give her the control by picking out the outfits and letting her choose which one. Or if she wants a snack pick out two and let her choose. Or if you want her to do something you can ask if she wants to do it or if she wants you to do it for her. Give her the feeling that she has some control over what is happening around her.
Since you said you're pregnant my first instinct is that she's having issues with that. Being only 4 she has no real way to communicate her feelings about the situation to you guys. The basis of good behavior is a strong connection imo so that's where I would start. Do you guys still get a lot of time to cuddle and really connect everyday? She might feel like the new baby is going to take her place.
Also try to teach her empathy by explaining to her how the things that she does makes you feel. "When you talk to me like that it really hurts my feelings". Get on her level, or bring her to yours, and look her in the eyes and really connect with her. Make sure you're also giving her the opportunity to say what she wants to say, in a respectful way, and to listen to her. She will be more likely to return the respect.
And I'm not saying that you do or don't do any of the above. That's just general advice based on my limited knowledge of what you're dealing with. So I hope nothing offends. :)
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Not offended at all. It actually helped calm me down cause now I have other ways to handle her or at least try. Thank you very much hun.