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deletedd M♥MMY to 3 GIRLS:) Due October 22 (girl); 2 kids; California 1916 posts
7th Jun '13

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user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
7th Jun '13

I'd tell him you're more upset he's lying, and wish he'd tell the truth and you wouldn't be so hurt.



& then I would try couples counseling.



I don't believe in just giving up on a relationship.

GavinsMomJohnnysWife 2 kids; Texas 2789 posts
7th Jun '13

That was a dick move on his part, but unless you have reason to suspect he cheated I wouldn't throw in the towel just yet. It sounds like he desperately knows he fucked up.

LIVE.OUT.LOUD Due July 11 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lawrenceville, Georgia 1624 posts
7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" I'd tell him you're more upset he's lying, and wish he'd tell the truth and you wouldn't be so hurt. & then I would try couples counseling. I don't believe in just giving up on a relationship."</blockquote>



This! I hope yall can work things out.

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
7th Jun '13

I think it's messed up that he didn't take the time to meet your dad and spend time with you, but instead lied just to be with other people..... But yeah I would try to talk it out and see why he lied and all that.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 109006 posts
status 7th Jun '13

I'm not a fan of the lying
repeatedly.

I would suggest a break

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36693 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" I'd tell him you're more upset he's lying, and wish he'd tell the truth and you wouldn't be so hurt. & then I would try couples counseling. I don't believe in just giving up on a relationship."


This!



As much as I hate liars. I would try to make it work before I called it quits.

Van West Auckland, NZ, New Zealand 3179 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" I'd tell him you're more upset he's lying, and wish he'd tell the truth and you wouldn't be so hurt. & then I would try couples counseling. I don't believe in just giving up on a relationship."


:!:

M♥MMY to 3 GIRLS:) Due October 22 (girl); 2 kids; California 1916 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" I'd tell him you're more upset he's lying, and wish he'd tell the truth and you wouldn't be so hurt. & then I would try couples counseling. I don't believe in just giving up on a relationship."


I just feel like if he is lying to me about this. then it will continue. I have always had pretty honest and loyal men its like one of the first things I look for. I am just still in shock that he would even lie! This is the first time I have ever caught him in a lie in 4 years that I have known him..

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" I'm not a fan of the lying repeatedly. I would suggest a break"

I was leaning towards this as well because I see it as he not only lied, but he didn't even spend his free time with you and meeting your dad like it seems you guys had previously planned on.
If a guy I was dating had free time and lied to me and said he was working, i would be hurt that he didn't want to spend his time with me and lied to avoid it.

M♥MMY to 3 GIRLS:) Due October 22 (girl); 2 kids; California 1916 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting GavinsMomJohnnysWife:" That was a dick move on his part, but unless you have reason to suspect he cheated I wouldn't throw in the towel just yet. It sounds like he desperately knows he fucked up."


I think he does know. I told him before that lying and cheating are dealbreakers for me.. And the thing with liars if they lie about something its probably to cover something else up with another lie .. I had BAD trust issues in the past and when we got back together we had such a good relationship, no trust problems. Now I feel like I can't believe what he says and now im questioning things that have happened in the past. Such a shitty feeling inside when you find things out in a bad way:/.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 109006 posts
status 7th Jun '13
Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:" I was leaning towards this as well because I see it as he not only lied, but he didn't even spend his ... [snip!] ... and lied to me and said he was working, i would be hurt that he didn't want to spend his time with me and lied to avoid it. "

I just think he has more to hide because he lied about it multiple times

M♥MMY to 3 GIRLS:) Due October 22 (girl); 2 kids; California 1916 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:" I was leaning towards this as well because I see it as he not only lied, but he didn't even spend his ... [snip!] ... and lied to me and said he was working, i would be hurt that he didn't want to spend his time with me and lied to avoid it. "


I know thats also another factor. :( I dont know if he was lying because of the fact that he ditched me and my family for the beach with his friends.. Or if he was with people that I probably would not be "cool" with him being with .. Oh and apparently they had a handle of vodka... He was not texting me for like 4 hours and said his "phone died" while he was at his friends house..

Mommy2ThreeLilMonkeys 3 kids; California 5005 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting M♥MMY to 3:):" I just feel like if he is lying to me about this. then it will continue. I have always had pretty honest ... [snip!] ... in shock that he would even lie! This is the first time I have ever caught him in a lie in 4 years that I have known him.."


what i have learned is people don't lie about stupid stuff- you may never catch him but if you suspect there were girls then i suggest you push further to have him tell the whole truth because you will not be satisfied or trusting until he does. if he chooses to continue to lie- i'd ask for a break until he can tell you the whole truth. if you have good instinct you will know when he has told the truth. because honestly if you stand your ground on this- he will know he can not lie again- my husband has lied before (earlier years) and he still says he doesn't know how i caught him every time- but i just went with my instinct and stuck with it & if you know your man- i think you know when they lie.

M♥MMY to 3 GIRLS:) Due October 22 (girl); 2 kids; California 1916 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" I just think he has more to hide because he lied about it multiple times"


me too. :?



you dont just lie about something so stupid just because...And I asked him atleast 20 times to just tell me the truth. Finally he did , but what if I did not persist? I would have never known.