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so.. what does this mean..? I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
7th Jun '13

ive been dating my SO for 6 months.

the past week and a half weve both been really busy. hes been working overtime, so have i, and my car also broke and so my BD has been staying over so we can share his car as he fixes mine (i paid him to fix it, and were not getting back together or anything-- infact he is driving me nuts staying there, its only out of necessity) ANYWAY so we have not seen each other in about a week.

as the week goes on.. i miss him less and less.. and find myself thinking i want to just be single, for like a year. just not have to worry about others wants or needs (besides my kids) and work on myself. and i feel at peace with that, and not lonley like i used to..

he is actually a pretty good guy, and i dont doubt he would be a good role model for my kids..

...was he my rebound from BD then? do i really not care about him? im so confused. he keeps saying he misses me and such.. and i say the words.. but i dont feel it :/

DO NOT QUOTE

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7116 posts
7th Jun '13

Sounds like you jumped on the first guy that came around after you and BD broke up which is a big mistake in most cases. If you are feeling that way then you should break it off with SO so you are not dragging him through you not wanting to be with him and you toying with his emotions.

Jenny&Boopy Due June 26; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7410 posts
7th Jun '13

I'd break it off if you don care about him.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
7th Jun '13

i do care about him. i think it would just be better to be friends..

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
7th Jun '13

break it off, don't lead him along.



Taking time to work on yourself is a great thing, far too many people jump from relationship to relationship for fear of being alone. There is something to be said for a independent and secure individual!

BeginTheRomance Due July 21 (girl); 1 child; Rochester, New York 373 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting I Stab People:" i do care about him. i think it would just be better to be friends.."


That's exactly what I would tell him then. :)

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 6378 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting I Stab People:" i do care about him. i think it would just be better to be friends.."

If you think that then why question it? I think you sound overwhelmed right now though, if it were me I might give things time to settle down, spend some more time with him and see how I felt then

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
7th Jun '13

You're okay with having your child's father sleep in your home, and honestly believe its out of necessity, like carpooling isn't an option.



Clearly you're not invested in your relationship.

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" You're okay with having your child's father sleep in your home, and honestly believe its out of necessity, like carpooling isn't an option. Clearly you're not invested in your relationship."

omg...i never agree with anything you have to say...but today I do. He doesn't have to stay there..he could pick you up in the morning or whenever you work....seems like you have unfinished business with your SO.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" You're okay with having your child's father sleep in your home, and honestly believe its out of necessity, like carpooling isn't an option. Clearly you're not invested in your relationship."


he works till 3am and i have to be at work at 4am.. sooo yeah

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" You're okay with having your child's father sleep in your home, and honestly believe its out of necessity, like carpooling isn't an option. Clearly you're not invested in your relationship."</blockquote>




You don't know her story. Just because the father of the kids is there to help her out doesn't mean she isn't invested in a "relationship"

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I Stab People:</b>" he works till 3am and i have to be at work at 4am.. sooo yeah"</blockquote>



So he's stating with you 24/7 because he has one hour in between when he needs to take you to work? Makes no sense.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" You're okay with having your child's father ... [snip!] ... her story. Just because the father of the kids is there to help her out doesn't mean she isn't invested in a "relationship""</blockquote>



So what would you say if it were the other way around and she was complaining about her boyfriend who's making excuses about his vehicle to get away with letting his baby momma stay at his house with him?

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" ... [snip!] ... about her boyfriend who's making excuses about his vehicle to get away with letting his baby momma stay at his house with him?"</blockquote>




Since I wouldn't know the boyfriend or his baby momma ,I would feel different. But I know OP.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I Stab People:</b>" he works till 3am and i have to be at work ... [snip!] ... So he's stating with you 24/7 because he has one hour in between when he needs to take you to work? Makes no sense."</blockquote>



I work 4a to 2p he leaves for work at 230p and gets here at 3a We arnt "together" it's like that when I work regardless, it's just I usually only work 3 days a week but were short right now and Thursday was my only day off in which we took our son to the cardiologist and then came back here and he worked on my car and I stayed inside. Just like I only work till 930am tomorrow but I will come home and he will go to the garage to work on my car and I will stay with te kids