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tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15536 posts
7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... He has told several people and me he cares nothing about her. I'm not fussing at you. I'm just mad at the whole situation."</blockquote>




It's a shitty situation I agree and hopefully a judge will take your side. If you fight the dna it will look like you are trying to hide something though. Just do what they ask of you and explain how he's been out of the picture for so long that it would be in the best interest of your child that it stays that way.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21727 posts
status 7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" Get a new laywer. My lawyer fought for me tooth and nail. He had to convince ME to let him do certain ... [snip!] ... certain things lol because I thought he was almost fighting too hard. In the end I'm lucky I had him standing up for me though."</blockquote>




I will. I actually have an appointment with the same lawyer who won DS to SO. (He was adopted). Other lawyers told SO it was impossible, but she made it happen.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15536 posts
7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" Get a new laywer. My lawyer fought for me tooth and nail. He had to convince ME to let him do certain ... [snip!] ... certain things lol because I thought he was almost fighting too hard. In the end I'm lucky I had him standing up for me though."</blockquote>



I agree with getting a new lawyer. A lawyers job is to fight for you.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21727 posts
status 7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army ... [snip!] ... how he's been out of the picture for so long that it would be in the best interest of your child that it stays that way."</blockquote>



Oh yeah if the judge tells me to I will do what he says.



But I will try my hardest to convince the judge that it all just needs to be left alone.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21727 posts
status 7th Jun '13

DD had a daddy already too. He's not bio dad, but he's great. She loves him and he loves her. She calls him daddy, too.



Would this play a factor? He's been around since she was a month old and wants to adopt her, but we're scared it'll stir up crap with BD.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15536 posts
7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" DD had a daddy already too. He's not bio dad, but he's great. She loves him and he loves her. She calls ... [snip!] ... play a factor? He's been around since she was a month old and wants to adopt her, but we're scared it'll stir up crap with BD."</blockquote>




Are you married to him? If not it would be hard for him to adopt her. The judge may take that into consideration.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21727 posts
status 7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" DD had a daddy already too. He's not bio dad, but ... [snip!] ... Are you married to him? If not it would be hard for him to adopt her. The judge may take that into consideration."</blockquote>



Not yet, but we are getting married in 15 days. We will be married by the court date.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15536 posts
7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... consideration."</blockquote> Not yet, but we are getting married in 15 days. We will be married by the court date."</blockquote>



I think you would have to be married at least a year to be able to do a step parent adoption.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21727 posts
status 7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army ... [snip!] ... court date."</blockquote> I think you would have to be married at least a year to be able to do a step parent adoption."</blockquote>



Maybe so. But I hope it makes a better case for me.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15536 posts
7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... least a year to be able to do a step parent adoption."</blockquote> Maybe so. But I hope it makes a better case for me."</blockquote>



I think her already having a father figure that has been there for her her whole life will look better on you. Good luck!

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21727 posts
status 7th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army ... [snip!] ... I think her already having a father figure that has been there for her her whole life will look better on you. Good luck!"</blockquote>




Thanks! He has financially helped support her, too, just like she is his.

bean.dip 1 child; 3 angel babies; Assawoman, Virginia 1192 posts
status 9th Jun '13

Just gather any evidence you have saying he has no interest in her. And yes get a new lawyer! Good luck!!

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21727 posts
status 9th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting bean.dip:</b>" Just gather any evidence you have saying he has no interest in her. And yes get a new lawyer! Good luck!!"</blockquote>



Thanks!

bean.dip 1 child; 3 angel babies; Assawoman, Virginia 1192 posts
status 9th Jun '13
Quoting Minion:" <blockquote><b>Quoting bean.dip:</b>" Just gather any evidence you have saying he has no interest in her. And yes get a new lawyer! Good luck!!"</blockquote> Thanks!"


You're welcome! I went through a pain in the ass custody battle, only for the douchecanoe to walk out of my kid's life. I had a pretty awesome lawyer, so I know how helpful they can be...and BD had an expensive lawyer who screwed him over. (Which I find hilarious) So it sucks that there are crap lawyers out there! If you need any other advice I would be happy to help!

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21727 posts
status 9th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting bean.dip:</b>" You're welcome! I went through a pain in the ass custody battle, only for the douchecanoe to walk out ... [snip!] ... I find hilarious) So it sucks that there are crap lawyers out there! If you need any other advice I would be happy to help!"</blockquote>




Thank you. :) I just hope I can make him go away. :(