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ℐαzmчn 2 kids; Somerset, Kentucky 12712 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting almuuh:" Thank you. Someone understands. That's why its called a vent, but I guess people don't read the titles."


I understand your frustration but venting on here isn't going to help your situation. If you want him to change you need to talk to him and like the other ladies said put your foot down.

Naturally Alternative 34 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 5640 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Mommy to 3 boys & 1 girl:" You can vent all you want but when you post something in a public forum people are going to express their ... [snip!] ... it. Tell him to quit acting like a teenager with no responsibility and start being a father and the SO that he's suppose to be."


This. It's a vent when you try to fix the problem but can't/failed... not just passive aggressive spouting that you should tell him to his face so the situation can actually change.

ℐαzmчn 2 kids; Somerset, Kentucky 12712 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Mommy to 3 boys & 1 girl:" You can vent all you want but when you post something in a public forum people are going to express their ... [snip!] ... it. Tell him to quit acting like a teenager with no responsibility and start being a father and the SO that he's suppose to be."


:!:
Exactly this is BG you will always get people that will usually tell you to suck it up or change the situation when venting here. That's a given. You don't want to see those comments, make a PTOT or make a private blog where you can vent your little heart out.

......................... Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
8th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting almuuh:</b>" Tjats the beautiful part. I didn't put "all" I put dads. Not ALL dads."</blockquote>




You should have put "my fathers child". If I write "women are emotional and whiny" would you take that as singular or plural? Or should I specifically mention that I'm referring to just you?

almuuh 2 kids; California 1701 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I really wish more people would do that. Mine's far from perfect, I want to slap him so hard sometimes lol... But when it comes down to it, he's pretty awesome. "


That's just it. My fiance isn't perfect. I was venting about his flaws. It's a vent, thats what it's for, I never said he doesn't nothing right, or he's a shitty dad. He can be a great dad. I'm just pissed cuz he went out with a friend. but didn't wanna take me out. I've been stuck at home all week, I need freedom. I needed to let out frustration. This is more frustrating though, seeing people tell me shit cuz I wanna let off some steam to other moms in hopes that someone understands so I don't feel alone.

almuuh 2 kids; California 1701 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting ℐαzmчn:" I understand your frustration but venting on here isn't going to help your situation. If you want him to change you need to talk to him and like the other ladies said put your foot down."


Ohh I know it won't help. I didn't ask for help, I just want to let off steam. I don't have any friends to talk to, so here I am.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting ℐαzmчn:" I understand your frustration but venting on here isn't going to help your situation. If you want him to change you need to talk to him and like the other ladies said put your foot down."


Precisely but someone had to make it out like we're b***hes because we have good men.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting almuuh:</b>" Tjats the beautiful part. I didn't put "all" I ... [snip!] ... and whiny" would you take that as singular or plural? Or should I specifically mention that I'm referring to just you?"


/dead

ℐαzmчn 2 kids; Somerset, Kentucky 12712 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting almuuh:" That's just it. My fiance isn't perfect. I was venting about his flaws. It's a vent, thats what it's ... [snip!] ... people tell me shit cuz I wanna let off some steam to other moms in hopes that someone understands so I don't feel alone."


"Yet when I wanna shower, taking the kids for 20 mins is sooo f**king hard right? Or help with a diaper change, just holding them for a minute. Like I'm sorry I disturbed your nap, cuz I don't wish I could have some silence for a few hours. That's some bullshit."



Seems like it was just more than him going out tonight. But if you know he can be a great dad that's good for you. We understand that significant others piss each other off at times. Hell humans piss each other off sometimes but I think the way you worded it made it seem like you were talking about all dad's and like it's an everyday thing you seem to have a problem with.




But it's the internet. Things definitely get read the wrong way at times, especially vents. But like I said if you don't want comments back don't vent publicly. It's that simple. I understand you just want someone to understand what you're going through though.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting almuuh:" That's just it. My fiance isn't perfect. I was venting about his flaws. It's a vent, thats what it's ... [snip!] ... people tell me shit cuz I wanna let off some steam to other moms in hopes that someone understands so I don't feel alone."


You generalized men though. You said "Dads on the other hand, they get a call and leave. No worries, no problems"



That's not referring to just yours but dads in general. And I'm going to stand up for my husband and the other good men out there.

......................... Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
8th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" /dead"</blockquote>




:D I had to lol

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" /dead"</blockquote> :D I had to lol"


It was perfect