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Should the father see him? **Samie** 2 kids; Inverness, Florida 359 posts
8th Jun '13

ok so my son is almost 2 and has never seen his father (he didnt wanna see his son) well about 6-7 months ago the father texted me saying he was sorry and wanted to be there for his son he said that there was no doubt that my son was his....well he had court a few weeks ago and told the judge that he is not his father. so idk if i should let him see his son im afraid that he will be in and out of his life



what do yall think

Nancy Botwin. 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hooker, 11285 posts
8th Jun '13

Surely a judge would suggest a DNA test?

**Samie** 2 kids; Inverness, Florida 359 posts
8th Jun '13

yeah he had one done about four days ago we are just waiting on our order

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
8th Jun '13

I would do everything possible to encourage a relationship.



With that said, it would start with him proving to me that he wants to be around full time, then I would slowly start supervised (by me) visits.

**Samie** 2 kids; Inverness, Florida 359 posts
8th Jun '13

yeah that would work it will have to be that away anyway cuz his father lives out of state

.Sweet Dee. 1 child; New York City, NY, Hong Kong 4354 posts
8th Jun '13

It sounds like maybe he just realized he's about to be paying child support and the more he sees him the less he pays, right?

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46816 posts
8th Jun '13

If he is denying him as his own son to the court, deliberately, after telling you he knows he's the dad and wants to be in his life... it sounds like he is up to something. Maybe he's trying to get out of paying child support, which is really shitty.



I would just give it more time. I wouldn't jump in and encourage a relationship yet... I'd see what happens after this whole court thing blows over, and then go from there. If he's still interested in being a part of his son's life... that's great... go for it.. but if once the court stuff shakes out, he disappears... you will know it's not worth your time.



I agree with you that I wouldn't want to introduce him to his dad, just to have him leave... or come in and out of his life and play head games.

** 19 kids; Conway, Arkansas 3576 posts
8th Jun '13

My son was almost 2 when his father first met him, he didn't so much as lay eyes on him..moved out of state to run from his problems, etc. Well after the court ordered child support his attitude changed completely. For a while. For the next year he was in and out abd would keep consistency, so I told him ..until he grew up or took me to court he was not goibg to see him. So ge brought me to court in December. The relationship they have now is unbelievable. In just 6 short months they have developed a very close bond. I thought for a while it was because he took me to court abd had.to work for him, however I don't think that's it. I finally allowed him the respect as his father, and not just some dead beat trying.to take time away from my son and I. A lot of times, if men are given this, they step up. Expect a lot out of him, but my son is going to be a better person because he won't have.to struggle.with daddy issues

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
8th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MunchkinWrangler:</b>" If he is denying him as his own son to the court, deliberately, after telling you he knows he's the dad ... [snip!] ... that I wouldn't want to introduce him to his dad, just to have him leave... or come in and out of his life and play head games."</blockquote>




I agree with this.