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Money and my husband don't mix! WWYD? *Ay&Ryker's Mommy* Due January 14 (boy); 1 child; Kentucky 364 posts
8th Jun '13

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Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
8th Jun '13

Don't give him your debit card?!? Tell him unless he gets a job he has no spending money!

mommy2thing1&thing2 Due November 11 (girl); 2 kids; Phoenix, Arizona 3064 posts
8th Jun '13

kick his ass to the curb! if he cant get a job or respect you not wanting him to spend al lthe money you dont need him. if hes that bad with money now what are you going to do to support your baby?

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
8th Jun '13

If you insist on staying with someone who does absolutely zero for you, at least stop making it so easy for him to be a lazy mooch. No more debit card for him. I wouldn't give him money at all, frankly. Less than 50 for 2 weeks? Come on. He needs to chip in. No freebies until he does.

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49101 posts
8th Jun '13

um kick his ass out.... If thats not an option give him the 20 and not give him my card.



But if he has a bad charge he may have a hard time finding a job

*Ay&Ryker's Mommy* Due January 14 (boy); 1 child; Kentucky 364 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Click Me Click Me!!!:" um kick his ass out.... If thats not an option give him the 20 and not give him my card. But if he has a bad charge he may have a hard time finding a job "


That's what I wanted to do was get out the 20 and keep my card, but I would have been late for work so instead I just trusted that he would be responsible! He is a convicted felon and I know that it's hard for him to get a job because of that but like I said he has put in no effort at all to find one! Hell I've even filled out applications for him! I mean what else should I do besides dragging him by the hair on his head to get an effin job! Grrr.. I'm soooo mad.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting *Ayden's Momma *:" That's what I wanted to do was get out the 20 and keep my card, but I would have been late for work ... [snip!] ... for him! I mean what else should I do besides dragging him by the hair on his head to get an effin job! Grrr.. I'm soooo mad."

Can't be too mad, man-that's what you sign up for when you stay with a felon. He may NEVER be able to get a job. Does he have a trade or any education ?

mommy2thing1&thing2 Due November 11 (girl); 2 kids; Phoenix, Arizona 3064 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting *Ayden's Momma *:" That's what I wanted to do was get out the 20 and keep my card, but I would have been late for work ... [snip!] ... for him! I mean what else should I do besides dragging him by the hair on his head to get an effin job! Grrr.. I'm soooo mad."

it may be harder to find a job but not impossible. i couldnt be with a man who knew he had a child on the way and still did nothing to find a job. you need to start thinking about whats best for you and baby. if you only have $50 for 2 weeks how are you going to support the new baby?

CerealMakerWife♥ TTC since Apr 2013; 5 kids; Ukraine 36287 posts
8th Jun '13

Stop enabling him. Kick his ass out and tell him if he really wants to be family and cares about you and the kids then get a job and prove himself. Sounds like he's just using you.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
8th Jun '13

This sounds exactly like my cousin and her husband, he has quiet a few theft charges as well as drug charges. They've been married 5 years, she's still supporting him, he still doesn't have a job, he still takes more money than they have to spare. You either need to put your foot down or kick him to the curb.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
8th Jun '13

He needs to at least try to find something. There are a lot of places that won't do background checks, or care about a felony depending what it is. It sounds like he knows you're going to pick up his slack and let it go, which you need to stop doing.

*Ay&Ryker's Mommy* Due January 14 (boy); 1 child; Kentucky 364 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting mommy2thing1&thing2:" it may be harder to find a job but not impossible. i couldnt be with a man who knew he had a child on ... [snip!] ... start thinking about whats best for you and baby. if you only have $50 for 2 weeks how are you going to support the new baby? "

I know right? I was thinking that things would have been different when he got out because he wouldn't be on any restrictions bc of the parole.. Guess I need to get a back bone and make things different. It just stresses me out like how can you put someone you "supposedly" love through so much stress and turmoil and be completely fine and okay with yourself? I don't get it.

mommy2thing1&thing2 Due November 11 (girl); 2 kids; Phoenix, Arizona 3064 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting *Ayden's Momma *:" I know right? I was thinking that things would have been different when he got out because he wouldn't ... [snip!] ... someone you "supposedly" love through so much stress and turmoil and be completely fine and okay with yourself? I don't get it."

my DH does shit i will never understand and my mom finally told me that guys see everything differently then women. but as long as you allow him to leech off of you he will. 7 months is more then long enough to find a job or atleast put a serious effort into it. you and your babies deserve so much better then that!

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49101 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting *Ayden's Momma *:" That's what I wanted to do was get out the 20 and keep my card, but I would have been late for work ... [snip!] ... for him! I mean what else should I do besides dragging him by the hair on his head to get an effin job! Grrr.. I'm soooo mad."


my cousin is a felon and can not get a job he knows how to work on a/c units but because of his charge he cant get a job. You are enabling him you need to stop enabling him or leave him if he need money today u should have made time to get it if he needed it another day he would have to wait till i got off work to get it.

user banned 1 child; :), :), United States 5380 posts
8th Jun '13

You are not his mother. He is not your responsibility.



He is going to be a father and yet he puts zero effort into finding a job and uses the money that you're working hard for. Honestly, I'm pissed off for you! You're going to have two kids soon along with a man child. I'd say that maybe he could end up being a stay at home dad, but that probably wouldn't work either because it sure looks like he has zero respect for you.