Reply
❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" Didn't you know that if you don't stay at home all the time, breastfeed until age 10, and make all your ... [snip!] ... yourself in jail, rapist. IGNORE THOSE PEOPLE. They're nearly always overcompensating for their own shitty chaotic lives. "


haha I do my best.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" Yep. Being kid free is a wondrous joy. Hell, even having just 2 of 3 away at Grandma Summer Camp I feel great. You know? I love 'em but mama's gotta do mama. "

I always say I love them but not that much.



:lol:

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Sly Saffy:" I'm looking forward to the day I drop Eva and Nora off at daycare, Lilli and Misa off at school, and ... [snip!] ... at school, and then celebrate by laughing and buying Starbucks as I drive around child-free. And then go to Music Theory. :x"


I'm so hesitant about leaving her with others. She's never stayed with anyone but my mom, which is how this all started. I asked on FB for some trustworthy daycares in our area. BIG MISTAKE!
But once I do find one I can not WAIT to have some mama time! or when we finally conceive it will be nice to have some just mommy baby time.

Rhia Leigh 33 kids; Massachusetts 1312 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" Didn't you know that if you don't stay at home all the time, breastfeed until age 10, and make all your ... [snip!] ... yourself in jail, rapist. IGNORE THOSE PEOPLE. They're nearly always overcompensating for their own shitty chaotic lives. "


:( I stay at home, extended breastfeed and trade working on a farm for organic veggies for my family.. and I'm definitely not overcompensating for anything, I just different values than some people. I also don't think there's anything wrong with people who do the total opposite. There are all different ways to parent, as long as you're taking care of your kids I don't see anything wrong with it.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Rhia Leigh:" :( I stay at home, extended breastfeed and trade working on a farm for organic veggies for my family.. ... [snip!] ... There are all different ways to parent, as long as you're taking care of your kids I don't see anything wrong with it."


nearly always, does not mean all. The fact the felt the need to try and defend yourself, leads to me to believe the latter is true.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
8th Jun '13

I could never put my kids in daycare but you gotta do what you gotta do and your doing the right thing by looking for a responsible daycare I don't see why anyone would knock you for it. Maybe it'd be better if u just locked yor kids in a closet all day by themselves? Some people don't think.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" I'm so hesitant about leaving her with others. She's never stayed with anyone but my mom, which is ... [snip!] ... find one I can not WAIT to have some mama time! or when we finally conceive it will be nice to have some just mommy baby time."

I lucked out on daycare hunting. Our school district runs the 4 year old kindergarten out of the area daycares so when it came time for me to need to use a daycare, I chose the one I had already seen operate even though I wasn't paying them at the time. The rates are reasonable and the teachers and director love those kids. It's a very welcoming atmosphere. The drawback is that they only start taking kids from 2.5 years and up.

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting I Stab People:" I could never put my kids in daycare but you gotta do what you gotta do and your doing the right thing ... [snip!] ... knock you for it. Maybe it'd be better if u just locked yor kids in a closet all day by themselves? Some people don't think."



she would prefer I quit my job. we could probably swing it but I LIKE working and I Like my job so why quit?

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" she would prefer I quit my job. we could probably swing it but I LIKE working and I Like my job so why quit?"


People don't generally understand this when it comes from a mother.

Rhia Leigh 33 kids; Massachusetts 1312 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" nearly always, does not mean all. The fact the felt the need to try and defend yourself, leads to me to believe the latter is true."


-_____- you made an incorrect generalization and I corrected you. It seems kindof hypocritical to talk about not judging one group of people while stereotyping another. But whatever, like I said I'm pro- doing what's best for your kids and your family, whatever that may be, and trying not to judge other moms for doing what works for them.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Rhia Leigh:" :( I stay at home, extended breastfeed and trade working on a farm for organic veggies for my family.. ... [snip!] ... There are all different ways to parent, as long as you're taking care of your kids I don't see anything wrong with it."


No, no---I mean people who do that and belittle others for doing things differently. I think it's great! I just don't get people who don't understand that having a chicken coop with fresh eggs everyday won't work for everyone, or who don't understand that breastfeeding isn't right for everyone, ya dig?

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Sly Saffy:" I lucked out on daycare hunting. Our school district runs the 4 year old kindergarten out of the area ... [snip!] ... love those kids. It's a very welcoming atmosphere. The drawback is that they only start taking kids from 2.5 years and up."


I had one in mind but they are booked with 2 yr olds currently and DD isn't 3 till sept. I won't even need it in Sept just July till August

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Rhia Leigh:" -_____- you made an incorrect generalization and I corrected you. It seems kindof hypocritical to talk ... [snip!] ... best for your kids and your family, whatever that may be, and trying not to judge other moms for doing what works for them. "


it wasn't me, that posted it :D

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Sly Saffy:" People don't generally understand this when it comes from a mother."


I know and that sucks Why can't I have a job AND be a good mom? that way of thinking is just silly to me. Some time I wish I were a full time SAHM but then I think about it and work is the one place I can interact without it being all about my kid. even on play dates all we talk about is the kids.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" I know and that sucks Why can't I have a job AND be a good mom? that way of thinking is just silly ... [snip!] ... and work is the one place I can interact without it being all about my kid. even on play dates all we talk about is the kids."

I feel like that's so important. I work freelance, just take on projects as they come at me, which means I stay at home and do kid stuff a lot, as my husband works mega, mega, mega hours at all times, sometimes out of town until a shoot is done. I pawn my kids of on grandma, school, activities, whatever. Sometimes they go to a grandma so I can *gasp* go get hammered downtown.



Meeting your own needs is important. If that's a steady job, a night out, whatever. You matter too, ya know?