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Would this upset you? Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; some little town, MT, United States 9496 posts
8th Jun '13

I was talking to my MIL yesterday and she asked if my FIL had called lately *they got a divorce almost 3 years ago*. I told her yes and that DH had talked to him. She has been trying to keep them apart and every time they get one step forward in their relationship she comes in with new "information" to make DH mad at FIL.She's bitter, plain and simple. Well, she pulled that shit yesterday. Said that she had to talk to Hank about some stuff that FIL said after Jake passed away, which she had already told us five fucking times. It's not even a big deal. Anyway, I asked her to just leave it alone and that DH and FIL had to move forward and that I know she is hurting but she should just let things alone. I was completely nice about it. She just upsets DH every time. She told me I was right, we finished our convo and set a time to meet up for DH's b-day supper. A few hours before we were going to meet for supper she called and was really rude and said things came up and she wasn't going to make it. Ugh, she get's like this every time something doesn't go her way. Whatever, we went and had a good time regardless. Fast forward to today, DH called her this morning and she just called back, I answered and the minute she heard my voice she rudely said "Hank called" I said yeah and started to ask how she was and she repeated "Hank called" over and over and over until I gave him the phone. I was really upset, DH heard it and did NOTHING. His mom is always pulling shit like this and is so rude. I wish he would say something and stick up for me! He told me I'm being childish and I am in the wrong and to get over it. Ugh. The thing is, he does it with everyone. If anything bad is said about someone else he'll defend them, but not me. Shit, one time some guy even was rude to me in the bar and he didn't even pay attention. I said something to him about it and he said that he knew I could handle it.

.Jezebel. 1 child; Sumter, South Carolina 9527 posts
8th Jun '13

I hate that. My DH never backs me up or sticks up for me when it comes to his mama. But he expects me to when it comes to my mama. Especially when it comes to how DS is raised. It really makes me mad. I don't think you overreacted.

The Targaryen South Carolina 207 posts
8th Jun '13

I don't think you're over reacting at all. It happens to me too with my boyfriend. He'll stick up for other people but not for me. :/ Try telling your husband that it hurts your feelings when he does it and explain why. He might come around.

Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; some little town, MT, United States 9496 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Ashleyinlove:" I don't think you're over reacting at all. It happens to me too with my boyfriend. He'll stick up for ... [snip!] ... but not for me. :/ Try telling your husband that it hurts your feelings when he does it and explain why. He might come around."


Fuck, I wish. He doesn't listen.

The Targaryen South Carolina 207 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting Jacob'sKeeper:" Fuck, I wish. He doesn't listen."


That's how my SO is.. If you feel its a serious issue and could mess up the relationship I would try counseling. Sometimes it helps sometimes not.