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I hate this. BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
8th Jun '13

I'm so over my relationship. We don't talk ever unless its to see where the other one is. At home we don't talk unless its me telling him to stop yelling all the f**king time. We don't have sex anymore. We try dates and sit there in silence. It's so over. But if I bring up our relationship s*****g and how I just feel like it isn't gonna work, he says I must have some guys on the side or something. We have been together long enough to almost be "common law marriage" if they still had it. Everything sucks. No kissing or huge or cuddles. We are just nothing. We were watching a movie earlier and these girls who were topless were on and I can see his raging b***r. I just feel like shit. I'm not acknowledged at all unless I f**k up. We try to have fun family days out, but everything is so stressful. I feel old it's such an obvious tension between us.



Part of me wishes he would just cheat on me so this can be over.. He says he will never break up with me and if we split its all on me. But I want to be happy. I want to feel wanted and pretty and feel like someone really cares.... Ugh I just feel stuck.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75068 posts
status 8th Jun '13

Are you guys interested in counseling? If not then I think you should just leave. Sounds like he just doesn't want to be the bad guy and wants to be able to put the blame on you if you guys break up. Giving up being happy to not be the bad guy isn't worth it.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
8th Jun '13

Step 1: Counseling.

P&T'sMom Due December 26 (boy); 2 kids; Washington 4541 posts
8th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ¿ ¼ ¿:</b>" Are you guys interested in counseling? If not then I think you should just leave. Sounds like he just ... [snip!] ... and wants to be able to put the blame on you if you guys break up. Giving up being happy to not be the bad guy isn't worth it."</blockquote>




Exactly!

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
8th Jun '13

Counseling isnt an option. No extra money for it. No one to watch all our kids. And schedules. His job and mine just gives us no time.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting BG Secrets:" Counseling isnt an option. No extra money for it. No one to watch all our kids. And schedules. His job and mine just gives us no time."


http://thelovedarebook.com/

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5437 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting BG Secrets:" Counseling isnt an option. No extra money for it. No one to watch all our kids. And schedules. His job and mine just gives us no time."


Call around. Many places will do free couples counseling.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75068 posts
status 8th Jun '13
Quoting Allissa Specht:" Call around. Many places will do free couples counseling."

:!:



Do you have health insurance? Your insurance may allow you a certain amount of sessions per year completely covered.

Bun in the oven❤ Due February 15 (boy); NA, NA, United States 5594 posts
8th Jun '13
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user banned (girl); TTC since May 2008; Pounding Mill, VA, United States 3612 posts
8th Jun '13
Quoting BG Secrets:" I'm so over my relationship. We don't talk ever unless its to see where the other one is. At home we ... [snip!] ... on me. But I want to be happy. I want to feel wanted and pretty and feel like someone really cares.... Ugh I just feel stuck."


Leave his ass.

Tiffany Knickerbocker 19 kids; Indiana 519 posts
8th Jun '13

If your not happy and feel like you don't want to try then its time to move on. Also if he is not giving you what you need and you decide to leave, then its on him as well. My first husband was awful to me. He yelled at me over everything and I never did anything right. My current husband is so great and my kids are happier then if I would of stayed with their dad.

MaMa PaTiEnCe Due November 30; 97 kids; Port Hueneme, California 2410 posts
8th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" http://thelovedarebook.com/"</blockquote>




So, so hard! But worth it for sure.
Good book suggestion!
OP I'm sure you could find this book online for cheap or even free..

user banned 3 kids; Portland, Michigan 15675 posts
8th Jun '13

I'm sorry you're going thru this. Sounds like my marriage was that's why I decided to leave a few days ago. If you don't think there's no fixing it, leave. I stuck around for five years and nothing changed.