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1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
9th Jun '13

I never got told anything negative about being pregnant at 18. Of course I was out of school and had a considerably large savings account, new car, and dd's dad had enough money to buy a house (which he did). Not that our relationship work to much strain with a kid.I think that was because everyone knew I was less than thrilled already. And that I was well aware what I was getting into. Plus my mom was super supportive and went with me to most of my appointment (it was her first gradchild). I think a larger number of people assured me I would love her once she got her and it would be worth it. I did love her once I felt her move but it was still hard. But they also knew I was responsible and determined enough to be a parent. It was just about having the right mind set. The entire time I was pregnant everyone just kept telling me how proud the were of me because of how prepared and responsible I was being especially since most of them knew I originally didn't want to have her.

Haysensmommytobe Japan 62 posts
9th Jun '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" I was 19 when I had my son and people said the same things to me. Being a mother is hard and expensive, ... [snip!] ... is a full time responsibility, so you have to make sure you are ready and can care and provide for your child. Good luck."


I am in college, live with my fiance and have a job at my school...



Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
9th Jun '13

Because teenagers don't have very much life experience and look at the world through rose colored glasses. And they rarely make the best decision for their future children... they're too concerned with themselves and how the baby will make them feel.

Haysensmommytobe Japan 62 posts
9th Jun '13
Quoting 12.21.07♥04.16.13:" Because teenagers don't have very much life experience and look at the world through rose colored glasses. ... [snip!] ... make the best decision for their future children... they're too concerned with themselves and how the baby will make them feel."


that is a stereotype... sure in some cases it may be true but lots of adults are like that too, some teenaged moms are wonderful moms



assumptions just make fools of people

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 120319 posts
status 9th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Haysensmommytobe:</b>" that is a stereotype... sure in some cases it may be true but lots of adults are like that too, some teenaged moms are wonderful moms assumptions just make fools of people"</blockquote>




You think stereotypes come out of thin air?

Haysensmommytobe Japan 62 posts
9th Jun '13
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Haysensmommytobe:</b>" that is a stereotype... sure in some ... [snip!] ... are wonderful moms assumptions just make fools of people"</blockquote> You think stereotypes come out of thin air?"


ummm lol stereotypes are stupid have you ever heard of racial stereotypes? they have no basis of fact



again lots of adult parents are HORRIBLE parents ... stereotypes in one ear out the other

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 120319 posts
status 9th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Haysensmommytobe:</b>" ummm lol stereotypes are stupid have you ever heard of racial stereotypes? they have no basis of fact again lots of adult parents are HORRIBLE parents ... stereotypes in one ear out the other"</blockquote>



You've researched this?

Aussielover 1 child; Nunya, ga, United States 822 posts
9th Jun '13
Quoting Haysensmommytobe:" that is a stereotype... sure in some cases it may be true but lots of adults are like that too, some teenaged moms are wonderful moms assumptions just make fools of people"


I agree stereotypes suck, but they are from teens that are really like that. Not to be a b***h or anything, but some teen moms are so freaking stupid. Some are awesome though. We have all heard of the girls that get pregnant at 16, drop out of school, quit their jobs, and then after the baby is born go back to partying at get pregnant again.

BubbleLush Due August 20; 1 child; United Kingdom 512 posts
9th Jun '13

Stereotypes are stupid you do not judge people based on age,race,nationality so on and so forth sad that this needs to be said!




OP you seem to have a good head on your shoulders keep it up hun.

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3809 posts
9th Jun '13

We are not trying to be mean. We are giving you our experiences. Sometimes I wish I didn't have my son so young. I didn't know the first thing about raising a child. I was in college, working, and had a fianc

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
9th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Haysensmommytobe:</b>" that is a stereotype... sure in some cases it may be true but lots of adults are like that too, some teenaged moms are wonderful moms assumptions just make fools of people"</blockquote>




No. Every teen mom. It they were putting the baby above
before themselves they wouldn't BE teen moms.

Haysensmommytobe Japan 62 posts
9th Jun '13
Quoting 12.21.07♥04.16.13:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Haysensmommytobe:</b>" that is a stereotype... sure in some ... [snip!] ... No. Every teen mom. It they were putting the baby above before themselves they wouldn't BE teen moms."


lol.. umm okay

Haysensmommytobe Japan 62 posts
9th Jun '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" We are not trying to be mean. We are giving you our experiences. Sometimes I wish I didn't have my son ... [snip!] ... college, a job, and a baby? Like I said before, it can be done. We just want you to know what you are getting yourself in to."


thanks but we wont be paying for daycare luckily my family owns one and family does not have to pay, lucky in that sense we do okay not great but okay



we will try our best I am lucky to have a great guy in my life who has been there for a long time through some crazy stuff



BubbleLush Due August 20; 1 child; United Kingdom 512 posts
9th Jun '13
Quoting 12.21.07♥04.16.13:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Haysensmommytobe:</b>" that is a stereotype... sure in some ... [snip!] ... No. Every teen mom. It they were putting the baby above before themselves they wouldn't BE teen moms."


There are stereotypes for women like you aswell, you have more than one childs father and one did not even believe he was the father, I remember you.



Lots of people would say something about women in your position does not make it anywhere near true.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
9th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BubbleLush:</b>" There are stereotypes for women like you aswell, you have more than one childs father and one did not ... [snip!] ... father, I remember you. Lots of people would say something about women in your position does not make it anywhere near true."</blockquote>




I've never doubted the paternity of either of my children. The father of my second said he didn't because he was a scared little b***h but ended up signing an affidavit of paternity without the results of a genetic test, soooo....