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Should I be concerned? *Post about friendship* EstherMonster 2 kids; Arizona 372 posts
10th Jun '13

I have a question. If you had a friend who you've been friends with for almost 8 years, had an overall good relationship with, & valued many memories together, would you be a bit upset if she hadn't invited you to her LO's birthday party?



I found out today that one of my close friend's or so I thought had a birthday party for her little girl. I wouldn't be so upset if it was for the fact that I was in Massachusetts for almost four years and returned to my home state of Arizona only to feel like the friendship I had with some former friend's has diminished. It's not even really that but, four months ago I had Aika's (my DD) birthday party and invited her & her little girl to a little easter/spring fling that I had hosted. We all had fun, laughed, kids loved it. We didn't talk as much as we used to during the weeks & stuff but I figured it was just due to the fact that we were both going to school, taking care of our LO's, dealing with our partners, and me working two jobs on top of all that.



I found it weird that last week I received a friend request from her on my FB page when I thought this whole time she was on my friend's list. Before I could approve the friend request when coming home from work, she cancelled it. I had nothing to approve. This last weekend was her little girl's birthday. I didn't get a message, a text, phone call, or anything. I found out by a post of another friend of mine who's friends with her too. It puzzles me because we didn't get in a fight or argument or anything. It's like she woke up one day & decided not to want to be my friend & it honestly kind of hurts. Maybe my brain is overthinking it, maybe I'm just being a negative nancy, but if this happened to you what would you think? Keep in mind I've been friend's with this chick since middle school & considered her one of my close friend's.

Vic12345 TTC since May 2013; Las Vegas, Nevada 147 posts
10th Jun '13

When I moved to las Vegas it seemed like my close friends got sooooo butthurt over it. Obviously friendships diminish with distance but shit it's like they expect you to keep the friendship together because you're the one who "left" When I go back home for visits they expect me to come to them. Always! To make time for them. Go to THEIR house. (I still had an apartment in Oregon) and if I was too busy it was like hell washed over. I was the worst person for not seeing them. Wtf. I was busy. Why couldn't you come to me?
To me. Sounds like she's butthurt. But I'm probably familiarizing it with my own situation too much. Why would she delete you? Then request you and cancel it?! She's for sure upset about something. I'd ask her why she's being weird.

EstherMonster 2 kids; Arizona 372 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting Vic12345:" When I moved to las Vegas it seemed like my close friends got sooooo butthurt over it. Obviously friendships ... [snip!] ... would she delete you? Then request you and cancel it?! She's for sure upset about something. I'd ask her why she's being weird."

Thing is, when I came to visit, I'd always make plans with her and our other mutual friends. I never cared about who made plans with who. April was the last time I saw her when I hosted the spring fling. Everything was cool. Don't know what the hell happened. Punch to the gut, ouch.

Vic12345 TTC since May 2013; Las Vegas, Nevada 147 posts
10th Jun '13

Ya you should just ask her but be careful how you ask so she doesn't get even more mad from what's already bothering her. Maybe a mutual friend said you said something mean about her and she thinks it's true.