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4th grade sex ed Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
10th Jun '13

Ok, back-story: My younger brothers are 15 and 10. Last night we went over there for dinner and somehow we got on the topic of safe sex (I honestly don't know how lol) So I asked the 15 year old if he had sex ed yet, and he said yes. I asked him if he was taught about safe sex and again he said yes, so I asked him what it meant and he said 'the only safe sex is no sex.' My response was 'so you were taught abstinence not safe sex?' He said they mentioned birth control but it was basically about abstinence. Alright, well IMO that's not teaching about safe sex so I told the 10 year old to go play in the other room because I didn't think he knew about sex, it's not my job to teach him about sex (I know it's not my job to teach the older one safe sex but there's a lot going on in my family right now and my mom and stepdad are not doing it so I want to make sure he at least knows). The 10 year old said he's already had sex ed in class. I was shocked! I was like really? He told me yes, he learned about how boys have sperm, and girls have eggs and good touch/bad touch and what rape is and that he knows how babies are made. So I wanted to know what he really knew before I talked to the older one in front of him, so I asked him to tell me how babies are made without being to g*****c. His exact words:
"When a man stands close to a woman, the sperm meets with the egg.." I started laughing and told him to stop, I had my answer lol I feel bad for laughing but I couldn't help it.



To the point of the D&D. I think it's great that they are teaching good touch/bad touch and stuff and explaining how boys and girls are different but I feel 1. that 10 is just really young to learn how babies are made but 2. If you are going to teach them, shouldn't it at least be correct? Again, I think it's way to young to begin with, but there has to be some kind of balance with teaching them age appropriate things correctly so these kids don't think someone gets pregnant from standing next to another person. What do you think? Is 10 a good age to do things and do you think the school is teaching them in a proper way??

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
10th Jun '13

Our school started sex ed in 6th grade. Girls and boys were separated it was more about our periods and bodies and such. I dont remember to much other than a teach holding up a tampon and some guy walking into class then running out. I was having sex by the 8th grade so I think 4-5th is fine to start the basics of things.

Kylees Mama 1 child; Faribault, Minnesota 4193 posts
10th Jun '13

I'm sure he was told more then what he told you, but was embarrassed to say. I was about that age when I started learning about that stuff that is the time our bodies start to change and our hormones make everything weird. I. Glad I learned about it at that age, cause by the to,e I was 11 I had my period, and I understood what had happened.

JΔ$ Georgia 78650 posts
10th Jun '13

10 isn't too young. Do you know how young kids are starting hear days? If they can comprehend it, they need to be taught about it. I started having sexual feelings around that age.

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
10th Jun '13

10 is not too young to know how babies are made, at all IMO. It's just nature, it's not some secret.



I don't agree with abstinence only sex-ed. The only absolute 100% way to prevent pregnancy and std's is abstinence, of course we were taught that part, and it is emphasized because it is true, but we were also taught about condoms and birth control pills.



I went to a CATHOLIC SCHOOL and we still had sex-ed when I was 10.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting Kylees Mama:" I'm sure he was told more then what he told you, but was embarrassed to say. I was about that age when ... [snip!] ... weird. I. Glad I learned about it at that age, cause by the to,e I was 11 I had my period, and I understood what had happened."

That's what my husband said (he was in the other room so I told him about it after) but we have always been a very open family and talk about the weirdest things so I don't think he would have been. It's possible, it just doesn't seem likely since it was just the 3 of us and we've always been very open with each other.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 47141 posts
10th Jun '13

I think age appropriate sex education should be taught at home first.



My daughter learned about good touch/bad touch and the "bathing suit" rules at age 2, and as she got older she more more and more information as it was appropriate.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
10th Jun '13

I guess I'm naive to the age kids are starting these days. I didn't think about having sex or have any interest in it until I was 15. 10 just seems really young to me :(

tonys_mama(army wife) Due August 2; 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15559 posts
10th Jun '13

I had sex ed in 5th grade. I dont think its to early. Thats sbout the age girls get periods. They need to know about these things. Kids are having sex really young now days.

C♥B♥T 3 kids; Louisiana 23939 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting Chim Richalds:" 10 is not too young to know how babies are made, at all IMO. It's just nature, it's not some secret. ... [snip!] ... we were also taught about condoms and birth control pills. I went to a CATHOLIC SCHOOL and we still had sex-ed when I was 10."


Same here! We had it in 5th grade.



And there couldve been a chance he wasnt paying close attention? I know I didnt pay much attention and for a while thought that when you had your period you bled from your breasts :oops: lol

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting Chim Richalds:" 10 is not too young to know how babies are made, at all IMO. It's just nature, it's not some secret. ... [snip!] ... we were also taught about condoms and birth control pills. I went to a CATHOLIC SCHOOL and we still had sex-ed when I was 10."

Yeah I don't agree with the abstinence only sex-ed either, which is why I want to talk to my brother because I don't want to be an aunt yet lol

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting Cae♥BaBae[+Blake]:" Same here! We had it in 5th grade. And there couldve been a chance he wasnt paying close attention? ... [snip!] ... I know I didnt pay much attention and for a while thought that when you had your period you bled from your breasts :oops: lol"

Yeah that's possible lol

Cakes. 1 child; Michigan 2835 posts
10th Jun '13

I learned about sex when I was 8, not from sex ed but from my mom. I stumbled onto some p**n my brother had and I asked my mom about it and she had the talk with me. I was in 6th grade when they taught us sex ed in school, so around 11. I think it makes sense because that's when most kids go through puberty and their bodies start to change. It's important that they know what it all means and that any sexual feelings are totally normal.

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
10th Jun '13

Why are you shocked? Some girls start puberty that early.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:" Why are you shocked? Some girls start puberty that early."

Because it seems very young to me. When I was in school, they didn't teach us anything about going through puberty, my mom did that.