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Mandy Evans 2 kids; Ohio 1444 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting Kimber-lily:" It was just a question? Not sure why people are getting up in arms about it. People are way to sensitive, geesh."


its not helpful. and yeah, im pretty sensitive about it. im asking for ADVICE ABOUT A SURGERY that people die from....that's how serious my problem is, that im considering something that may kill me. so yeah, a little sensitive. but your not being helpful, or supportive, so there is really no need to comment..

Kimber-lily Due September 27; 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting Mandy Evans:" its not helpful. and yeah, im pretty sensitive about it. im asking for ADVICE ABOUT A SURGERY that people ... [snip!] ... may kill me. so yeah, a little sensitive. but your not being helpful, or supportive, so there is really no need to comment.."


I wasn't being unsupportive, or unhelpful. I asked a question. Me being in the thread is pretty neutral.

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting Kimber-lily:" It was just a question? Not sure why people are getting up in arms about it. People are way to sensitive, geesh."


Did you honestly not realize how it came across the way you asked? If dieting and exercise worked, then OP wouldn't be considering gastric surgery, nor would anyone else. I have honestly never had a weight problem, but I know how callous and insensitive it is to assume that diet and exercise will work for everyone, because I have watched everyone in my family struggle with it. My sister is currently morbidly obese. I have watched her try diet after diet, do what exercises she can, but it's not enough. People ARE sensitive, yes, and with good reason, honestly. They've been judged their entire lives, and most people assume they are lazy or just don't care, when that's not the case.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
10th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I wasn't being unsupportive, or unhelpful. I asked a question. Me being in the thread is pretty neutral. "</blockquote>




It's a sensitive topic. Anyone who is considering surgery has heard the why not diet exercise comment a thousand times. It gets tiring and its hurtful and if you haven't been j. This situation it's understandable why oh wouldn't see that. When someone says why not diet and exercise the first thing that comes to mind if duh if that worked I would of done it. IMO it's like asking someone having ivf if they tried having sex. Of course they did it didn't work they are at their last resort

Mandy Evans 2 kids; Ohio 1444 posts
10th Jun '13

thank you everyone! I appricicate the support, and understanding. it means a lot to me, that there are ppl, that understand, and the lady that doesn't have weight problems, but sympathizes, thank you!! it is nice to know there are empathetic people out there!!

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
10th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mandy Evans:</b>" thank you everyone! I appricicate the support, and understanding. it means a lot to me, that there are ... [snip!] ... that doesn't have weight problems, but sympathizes, thank you!! it is nice to know there are empathetic people out there!! "</blockquote>




There are tons. You have to remember to the outsider surgery seems like an easy fix. They don't know all the work that goes into and the lifestyle you have to maintain after or you risk your life. It's a lack of education for most people. Hell until I researched it I thought it was an easy way out.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
10th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mandy Evans:</b>" thank you everyone! I appricicate the support, and understanding. it means a lot to me, that there are ... [snip!] ... that doesn't have weight problems, but sympathizes, thank you!! it is nice to know there are empathetic people out there!! "</blockquote>




There are tons. You have to remember to the outsider surgery seems like an easy fix. They don't know all the work that goes into and the lifestyle you have to maintain after or you risk your life. It's a lack of education for most people. Hell until I researched it I thought it was an easy way out.

Mandy Evans 2 kids; Ohio 1444 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mandy Evans:</b>" thank you everyone! I appricicate the support, ... [snip!] ... or you risk your life. It's a lack of education for most people. Hell until I researched it I thought it was an easy way out."

yes, true! i wish there was an easy way out. this could just level the playing field for me. lol. i just have to decide what is scarier...the surgery, and risk...or continuing to be a prisoner in my own body.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
10th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mandy Evans:</b>" yes, true! i wish there was an easy way out. this could just level the playing field for me. lol. i just ... [snip!] ... for me. lol. i just have to decide what is scarier...the surgery, and risk...or continuing to be a prisoner in my own body. "</blockquote>




It took me 4 years to make the choice. My defining moment was having to tell my kids mommy can't play anymore after 5 minutes of running. Feel free to PT me or pm for anything and best of luck on your journey whatever you decide.