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G ♥ Love Due January 23 (girl); 16 kids; Florida 144 posts
10th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LumpySpacePrincess:</b>" I had a father, thought he was my real dad for the first 11 years of my life. ANd he was worse than ... [snip!] ... there when we've run to her crying because he's screwed up again. And she's always the first to rip him a new one each time."</blockquote>



Thanks for sharing! :)
He keeps saying he doesnt want ANOTHER kid and "its too much" right now. I just refuse to be treated like garbage until he comes around.

G ♥ Love Due January 23 (girl); 16 kids; Florida 144 posts
10th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mαkαnαni:</b>" He may not want the baby now, but after it's born he may develop a connection with it. Don't cut him off completely."</blockquote>




Ive thought of that... But i dont want to hear everyday all the negativity and how much he doesnt want it and be treated badly. I still talk to his mom but him i think i shouldnt be around until he changes the way he is towards me.

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting G ♥ Love:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommaNoodle:</b>" Everything will be okay. You can do this. ... [snip!] ... going to be hard, but don't let that stop you from trying your best. Good luck to you!"</blockquote> Thank you <3"


I'm still trying to find the strength myself. Lol. I know it will come one day soon, but I'm just having a really hard time accepting that he's really never going to be what I want and need in my life for me and for my kid(s). I know that I'll be okay too, and I know I can do it when I decide to. but I also know it's going to be super hard. And that's the part that's keeping me stuck for now, and I take full responsibility for it all.



But I do honestly wish you the best!

ɑutumnɑℓ 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65762 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting G ♥ Love:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mαkαnαni:</b>" He may not want the baby now, ... [snip!] ... and be treated badly. I still talk to his mom but him i think i shouldnt be around until he changes the way he is towards me."


That doesn't mean he'd be a bad father. He shouldn't be kept from it just because you don't like the way he is, what he says, or does. If he's not abusive or dangerous, he has a right to his child.

G ♥ Love Due January 23 (girl); 16 kids; Florida 144 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" That doesn't mean he'd be a bad father. He shouldn't be kept from it just because you don't like the way he is, what he says, or does. If he's not abusive or dangerous, he has a right to his child."


im not saying im keeping him from the child but I KNOW i will be doing it alone.. he has kids now and i felt like ive helped him improve as a father as far as spending time with the kids, caring for them, etc. but when im not around he makes no effort to be involved as a parent... he definetly has a right to his child and i wouldnt stop that but i have a strong feeling he wont want to be there.

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
10th Jun '13

Who knows. Maybe he'll be a good dad. It's perfectly acceptable these days to co-parent without being together. Just because you two couldn't work out as a couple, doesn't mean you won't work out as friends (or at least two people who put up with each other and act civilly). Anywho, just remind yourself that your child wouldn't be who he/she is without his genetics, so if all else fails, at least he gave you that. My oldest's bio is a major POS, but I wouldn't change who her bio-dad is because then she wouldn't be...well, HER. LOL.

G ♥ Love Due January 23 (girl); 16 kids; Florida 144 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:" Who knows. Maybe he'll be a good dad. It's perfectly acceptable these days to co-parent without being ... [snip!] ... that. My oldest's bio is a major POS, but I wouldn't change who her bio-dad is because then she wouldn't be...well, HER. LOL."


Id be perfectly fine with Co parenting... me and him have nothing to do with my baby... but it seems as if hes done and just is going to forget that im pregnant and that the child exists... of course this will not last considering im very close with his family. i just dont want my child to be treated badly because he didnt want it like he says..hes not very active in the kids lives that he has right now. i felt like i was helping him be a better father and when i was around and wanted the kids around then he would want them around... ugh so much confusion and bullshit.

Kawanna Wheeler 1 child; Normal, Illinois 4 posts
10th Jun '13

i hate that you always find out the the man your with is a a*****e too late lol but cheer up you have something else thats going to make you EVEN HAPPIER!

ɑutumnɑℓ 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65762 posts
10th Jun '13
Quoting Kawanna Wheeler:" i hate that you always find out the the man your with is a a*****e too late lol but cheer up you have something else thats going to make you EVEN HAPPIER!"


She said she was aware of it before she got pregnant.

G ♥ Love Due January 23 (girl); 16 kids; Florida 144 posts
10th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kawanna Wheeler:</b>" i hate that you always find out the the man your with is a a*****e too late lol but cheer up you have something else thats going to make you EVEN HAPPIER!"</blockquote>




Rightttt! Lol always.. But yes i will be happier when my baby comes :)