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Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15002 posts
11th Jun '13

I was raised to say it and still do. I didn't expect my students to say it but I always did with them.

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18600 posts
11th Jun '13

I say it, and my kids say it. They are not punished if they dont say it, but I will remind them of their manners if they forget.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13909 posts
11th Jun '13
Quoting loser mom:" I grew up in the midwest. I say ma'am and sir to everyone in a professional setting, even to people that ... [snip!] ... I get a lot of, "Don't call me sir!" from older gentlemen (in a joking, but serious manner). I guess it makes 'em feel old."


DD's family in NY flipped out the first time I said it to them.
"I'm not no ma'am!!" :? I seriously had no idea people could be offended by genuine manners. :lol:

user banned Nassau, BA, Bahamas 5125 posts
11th Jun '13

Hell no. And being the awful kid that I was, I laughed in my mom's face when she tried to imply this. Save it for boot camp. My kids DO say yes mommy, no mommy, but that is by their choice.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
11th Jun '13

Born and raised in MI, and I wasn't raised to say it but I use to say it when I worked in customer service until a majority of the customers were upset so I stopped lol We will try to teach our kids but it's not a big deal if they don't.



My dad lives in Texas and one thing I loved when I went to visit is the kids would call me Ms. Carol when talking to me and I thought it was the cutest thing so I want to teach our kids that :)

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13909 posts
11th Jun '13
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" Born and raised in MI, and I wasn't raised to say it but I use to say it when I worked in customer service ... [snip!] ... the kids would call me Ms. Carol when talking to me and I thought it was the cutest thing so I want to teach our kids that :) "


Ya, my kids say Ms and Mr as well. DH is from MI and he's never done that haha

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
11th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vivian [♥]:</b>" Ya, my kids say Ms and Mr as well. DH is from MI and he's never done that haha"</blockquote>




Yeah people were really upset when I would say it to them and I dont understand why lol

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4126 posts
11th Jun '13

I'm from California, and I was never raised to say it. I didn't start saying it until after I moved to Texas and started working. People would give me dirty looks for not saying "ma'am" or "sir". :roll: I say it at work and occasionally elsewhere. DH's family is from Texas, and he was raised to say it. We aren't teaching DD to say it regularly, but MIL is. It doesn't bother me either way.

linsα most, CZ, Czech Republic 30063 posts
status 11th Jun '13

I've lived in Alabama for four years and it has become a habit. I've caught on from the locals at work, play groups, etc. My husband expects it from the kids because of the military and being military brat.

M walls 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7267 posts
12th Jun '13

I'm from Denver & we never said it. It surprised me when we moved out to the country & had all the cowboys & farmers calling me ma'am or ms

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11927 posts
12th Jun '13
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vivian [♥]:</b>" Ya, my kids say Ms and Mr as well. ... [snip!] ... done that haha"</blockquote> Yeah people were really upset when I would say it to them and I dont understand why lol"

I'm from Michigan too, it's kind of a sign that a person is getting old to be called "sir" or "ma'am." I never used those words because of that.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
12th Jun '13
Quoting Clk:" I'm from Michigan too, it's kind of a sign that a person is getting old to be called "sir" or "ma'am." I never used those words because of that."

That could be. I just never came across someone that was offended until I started working lol

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13909 posts
12th Jun '13
Quoting Clk:" I'm from Michigan too, it's kind of a sign that a person is getting old to be called "sir" or "ma'am." I never used those words because of that."


ya, that's what BD's family says.
I say it to anyone regardless of age. I tell my daughter "No ma'am" all the time and never thought twice about it. Good thing I live in the south and it's okay to say down here haha

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31305 posts
status 12th Jun '13
Quoting Vivian [♥]:" ya, that's what BD's family says. I say it to anyone regardless of age. I tell my daughter "No ma'am" ... [snip!] ... "No ma'am" all the time and never thought twice about it. Good thing I live in the south and it's okay to say down here haha"

Ditto!

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
12th Jun '13

I use it when speaking in a formal setting to someone. Usually in a "excuse me Sir," way when I don't know their name and need their attention.



Kids do not use it around here that I've ever seen. However, we have family from Kentucky, and when my brother and sisters friends come to visit I am always shocked. They use "sir" and "ma'am" and call my parents "Mr. Sanders" and "Mrs. Sanders" despite the fact that they've spent TONS of time over at their house. It's very odd to me.



I've never called adults other than teachers (or professionals, like Dr's) by last names. EVER. Friends parents were their first names, or if we were really chummy they became another Mom and Dad, lol.