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Cat calling Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
11th Jun '13

So I was walking across the street at Wal-Mart and a guy in a car yelled "damn that is a lot of ass for a white girl". I am aware I have always had a big (and sticks out and is a "bubble butt" as my best friend likes to say) butt. I was a little offended and a little complimented I still had a butt enough to comment on. LOL



Does cat calling just offend you, not bother you, compliment you, or a mix of them?

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
11th Jun '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" So I was walking across the street at Wal-Mart and a guy in a car yelled "damn that is a lot of ass for ... [snip!] ... still had a butt enough to comment on. LOL Does cat calling just offend you, not bother you, compliment you, or a mix of them?"


I find it offensive personally. As if I'm being reduced to an object. Few of these men who are cat calling have any interest in me or a desire to actually know me at all, which means, IMO most of the "cat calling" is really an attempt to SHOW that person they are worthless and nothing but a sexual object. Am I supposed to be flattered by that?



f**k no. I would NEVER date a man who cat called at me. I think it shows a complete lack of respect.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
11th Jun '13

It doesn't always offend me, but it definitely annoys me. I've gotten pretty good add avoiding all eye contact and acting like I don't hear or see the person though :P
It used to really piss DH off, he was like "I'm right here dude", they don't care haha.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
11th Jun '13

It's considered sexual harassment, and yes I am offended by it. I do not appreciate being spoken to like a wh**e.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
11th Jun '13

I'd consider it an honor lol. But I also don't have the body I used to lol.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
11th Jun '13

It depends on my mood and what is said. For instance, today I was out shopping, running errands and stuff and I guy stopped in his tracks and said, "DANG you pretty!" Which I thought was cute and sweet. I don't like it when it's more of a piece-of-meat type of comment, that infuriates me.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15536 posts
11th Jun '13

I hate it. I think its degrading and annoying. Like when a guy whistles at you im not a mother f**king dog don't whistle at me.

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 6122 posts
status 11th Jun '13

Depends on the situation. When I was in college and guys my age would do it and we were out at parties and it was done in a playful and not threatening manner, ie. they said something, smiled and kept walking the other direction I kind of took it as a compliment. edit- as long as what they said was not sexually harrasing but something like "hey beautiful" etc... anything else would be HIGHLY offensive to me like "nice tits or Id tap that" I went to a really small college so even if I had never met someone, if they went to the college (or if I assumed they did) I still felt they werent a total stranger kwim? But if now if I was somewhere random and that happened id be creeped out

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3472 posts
11th Jun '13

It's offensive. Who are they to me? Honestly, it makes them pathetic.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
11th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Severus Snape:</b>" I'd consider it an honor lol. But I also don't have the body I used to lol."</blockquote>



It offends me a bit depending, when I told my DH he said "if I got mad everytime I saw a guy check out your ass I would be mad quite a bit". LOL

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
11th Jun '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Severus Snape:</b>" I'd consider it an honor lol. But I also ... [snip!] ... depending, when I told my DH he said "if I got mad everytime I saw a guy check out your ass I would be mad quite a bit". LOL"


But "checking out your ass" is a lot different then yelling a comment that basically reduces you to a sexual object. IMO there is a difference. A guy wants to looka t me and thinks I'm hot? Fine. That's nature. When he decides he needs to make sure I'm aware that I am an object to him, that is where nature stops and a*****es begin, lol.

bloopbloop♥ 1 child; Illinois 13786 posts
11th Jun '13

That is rude and nasty.



If he thinks you're hot okay whatever but yelling it?



I HATE when people do that.....nasty ass men.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
11th Jun '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Severus Snape:</b>" I'd consider it an honor lol. But I also ... [snip!] ... depending, when I told my DH he said "if I got mad everytime I saw a guy check out your ass I would be mad quite a bit". LOL"


lol I could see how it would get annoying if it happened all the time. In college I was cute and thin and worked in retail and was hit on constantly. But alas now my body isn't what it was so anyone telling me that I look good is a compliment to me lol. As long as it's not threatening and they are standing far away from me then it's all good lol.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
11th Jun '13
Quoting Severus Snape:" lol I could see how it would get annoying if it happened all the time. In college I was cute and thin ... [snip!] ... good is a compliment to me lol. As long as it's not threatening and they are standing far away from me then it's all good lol. "


Again, hitting on someone is different. That's an attempt at building some sort of relationship. A cat call is not an attempt at a relationship. THAT is my issue. It's degrading a woman to nothign more than a "lot of ass for a white woman," or a "great set of tits" or whatever else. It usually makes women feel that that is all they are worth. It's not a nice compliment given like "you look nice today," or again, an attempt to build some repore. You are NOTHING to these men but ass and tits and they want you to know it.



That's my issue. It is different.

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 6122 posts
status 11th Jun '13
Quoting she nan igans:" Again, hitting on someone is different. That's an attempt at building some sort of relationship. A cat ... [snip!] ... some repore. You are NOTHING to these men but ass and tits and they want you to know it. That's my issue. It is different."

Thats a good distinction. Thats what I was kind of trying to describe too. In college, thats what guys at parties would do or walking to parties. I never really stopped to talk but the few times I did, they really were interested in going to the same frat party you were next, trying to get your number or something. So I guess getting hit on is a compliment to me but cat calling is not.